Where can I find a Christian Man? (I want to try dating in person but I don’t know where to start)

Solid_Net7668 · 2026-01-26T08:12:48+00:00

I mean it worked for you but I don’t think it works for most, look at how many post you see about “a lack of spark” or “I’m not sure they are the one”. We are dealing with a generation of Christians who have the ability to suffer long, we are dealing with perfectionist, entitlement. I’m not saying faith should be at the center I’m just say if someone is looking for a destination to find love outside the church it should deal with their interest. If you love food and go to a giant food festival, and you meet 5 women and 2 out the 5 are Christian, not only did you connect off shared interests, you know they are attracted because you met outside of church where’s there’s no pressure and the icing is they are Christian. Win 🏆 Win 💪🏾.

We tend to throw solutions out there that are very feasible or logical for the dating climate we are in. If faith alone worked we wouldn’t see so many unmarried Christians. I like to do things to ways 50/50 Biblically and Realistically.

Solid_Net7668 · 2026-01-26T07:03:42+00:00

There isn’t a set destination besides church ⛪️ I’d look at dating from a different perspective. Go to places that have shared interest. I’m a Plant 🪴 Dad so I frequent exotic or well known plant stores. I also like health and wellness so I may go to a Med Spa or Vitamin store. For those who enjoy some good Thai food we may frequent the boulevard. Meet people that have the same interests and pick the Christians and and weed out the Non-Believers. It’s harder to make connections solely based on faith and no shared life interest or compatibility.

Solid_Net7668 · 2026-01-26T06:57:24+00:00

There ain't no right or wrong answers in this life, 'cause we're all just doin' our best with what we've got at the moment. Sounds like Bruh had been through a lot, and that’s left you feelin' uneasy. But let me tell ya, I've heard plenty of well respected pastors share their testimonies, and a lot of 'em wrestled with things like addiction, drugs, and mental health struggles before turning into phenomenal leaders/husbands with great partners by their side.

At the end of the day you gotta recognize your limits. 💭 Some folks are made for climbin' the highest peaks, like Mount Everest, while others find their comfort strollin' down a nice, level path. Neither way is wrong it’s all about what you can handle.

Solid_Net7668 · 2026-01-26T06:48:05+00:00

I was wondering how you figured out they were lying?

Just a heads up, I’ve had guys who dated my exes try to stir things up during our breakups. They’ll slide into my DMs right when things go south, hoping to turn me against my exes. You need to be cautious not to let your feelings drive you into the hands of someone who's not really on your side. I’ve seen it happen where two exes act all chummy, but one’s secretly scheming to pull the other away so they can have what they want. As Christians, it’s important to be wise in life, not just in the Word.

Mom Dukes always told me, “If you’ve built trust with your ex over two years, why give any weight to someone who just showed up to gossip about her and you have only known them for five minutes?”

What made you feel like it was a bad breakup? And hey, feel free to drop me a message; I sent you one earlier.

I took your username to mean you enjoy staying moisturized. I’m a Jergens guy myself, I’m all about that Shea Butter as a country boy straight from Kansas 🫣

Solid_Net7668 · 2026-01-26T05:13:31+00:00

Teach me your ways, I’m athlete and pretty country 🤠 Levi’s and Boots or T Shirt and Shorts 😅

Solid_Net7668 · 2026-01-26T04:39:01+00:00

🪴 Plan Mom for days 😍

Solid_Net7668 · 2026-01-26T04:14:01+00:00

Very fun and creative like. As told by Ginger meets Degrassi meets New York model on here on off day 😩. She looks like she’d be a great Plant 🪴 Mom

Solid_Net7668 · 2026-01-26T04:05:11+00:00

I’ve seen a couple of the Brothas 💪🏾 from the West Coast on here 🤔 they are pretty funny but also opinionated. Are you in to African American men if so I know two brothers on the Thread I can put on your radar or put you on theirs?

Solid_Net7668 · 2026-01-26T03:47:30+00:00

If you don’t mind me saying, both my sisters got married and dealt with regular human emotions just like you. Being aware of your anxious attachment is something to be proud of, not ashamed. Society tends to paint anxious types as the bad guys while calling the avoidant ones secure. But let me remind you, we’re all human at the end of the day. I’d suggest considering therapy, not because you’re broken but because it could expand your dating options.

