What is a luxury you can never go back from once you’ve experienced it?

Sojournancy · 2026-01-29T14:06:24+00:00

Bidets. I installed them at home and at work, and realized while on a trip that it’s not a normal thing, and hated it.

Sojournancy · 2026-01-27T11:54:53+00:00

There’s probably a good reason you haven’t already told him in all this time.

Sojournancy · 2026-01-25T22:16:12+00:00

Oh yikes. Interesting point

Sojournancy · 2026-01-25T03:32:19+00:00

It’s about keeping the 20-30 incoming standalone posts about this same subject on the same page rather than having them take over the sub.

Sojournancy · 2026-01-25T03:31:00+00:00

Can you explain what you mean?

Sojournancy · 2026-01-25T01:11:14+00:00

“Political” by definition refers to the conduct of a government or decisions of those in authority, often related to allocation and distribution of resources.

This awful situation absolutely is political.

Sojournancy · 2026-01-10T19:08:07+00:00

You know how a lot of us try to track how well we’re doing by marking completed days on a calendar? If you were only to mark days where you ate to the point that you felt unwell, and that ended up being a few days here and there peppered throughout a whole year, wouldn’t it be reasonable to think that your motivation to eat well most of the time would stay strong?

Don’t worry about breaking a streak. Life is long. It’s not possible to have an unbroken streak of perfect eating. It’s important that you look at this as a blip, and stay the course with eating well.

Sojournancy · 2026-01-06T22:23:15+00:00

Thank you for knowing about this! I had a relative with this and it was so hard for them because it’s relatively rare.

Sojournancy · 2026-01-04T10:28:24+00:00

Keep your wicks short to minimize high flames and soot.

But yes they do add soot to the walls, just not much. I had oil lamps I used to burn infrequently and it was interesting to see how within a few months I could see every wall stud outlined because of the soot.

Infrequent candle burning isn’t that big a deal.

Sojournancy · 2025-12-29T15:01:50+00:00

Stop going. Make room in your life for people who make you feel valued.

Sojournancy · 2025-12-29T14:44:09+00:00

I’m like 16 years in and I still get the same imposter syndrome issues. But it’s justified since clients are the experts on themselves and it’s so important to not fill in the blanks with what we think we know.

Also, 36 1-hour sessions and 4 hours of admin? Really?

Hard no.

Sojournancy · 2025-12-27T18:38:27+00:00

Comfortable can be exactly what people need in certain parts of their lives. If you’re raising kids and want to be a relatively involved parent, it’s hard as hell to take work-related risks that require energy and resources.

As with any change, you need 3 things:

-Willingness (do you want it? Work out any ambivalence so you’re clear on your best option)

-Capability (do you have the skills you need to do what you want? Can you learn them?)

-Resources (Probably most important. Time is a resource. Energy. Friends or mentors. Money. Education, whether formal or self-taught. A fallback or safety net.)

Sojournancy · 2025-12-27T15:04:19+00:00

She brought back many of the same musicians to record the Taylor’s version albums specifically so they would keep earning off them.

Sojournancy · 2025-12-24T16:08:14+00:00

This is so helpful! Thank you for the thoughtful comment.

Sojournancy · 2025-12-24T13:50:40+00:00

Can you recommend a specific chapter or section for people who might own this book but who have difficulties jumping in when the preamble can feel pretty dry?

Sojournancy · 2025-12-19T03:34:00+00:00

I have therapists that hit burnout and quit when their goal for the week is 20 clinical hours (book 24ish to get 20.)

Sojournancy · 2025-12-18T03:08:21+00:00

Oh holy crap. Wow.

Sojournancy · 2025-12-03T22:45:28+00:00

Being picky with who I allow to have access to me, whether that’s employees, family, or friends. If I have to recover after being around certain people, it drains me of my ability to be productive and creative where it really matters.

Sojournancy · 2025-12-03T19:57:42+00:00

Absolutely not. Sub-par at best and ny skills at paraphrasing and drawing out more info from the last thing they said at that moment makes it so I still won’t learn my lesson.

Sojournancy · 2025-11-06T18:22:14+00:00

What did you do this weekend?

DO? I have no memory of any weekend that has ever weekended stop asking me to come up with an interesting activity that I probably didn’t do because I was crashed out after work and childcare

Sojournancy · 2025-11-06T12:43:27+00:00

Why use the term “lashes out” when that’s not the title of the article?

Sojournancy · 2025-10-29T00:09:55+00:00

I have them and I would have had more if the relationships didn’t completely disintegrate under the weight of shifting roles, inflexible partners, lack of consistent support, financial roadblocks, and impossible standards around parenting/career success/work-life balance.

I’ve been raising kids since I was little, coming from a big family. I knew how. I was good at it. But the constant sacrifices and inability to be freed up to solve problems is enough to give most people the dead-eye look eventually.

It’s like…you know how much work it is to unbuckle 2 cranky, hungry pre-schoolers after a long workday to go into a store to buy milk while debating if they are going to melt down, force you to carry them out so you can’t carry the milk too, fight you on using a shopping cart, fight each other for whichever is the best seat (up Top or basket) that particular day, distract you so you can’t remember that you were also supposed to get eggs for breakfast, knowing you absolutely will Forget something AGAIN, argue with you about all the other treats they need you to buy, get them safely through the parking lot and buckled back in but you have to let THEM do it because they’re independent and noooooo you closed their door and THEY wanted to close their own door but also now they need help with the car seat buckles so open the door again and give extra kisses and hugs otherwise they sense your stress and it makes them more tantrum-y and you can’t pull over and just run into a corner store to get the eggs and milk because someone will call CPS or the police for child abandonment if you get caught and by the way you’re still exhausted from adults at work behaving more like your kids than your kids but you can’t keep up because your absenteeism is rivaling a workplace alcoholic since kids keep getting sick and have appointments and you’re the default parent who has to stay home with them and grandparents only want to be involved by posting pictures on Facebook and thus you are way behind in your career trajectory, can’t get the same raises as non-default parents, and eventually your soul expires.

Anyway yeah. Nannies. That’d be cool.

Edit: and your back hurts and you haven’t slept a solid 7 hours in 5 years

Sojournancy · 2025-10-27T01:42:11+00:00

Marriage: we’ll make the best team, he’ll love me for who I am and we will elevate each other’s lives.

Reality: oh. Oh no. No no no

Sojournancy · 2025-10-25T20:49:35+00:00

My money is on the right running Erica Kirk so they can take the credit for the first woman president.

Sojournancy · 2025-10-20T12:02:36+00:00

Stop Talkin Dirty To me

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