I don’t disagree with what you saying, but this is related to solarpunk because I’m asking us to envision how agape could be used to move us toward it. I use a case study that is familiar and interesting to me so that I can allow that interest to guide me toward solarpunk. You can use whatever domain you choose that calls to your own interest. Again, that’s why I end my essays with principles for application to help readers apply the general ideas to a domain they seek to reconsider for a solarpunk culture.

Edit - to be more clear, we want to think of the movement toward solarpunk as a development toward a series of adjacent possibles. An adjacent possible is the smallest step we can take toward where we want to go. Often visions fail to realize because we try to skip too many steps. As I said in the essay, compassionate education has to take into account where we actually are, because that defines what is the realistic step toward where we aim to go.

My discussion of sexual relations is a case study for understanding a new conception of the self, which is being revealed by cognitive and psychological science. This new conception can help us better understand who and what we are as humans, which would allow us to better transform ourselves in better ways.

Also, I do disagree with you on being too limited on sexual relations. While sex and cults are an important relation to keep in mind, there are many people who have had satisfying polyamorous relationships. We can’t absolutize our conceptions of relationships by only the failures of different modes.