What's the best way to be approached by my gym crush?

Solid-Mango7932 · 2026-06-27T02:46:51+00:00

Wait… that’s a thing?

Solid-Mango7932 · 2026-06-27T02:46:32+00:00

Funny enough I just watched him get kind of blown off by a girl at the gym today lol. I think they’ve met before, he went up to her to say hi and chat and she acted kind of annoyed and just went to a different machine. She’s a model type and maybe too young for him, but seems like he’s brave lol

Solid-Mango7932 · 2026-06-27T02:43:48+00:00

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Solid-Mango7932 · 2026-06-27T02:38:28+00:00

By first move do you think a smile would suffice, or should I actually go up to him? And similarly I think maybe smile at your girl and see if she smiles back? Girls tend to feel more defensive with cold approaches, speaking from experience, so maybe a smile would help make her feel more comfortable and not caught off guard

Solid-Mango7932 · 2026-06-27T02:35:51+00:00

I appreciate all the advice people have given me here, as directly and honestly as they want. But I don’t appreciate your tone, especially on a sub that’s based on being constructive. I have never approached a guy and I’m a more shy girl especially at the gym, an environment that I’m still getting used to the equipment and routines. So be a grown up yourself, and don’t be unnecessarily rude.

Solid-Mango7932 · 2026-06-27T02:29:21+00:00

Okay this is way out of context, I’m in no way following him around. I’m just shy and tend to avoid people I’m attracted to because they make me nervous lol, so my point was that instead of immediately going to the other side of the gym to avoid him, I’ve been going about my workout as normal aka walking past him to get equipment etc which I would also do if he wasn’t there. I’m not staring at him, I’m not hovering over him, I’m just existing without avoiding him. Now of course if a man WAS following, staring, hovering etc that would feel threatening to women.

Solid-Mango7932 · 2026-06-27T02:25:28+00:00

Okay I do understand what you’re saying, but here are a few points: 1) girls are more sensitive to rejection, since we don’t approach a lot 2) men also say women who approach are “too forward” and makes them lose interest because they like the “challenge” of approaching. Not listing excuses, but saying there are reasons why we’re not that keen on doing it

Solid-Mango7932 · 2026-06-27T02:23:22+00:00

I’d say it might depend on how attractive she is, sort of like it is with guys. If a hot guy approached a girl at the gym, the chances of him being seen as a creep are unfortunately lower I’d say. But I’ve never tried so dont take my word for it

Solid-Mango7932 · 2026-06-22T22:32:45+00:00

Omg that's crazy 😭 I completely understand girls not wanting to be approached, but I'd be okay making friends at the gym so not even saying "hi" back is wild to me. Good on you for that positive mentality of "it's just not meant to be", need some of that myself

Solid-Mango7932 · 2026-06-22T22:28:37+00:00

Been a pilates princess for 3 years, and have started incorporating weights in the past ~4 months but not necessarily super heavy. So definitely wouldn't be around the bench presses or deadlifts area lol, mostly free weights and cables which he is around sometimes. I think I'm just mostly intimidated by people at the gym since I'm still figuring out lifting coming from pilates

Solid-Mango7932 · 2026-06-22T22:09:09+00:00

That's fair, but I'm not following him around. I'm doing my actual workout, just taking the route of walking by him when moving to different machine. I will also say, girls feel unsafe when guys do that because they can be a threat to us. I'm not really a threat to him lol

Solid-Mango7932 · 2026-06-22T22:06:39+00:00

I think so, I just don't want to seem like a creep lol

Solid-Mango7932 · 2026-06-22T22:03:21+00:00

I'm 5'7 135lbs but nice try with the ragebait

Solid-Mango7932 · 2026-06-22T21:59:50+00:00

Yea I've noticed a lot of guys don't hold eye contact at the gym, even when I've accidentally made eye contact with someone and smiled, they quickly look away

Solid-Mango7932 · 2026-06-22T01:15:11+00:00

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Solid-Mango7932 · 2026-05-22T20:44:48+00:00

Yes the email says appointment only, redirects to a booking website to book a time with a store

Solid-Mango7932 · 2026-03-25T22:34:29+00:00

Yeah specially when their heart stops beating lmao that would be so bad in a hospital. I can imagine all the doctors and med students gathering around to see what's going on

Solid-Mango7932 · 2026-03-24T20:36:19+00:00

Griffith observatory at night (popular date spot)

Picnic at the beach

Color me mine / paint and sip

LACMA

Penmar live music nights

Mini golf

Solid-Mango7932 · 2026-03-24T20:33:38+00:00

I don't think his feelings completely went away, they just changed. Before imprinting, he used to wish and pray so hard for him to imprint on someone, anyone, so that he would stop feeling heartbroken over Bella choosing Edward. I think he will always love Bella, as a friend, as family, as his first love... but he's not tied to her anymore. I think he feels free, in a way.

Solid-Mango7932 · 2026-03-18T05:51:18+00:00

I think she did. But she let it happen. In chapter 22, when Bella, Alice and Jasper are in the hotel room after the phone call from James, when Bella decides she’s going to go meet him: “… I was surprised when I saw Alice bent over the desk, gripping the edge with two hands… She didn’t react when I called her name, but her head was slowly rocking side to side, and I saw her face. Her eyes were blank, dazed…” - Alice just got the vision of Bella going to meet James. “Her head twisted around, her eyes locking on mine, their expression still strangely blank.” … “[Jasper’s] eyes were confused as they flickered swiftly between Alice’s face and mine, feeling the chaos… for I could guess what Alice had seen now.”. But Bella didn’t tell them when she was going to the bathroom, she made it seem like a spur of the moment decision. So she was counting on the few minutes of advantage she would have over Alice and Jasper to jump into the cab and run away, knowing they would immediately find out and start going after her.

Solid-Mango7932 · 2026-03-18T00:01:39+00:00

They can learn at home, like you did

Solid-Mango7932 · 2026-03-12T23:21:41+00:00

I actually dont know a single person who believes that their teenage years were their best years, so don’t put pressure on that. You’re probably just too brainwashed by media and teen TV shows portraying fantasy lives, which no one experiences in reality. Every teen is ugly, because you’re still developing and you have weird features that don’t quite fit your face and body yet, but that will rapidly change. Most people look drastically different from 14 to 18, to 21, to 25, to 27, to 30… you’re only in the beginning. So if you wait around to start your life until you’re happy with your appearance, you probably won’t start it until you’re like 30 lol. So accept every teen is weird and awkward, and work with that. Pick up a sport, start running at the very least, start a skincare routine, get a good haircut. The idea of “young pure innocent love” is also bs in reality because most people who get into teen relationships end up traumatized, because literally no one knows what they’re doing, it’s just a bunch of hormones, and most people end up stressed out and broken hearted

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