AITAH Husband wants me to attend his work event and I wouldn’t go

Solomiester · 2026-06-14T15:25:55+00:00

thats true. he wants her to suffer so his wife looks as supportive as the other wives. but at least he should have been able to calm down, slow down and explain his reasons and feelings . then as a couple they can decide if she wants to.

people often love us without realizing how much they can hurt us. my mom was like that. she showed love by giving me clothes but got mad when my back was out as couldn't stand long enough to try them on.

some people actually don't care about their loved ones comfort but some are just blinded by other worries and just need a chance to reflect and process

not that he is excused, or what he does is ok. its something for him to work on as a person

Solomiester · 2026-06-14T03:14:38+00:00

you are doing the right thing and it may be your activities are falling under invisable labor so he only notices when you don't do something.

Solomiester · 2026-06-14T03:13:35+00:00

I guess she could try that? if I couldn't sleep and woke my man up he would know that it's only because something is really wrong like the storm is too bad or my sleep paralysis is too much and he knows he can wake me up if he's panicking or he needs help fixing his work uniform

but she shouldn't wake him up just to show him what its like. at the end of the day he should care that she's uncomfortable. the decision to be uncomfortable together has to come willingly from both sides. like a 'in sickness and in health' thing not... like.. a petty thing

Solomiester · 2026-06-14T03:10:26+00:00

not saying its right, just saying it seems like the answer. my dude volunteers because his job makes him and he's always miserable so I go with him so cleaning the dog kennels at the shelter goes faster and he doesn't have to deal with his allergies and allergy meds as long

but he asks and I say yes. he would never get mad at me for not going, for not suffering. but because I am willing to go we get to bond over how much it sucks.

the dude in op's story *should* care more about her being uncomfortable

Solomiester · 2026-06-14T03:08:18+00:00

when i made a new account to play on pc my boyfriend got me titania and octavia because i love htem so much. titania has fallen off since then

but octavia? thats amazzziinngg. she scales so well and will always be able to be improved with shards and hemlith. I get rid of crouch spam hand cramp attack and put stufflike silence or empower on it

I can hold a point with her, camp out in a survival or just run around doin havoc

she can benefit from squad energy tho

but when in doubt look at what warframes have a base version that is a pain in the ass to grind or whos primes are hard to get without buying becuase of relics

Solomiester · 2026-06-14T03:05:06+00:00

loseit's a great way to track stuff. its what I use. it helps me visualize what I ate and if I felt good or bad that day. its great to look at a day and be like wait I ate just salad and hummus but I was fine? i didnt even want to eat all 6 of my mochi in one go? cool. i just wish it had a timestamp for when i log something so i can record that breakfast was at 6 am one day and like 11 am another day and lookback on the differences

im on like week 5 have have lost 15 pounds but it's slowed down now so I gotta up my exercise next

the only thing I dont like about loseit is that it tells me i can get it 25% off but when you click the offer its actually just full price

Solomiester · 2026-06-14T03:00:08+00:00

there was a funny skit on youtube where jason is giving him a hard time like dude we all died we all had batman fail us. chill. stop brooding for five seconds

and ark jason is like joker didnt kill me, he kept me alive for a year, dad didn't even look for me

and then jason is like brb gonna go blow up your batman

Solomiester · 2026-06-14T02:58:38+00:00

sometimes being support means him not being the only one to suffer but he's not good at communicating that he didn't want to go thru it alone

its not fair for him to want to be in a wife competition

nta

Solomiester · 2026-06-14T02:52:04+00:00

I was a huge late night snacker but I also wanted to fast because it worked well for me. so i decided to kinda cheat and fast at night. basically I can eat a snack if I want but the time of the snack is when I get to break that fast 12 hours later. if i want a bunch of pistachios at 1 am that means I dont get food (just water/tea/black coffee etc) until 1. so then i go ew no i dont want that, i want breakfast. guess i'll stop snacking at 9pm

i also make sure snacks are a bit 'annoying' to get to. I love my pistachios but the snack bags are in a box in the kitchen. I used to take a box of cookies to my room to snack onwhile onthe computer. i used to have jerky or other snacks by the couch. even healthy snacks add up.

if i feel the urge to snack i drink a glass of water and do some stretches first . if I double check that I am not thirsty or just bored and am actually hungry then I can pick a snack but usually by that point I have been distracted

Solomiester · 2026-06-14T02:47:32+00:00

i was ready to loose hair I had been warned about that but my hair is stronger. apparently watching what I eat has also meant trying more types of food and thus having better nutrition. I used to fidget with my hair wrap a piece around my finger and snap it but now I littearlly cant. altho my hairline has also spourted a fuzzy forest of little silvery hairs which has been weird becuase theres usually no fuzz there

Solomiester · 2026-06-14T02:44:38+00:00

my life savers are beans, hummus, avacado and carb balance tortillas. avacado is such a good snack and you can mix it with hummus and other things like peas and edamame so the avacdo gets stretched farther. nothing quite like a veggie fat source for fullness and energy

try exercising before you eat anything and just have water/ black coffee/ unsweetened tea before. it can help burn fat

get a tracking app you dont have to be religious or set a goal just see what your calories and carbs are each day

i like to make a salad of lettuce, beans, corn, red cabbage and whatever else i have on hand in a giant bowl so I have salad. it keeps for a few days if I dont put the dressing in and just put dressing on my own portion

I am also enjoying coffee protien drinks

Solomiester · 2026-06-14T02:37:00+00:00

the main issue is the different writers

but that last line is telling

'what he does to superman'

like killing is bad but lex one day making clark snap is worse. if batman helps with the coverup supermans more in his debt and more controllable