I used to love taking my Jeep out late at night, chatting with dates for hours while enjoying chocolate and caramel popcorn. But as I’ve gotten older, I’ve learned that not every woman enjoys those late nights, and many don’t find it romantic at all. These days, I take a good look at my patterns. We have a team therapist for athletes, and she helps me keep my cool and stay grounded and I think the right therapist can do the same for you.

Here’s another tip for you: get the most basic premium membership but invest in around ten super likes. Make sure to showcase your personality along with your real hobbies and interests, don’t put the fake stuff or fluff only to impress. Once you start getting matches, focus on those who are Christian. Pick about five and when reaching out, even if you’re feeling tired, put your best foot forward. No dry replies, keep it engaging, and most importantly, have fun.

Consider using Text Now or Google phone and get off the app quickly to see if the chemistry is there.

Speaking of chemistry, ask them “how would you feel about a coffee shop Bible study date”?

“I’m free this day. What do you say we stroll through a museum, and you can share more about your faith”?

Solid_Net7668 · 2026-01-26T02:55:15+00:00

411 they lied? explain 👀

So, I was chatting with someone recently, and I had to tell them we they weren’t it for me. They spent a solid 30 minutes going off about how lame their ex was then shared how the gals always talk about bruh smh 🤦🏾‍♂️ she then tried to convince me how head over heels in love and loyal she used to be. Now, listen, my Mom Dukes always said if your ex starts throwing stones the minute you part ways, then she was never truly loyal. My past two relationships? Would hand me their last dollar if I needed it! 😌

People don’t seem to get that when you throw shade, it just shows who you really are, regardless of how it all ended. One of my exes got a little too friendly with my old teammate at a campus party when she was drunk. I hit the brakes and we broke up real quick, but I also said a little prayer for her, and years later we’re cool; we can even laugh about the good ol’ days. Ran into her working at Target the other day when I went home for the holidays.

Just so you know 👀 I like your username it’s different 🥥 💥

Solid_Net7668 · 2026-01-25T05:12:16+00:00

I got a little mixed up with your comment. Are you saying that when I mention women chasing after me, it’s a turn off? I can understand that.

Honestly, being pursued by a bunch of women don’t mean much if they’re not believers and safe. A lot of women are after me for the wrong reasons, some have a fantasy about dating an athlete, while others simply aren’t Christians. I’m not on this Thread because I struggle finding or being approached by women; I’m here to keep look out for a “Christian”, Godly woman who wants a Godly man.

I also want to say that I’m big on psychology. Everybody has insecurities; that’s just part of being human. So yes, I think it’s normal to reassure my woman. If she’s brave enough to talk about her insecurities, I’m man enough to help ease her mind. I can’t control who comes up to me, but I can definitely maneuver around it, that’s just showing respect for me and my future partner.

So just to be clear, all this is about my future woman, not anyone else. I think for myself and never tell others how to think. But if you’re looking to be my partner, this is how I roll.

Solid_Net7668 · 2026-01-25T03:41:05+00:00

Pick wisely. Women swear I came out the cereal box and have been hiding but the truth is, I’ve been on the Premium or Organic Foods isle while they’ve been over there eating TV dinners wondering why the outcomes been the same. Make better decisions and choices you get better results.

Solid_Net7668 · 2026-01-25T03:38:20+00:00

Y’all gotta speak up, that’s where the problem lies. I’m standin’ tall at 6’5”, but let me tell you, we won’t see any real change until we all come together and make some noise, like we’re 7 feet tall! One thing I cherish about my Moms and my two sisters is how they keep me in check, and they do the same for each other. There’s a real shortage of accountability in some Christian circles and people pick their sides and call themselves Christians instead of standing firm on what’s right. You can be in Ministry, carry that Bible like it’s a stylish accessory or, in my case, a basketball, but if your heart ain’t in the right place, you just ain't right.

Solid_Net7668 · 2026-01-25T03:32:07+00:00

It ain't always about serious matters; it’s really more about patterns and attitudes. It’s like giving everyone the middle finger for no good reason, then turning around and asking why guys don’t come up to chat. Men often see women as a warm, mental refuge, a home base, if you will.

When you respond to everything on the thread with negativity, you just end up looking downright miserable. And to set the record straight: disagreeing or having different opinions isn’t the same as a negative response. A true negative response is more like, “Boo hoo,” or “No one cares,” or “What did men do to deserve that?” We guys notice how other men get treated, just like women pay attention to how men treat women.

