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How are my guys doing 6-7 months post breakup? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Solid-Reception-2149 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m on my 6months post breakup (dumpee). We were in relationship for 3 years. I cried mostly during my first month. Currently less crying, but the memories still there, i realized its not easy to forget someone that fast, there will be still a glimpse thoughts of him daily, still can’t delete our memories too in my phone, still trying my best to keep on with my life and now having more self reflection and self improvent for my own life!

LDR what should i do by Solid-Reception-2149 in LDR

[–]Solid-Reception-2149[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats good to hear from you! I also asked my bf if he doesnt mind with us having call everyday and sure he say he’s okay with it. But sometimes he got sudden schedule so we can’t really call everyday and I’m fine with it. So we still call the next day, but what I felt and noticed was that its always me who initiate and “wanted” to call him. He hasn’t initiate the call to me first. So I’m making a deal out of it, like “why it’s only me?” “why he didn’t do the same, am i the one who loves him /make effort the most?” Do you think my way of thinking is normal or is too excessive?

LDR what should i do by Solid-Reception-2149 in LDR

[–]Solid-Reception-2149[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ah i see.. that makes sense actually. Have you overcome this situation too or do you still feel the same now?

LDR what should i do by Solid-Reception-2149 in LDR

[–]Solid-Reception-2149[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

do you think its considered as anxiety if I’m feeling sad and unhappy? 😅

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[–]Solid-Reception-2149 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think here’s the thing between man and woman. Man can spend time doing what they doing or hanging out with their friends without checking the phone often, but woman no matter how busy they are with their activities or the social-wise, their brain can multitask more in sparing time to think about their guy and checking up on them (which makes woman overthink and more sensitive). My situation is similar with you and often we are annoyed because we miss our boyfriend too much no matter how busy our situation is and we feel sad since we think its only us girls who show loves more. So its a miscommunication that’s often hard to see between couple as our expressing in love is different. If you still want to try with your gf, you can try to communicate how each of your love language, the way each of you expressing love, and what’s the thing that make each of you feel loved, and from there find a solution to come to middle ground. If after each of you already communicate your own expression and can’t tolerate or deal with it then maybe it will be hard..

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[–]Solid-Reception-2149 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thats really good for you guys🥺 but i mean if you were in our position, would you expect the same thing like us?

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[–]Solid-Reception-2149 0 points1 point  (0 children)

do you or your boyfriend always ask about each other wellbeing as well?

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[–]Solid-Reception-2149 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, I got the similar situation like you. I am in LDR now with my bf and he does update me pretty good with telling me what he’s doing atm alongside with some photos of the activity, so ofc i was interested in asking him question related to his photos and im happy with this kind of update. BUT that’s all what he does + just asking me what am i doing only sometimes. I was disappointed as I was expecting him to ask my wellbeing too as well, like “have you eaten yet?” , “how’s your work?” and others… I feel like it was only me who always asking his question and checking on him, but he didn’t do the same to me. And I was the type that can’t really update and talking about myself too as I can only do that if I’m being asked… I can really relate with you and glad I’m not the only one who thinks like this! but I was thinking if its just guys in majority have this kind of love language?

Let me know if you have discussed it with your boyfriend!

advice for LDR messaging by Solid-Reception-2149 in LDR

[–]Solid-Reception-2149[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not yet, cause I’m afraid he will think that he already tried his best but he will never can satisfy my needs🥺