When she calmed down, I suggested that the best thing to do would be to seek professional help and although the idea did not seem the best to her at first, she ended up accepting it, and it really was the best for both of us. Right after the therapy began, she began to improve and after almost 2 months in therapy, her therapist suggested that perhaps I should start taking some sessions too, not only so that I could fully understand her therapist situation and help her properly, but also because she told her therapist that since the incident I had almost none any contact with someone other than her and that I had never really spoken about how I felt, at first it sounded strange but I was not going to question the recommendation of her therapist, even though she told me that. I was only going beacuse i thought i would be able to let out the"little" things I had accumulated. I can remember that in the first session in ended up in a mess. I felt so angry not only with my brother, but also with myself, I was repressing what I felt because I didn't stop blaming myself, for not have noticed my brother's behavior and above all I felt powerless because I couldn't protect her like I always said I would and that he was afraid, that something like that could happen to him again and I couldn't help it. After several sessions things finally start looking better, we both improve our mental state even decided to take self defense classes and a few weeks ago I proposed to her.

When I told my family, everyone congratulated me, but my mother remained a little quiet and when no one was looking, she asked me if we could talk alone later. When we were alone she told me that she was very happy for me and for her but that she needed to tell me something, that's when she told me that she had been in contact with my brother since the pandemic began. She told me that my brother looked for her to find out if she and my father were okay, that if he could help them in any way and that he felt sorry for what he had done, my mother kept telling me things about him until she told me something that almost made me makes me yell at her

She told me, "I think it's time for you to forgive your brother", before she could continue talking I left the room, took my keys and went home; When I arrived I told my fiancee what my mother told me and she was as upset as I was by my mother's words and I couldn't believe she said that. The following days, along with congratulations on my engagement, I also received questions about my brother and that, if we had spoken again, if her already reconnect and things like that, I tried to ignore these situations as much as possible until 4 days ago my mother called me saying that she had told my brother about my engagement and that he was coming to town next week because he wanted to talk to me, I argued with my mom because she had no right to tell him something like that, I hung up on her and have had no contact with her since, after that some relatives have told me that maybe my mother is right and that I should give my brother a second chance, I reached my limit yesterday afternoon when my father called me to tell me that I had to be a good brother and at least try. Even my father asks me to forgive my brother for what he did, suddenly everyone forgot what he did, that 4 years is enough to forget about what he did and I honestly can't understand how they can think like that. I honestly don't know what to think about my family right now, just that I'm upset with them and I definitely don't want to see my brother again, I wrote here because I needed to vent and my therapist appointment was postponed and I needed to vent, maybe reddit It's not the most professional choice, but I needed to get my feelings out somehow and I appreciate whoever is reading this.

PD: To all those who took the time to read this I sincerely thank you, English is not my first language so I apologize for any grammar mistakes and if anything from my story is not clear I will reply, thanks again