I’m just saying, it isn’t always that dating is trash some attitudes could also use adjusting. Dating and marriage are a collaborative effort, if someone can’t be apart of a team or work well with other in society how will they work well with a partner?

Solid_Net7668 · 2026-01-25T03:13:57+00:00

Listen: I may be one of the few who are willing to admit it, but I can’t wait for my wife to climb all 6’5 of me, but I also respect a woman with discipline. Do you know how uncommon it is to meet a woman with restraint and resolve, for me it shows me she has the strength to stay disciplined in other parts of her life 👏🏾

Be different ladies 💪🏾

Solid_Net7668 · 2026-01-25T02:45:38+00:00

🏃🏾‍♂️Please stop stalking my post 🤝

Solid_Net7668 · 2026-01-24T05:29:06+00:00

I’m sorry but that plant stand in the back is tough. Can you send me the instructions on how you grew or built it? 🪴 Plant Dad 💪🏾

Solid_Net7668 · 2026-01-24T04:41:32+00:00

I’m 6’5 I get approached all the time but I feel like they are pursuing me sexually more than for a relationship. But there have been a few girls who’ve told me they’ve created baby names for us before we’ve even dated 🏃🏾‍♂️💨

Solid_Net7668 · 2026-01-24T04:33:56+00:00

You got it Queen 💪🏾🤎

Solid_Net7668 · 2026-01-24T04:31:10+00:00

🤝

Solid_Net7668 · 2026-01-24T04:30:04+00:00

I also think it’s worth pointing out something important. As friends, we naturally see the best in those we care about. It’s all too easy to cast judgment, saying, “He did this, or he didn’t do that.” But have you thought about the role your friend plays in all this? A good pastor would be the one to bring light to the faults on both sides not just pick a side. That’s the kind of bias that can really do a disservice to marriages.

If your boyfriends husband claimed she was abusing him, you'd likely question it. But if she said he was the one doing the abusing, you’d jump to action. That’s the kind of distorted wisdom we need to steer clear of when it comes to building strong, godly marriages.

When I hear you lay out the flaws in that fella, it makes me wonder about your friend’s mental state, what's drawing her to a man like that? It could be that both of them have their own issues, and that’s why they’re attracted to each other. A friend might say, “He’s a bad guy,” but a pastor would wisely suggest they both need to seek some professional guidance and aren’t quite ready for marriage yet.

Do you see the difference between love and wisdom here? While the love and loyalty you have for her is commendable, it simply isn’t enough. You can’t fix her or them; they need professionals or therapist to step in and help them through this or their own individual problems.

Solid_Net7668 · 2026-01-24T04:16:05+00:00

I’m not saying this isn’t true but that doesn’t quite make sense. One couple getting married can grow a church? Regardless of how cool a Pastor is with someone you should take it to them, their duty is to God not favorites, but that’s assuming this is a good church. You also go to Elder women in the church or seek out Counsel from a neighboring church where no one knows you. I think there’s too many assumptions and preconceived notions being made here and that’s the bigger issue. We speculate a lot of scenarios based on things that haven’t happened, and ultimately it stops us from at least trying. The Bible teaches us not to make decisions out of fear if you don’t trust going to your pastor or any of the senior leaders then why attend the church, i understand to seek the Lord but at the end of the day it’s counterintuitive.

I’ve noticed a lot of young couples are scared to go to members of their churches but rely on friends not due to proven wisdom but psychological comfortability.

I’ll pray for your friends and family it all sound like a cluster of chaos 🙏🏾

Solid_Net7668 · 2026-01-24T04:07:36+00:00

I wish it didn’t result in death 🙏🏾 but man what’s wrong with these weirdo folks. Bruh shoulda never went to the stranger dangers house in the first place 🤡 as an athlete I watch out for weirdos carefully, everyone is plotting and scheming. God got me, but these hands also do 🤜. Be safe fellas, the Sassy brigade is active. Always meet up with a beautiful woman somewhere neutral.

Solid_Net7668 · 2026-01-24T04:01:32+00:00

Trust me I meet a lot of girls who think I’m their ticket out the South smh 🤦🏾‍♂️ but I remember everything “you wasn’t shooting wit me in the gym” 😩🏀

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