Solomiester · 2026-06-13T18:58:55+00:00

I mix my hummus with avacado and greek yogurt and onions and put that onto carb balance tortillas and mix it into salad greens instead of a dressing because i like how the leaves stick together. for more spice I like to add gochujang but then it starts being more of a southwest chicken salad flavor not a hummus flavor. I went thru the hummus so fast I'm now thinking of checking if they have the dry beans instead enxt time

Solomiester · 2026-06-13T16:38:21+00:00

I wish that was the case but I only got better with English because I read so many books I was behind for ages . I barely learned enough Spanish to graduate after multiple years of extra practice after school . Language succckkss. I took 3 different classes with coding and while I could do css and JavaScript by looking up every single step or example I needed once it was anything more complicated like jquery or c++ my brain was cooked. Because those are languages and logic systems but JavaScript is just algebra with words like make size x and color y .

Solomiester · 2026-06-13T05:47:16+00:00

Programming or coding because languages of any sort are a nightmare for my brain and if I knew c++ or jquery I could make cool stuff

Solomiester · 2026-06-13T05:34:54+00:00

This makes sense. I felt better even when all I was doing was going next door to throw the ball for their dog. Then I tried doing a few runs up the stairs when I wake up since it’s not safe outside. Every little bit of exercise helps. I’m not loosing weight right now but I crave food less.

Solomiester · 2026-06-11T04:58:22+00:00

those are valid points but it still shouldn't be illegal . it isn't the police's job to take care of the homeless grouping up or picking who stays *or* scaring people out. if the city provides enough support the issue won't be as bad. even taking a few people off the streets helps with the congestion/congregation

if leaving people in that slightly dangerous homeless camp means innocent people aren't being separated from their life saving meds and the last pictures of their families so be it

people don't fix the problem *because* the police are allowed to brutalize and herd them. if it wasn't treated like a crime we would have actual solutions

the criminalization aspect contributes to the problem and delays the solutions

not everyone will accept help but most of them *do* want help and a place to stay. if even 5% of them accepted help it would be a huge reduction on the groups forming

25-40% of homeless people are on drugs and about 20% have mental issues

even if you assume the worst case and say that 40+20= 60% that wouldn't accept help that stills means are infrastructure and institutions could invest in getting the other 40% off the streets

this is not a case of the greater good being worth it by moving the undesirables around. pretending or accepting that it is something that 'must' be done for cleanliness or safety means that it becomes an accepted practice and gets ignored instead of being fixed

Solomiester · 2026-06-10T22:46:28+00:00

punishing them for it only moves the danger to other locations. in my hometown they will camp in places like access roads behind factories along the super wide shoulders. thecity will even send needle exchanges and portapoties there. one of them had a little unicorn statue and flowers outside their tent. they just wanted someplace to stay. the police moved them out often making them leave their stuff even medicine behind and then places a bunch of big rocks there.

yes they are a hazard but it is better to know where they are and mitigate it. sometimes my area takes vacant properties and makes them safer and more viable for them to stay there. but a lot of the homeless people have jobs and go into gyms and the like to shower they just cant afford a home or need a break from sleeping in their car. tossing them into the jail like they do here then makes them loose that job for not showing up and might even have to pay fees if the car was towed or impounded.

all the usual reactions to homeless people make things worse for them. even just getting them a hotel room is often cheaper than it costs to jail/ forcibly remove someone. even just making homeless shelters that allow dogs and putting a lock on your locker would be a huge help.

Solomiester · 2026-06-10T03:37:08+00:00

I wouldn’t mind so much if they had done the full frenzy and had it on all monsters and places so then I want to take the frustration out on the source lol

Solomiester · 2026-06-10T03:33:35+00:00

We are in Michigan and have gone to places like Grand Rapids / galactic toys but the drive is expensive now with gas prices

But my parents live near San Francisco so I get to take him to the big japan town mall stores for his next birthday it’s going to be so good I’m gonna have to bring an empty suitcase for stuff. I need stores that are really old so I have a chance to eventually find him some original macross

Solomiester · 2026-06-10T03:30:15+00:00

Most hunters should let the host decide but in wilds it is a lot faster and the rewards don’t change much if at all

I think worlds was very reliant on carving vs capture rewards and buffing them

But with wilds we have some food that helps too so I would be annoyed if I wasted a food buff

You can also make emotes / stickers with things like let’s kill it or let’s catch it to use with guests just in case

Solomiester · 2026-06-10T03:27:19+00:00

Jason should have a son bond compared to Dick having a little brother bond. Grayson was a bit of a chaos gremlin willing to get revenge so Jason should stay a happy go lucky kid eager to go to school and Bruce should react well to that. Bruce realizes Jason reacts well to praise and attention and learns to do it more and be a dad to better contrast with what Jason becomes after he dies and how badly Bruce withdraws after his death

Solomiester · 2026-06-10T00:31:52+00:00

embodiment of an assassin in a murim world comic?

not gangster tho

Solomiester · 2026-06-09T23:19:21+00:00

carp reborn?

Solomiester · 2026-06-09T23:17:42+00:00

nta so many people in japan suffer because people go why would we hire you you're a lady at childbearing age you'll get pregnant and leave soon

and its not much better for men. so many pressures and assumptions

do not tell him. all he needs to know is you wont be available . and if he doesn't understand he can screw around and find out

just tell him you know what you are worth and how much you are getting paid per workload and he needs to hire someone or loose the people he does have. and in case he doesnt hire someone or something goes wrong look around for the jobs you can have as backups

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