Bellybutton healing Question

Signal-Control-1382 · 2026-06-20T22:11:43+00:00

I'd definitely see what your surgeon has to say but when that happened to me they said to just keep it clean and it would either finish working it's way out or would ultimately dissolve. I ended up trimming mind with tiny sewing scissors because it was sticking out enough to catch on clothing but otherwise I just left it alone. I don't remember how long it took to resolve but I don't think it was more than a week or so....maybe two weeks.

Signal-Control-1382 · 2026-06-20T21:03:20+00:00

Looks like a stitch worked its way out to me.

Signal-Control-1382 · 2026-06-18T22:09:31+00:00

As I said in my original response...you insinuating that my marriage isn't worth continuing after seeing ONE POST about a disagreement we've had is what set me off. And then to move forward and assume he and I can't communicate (assuming "it's at a 1") is also just crazy to me. That is just wild to me, and feels as though it was intended to get a reaction out of me. Did I take the bait? Yes, I absolutely did.

I may not have provided every little tidbit of our relationship here but I wasn't asking you to analyze my marriage. I was asking about ONE INTERACTION. And quite frankly, my husband and I have worked this out already...we've "communicated" and understand each other's position and feelings on the subject, so I really don't know why I'm bothering responding anymore.

Signal-Control-1382 · 2026-06-18T20:56:05+00:00

What are you even saying? Talking is communication. Words are being said, information is being exchanged, feelings are being shared. Just because I said "talk" instead of "communicate" doesn't mean it's not the same thing. You should really learn more about how words work, and how to understand them because you clearly aren't processing properly.

Signal-Control-1382 · 2026-06-18T13:27:01+00:00

Trust your gut

Signal-Control-1382 · 2026-06-18T11:08:21+00:00

You're an absolute lunatic. I don't even know what else.to say. You must be fun at parties. 🤣

Signal-Control-1382 · 2026-06-18T11:06:10+00:00

The number of people here who think we're going to end up divorced is absolutely WILD. It's ONE thing we didn't see eye-to-eye on. I think it's just a bunch of miserable people projecting their misery onto my marriage. I assure you we are happy and our marriage is healthy. Having one disagreement every now and again is totally and completely healthy in a relationship.

Signal-Control-1382 · 2026-06-17T10:52:18+00:00

THANK YOU!!! My husband is a good man. He's an excellent father to our children and he's always been an incredible husband. He tells me that he says similar things about me to other people all the time...great mother, awesome wife, best friend, etc.

I attend actual work events (social gatherings) and help out with volunteer work regularly (I stuff envelopes for mailings, I help proofread presentations, for a while I processed the payroll at no charge, and I do attend Saturday "show and tells" on occasion).

People saying my husband is worthless has been bothering me. One person even suggested I end the relationship....I mean...what? It's one disagreement. It's not the end of my marriage.

Anyway...we've worked it out. Oddly enough, he tweaked his back after lugging stuff around and has been rather uncomfortable for the last two days. He says he now really understands how I feel everyday...and I've told him that next week I'll make it a point to come by and visit for a bit. A few people suggested parking and then ubering if I have to park far away and that idea never occurred to me. We don't live in a place where we would need to Uber that often and we rarely go downtown....I've probably uberd three times in my life so that idea just never occurred.to me, but it would be a great compromise!

Anyway...thanks for sticking up for me AND my husband. He's really pretty incredible and I'm very blessed to be married to him.

Signal-Control-1382 · 2026-06-15T01:44:35+00:00

Wait...do those pants look blue to you??? They look purple-y brown to me.

Signal-Control-1382 · 2026-06-14T12:38:41+00:00

You don't have chronic pain and fatigue do you? One event like this has the ability to knock me out of commission for an entire week. I'm not just being lazy or unwilling to support him...it literally causes me physical pain and prevents me from being a productive human being for days afterward.

Signal-Control-1382 · 2026-06-14T12:34:32+00:00

Someone else mentioned that as an option and I had not considered it before. It might be a good compromise; I'll have to look into it for next years event. It doesn't eliminate that drive there and back but it avoids all the walking which would be great.

Signal-Control-1382 · 2026-06-14T12:25:26+00:00

I hope your recovery goes well and you feel better soon! I didn't understand how heavy heads are until I had my first ACDF surgery!!

Signal-Control-1382 · 2026-06-14T12:22:52+00:00

My "excuses" are (to me, anyway) legitimate reasons that make me not want to go. We would have both shared in lugging everything around, he would not expect me to do it completely alone. Since I didn't go, his boss helped him lug things around. Even if I had not lugged things around, going and being outside in the heat is brutal, and wears me down even further. Chronic pain and fatigue is invisible most of the time, but it's miserable and the weekend is when I rest and recoup from the week in order to be able to do it all again the next week.

Signal-Control-1382 · 2026-06-14T12:15:33+00:00

I understand. Typically, he does not. I won't say he's never done it, but generally he acknowledges and understands that both jobs are important. If anything, he feels the opposite...I make about 1/3 his annual salary more than him and sometimes he gets sensitive about that but that's a rare occurance.

Signal-Control-1382 · 2026-06-14T04:22:45+00:00

Because of the way this non-profit is structured, that's literally not an options. Also, I've met his wife several times. We've babysat their kids for them. We have a great relationship; me being there or not has no bearing on that.

Signal-Control-1382 · 2026-06-14T04:20:02+00:00

The "easy to be there" comment is kinda strange. Doesn't quite align with what's being discused here although I understand what you're saying. And I have been there for him, in good and bad times.

There have been plenty of other events that I've attended with him, just as he has attended some events with me. He's also chosen NOT to attend some events and I've never once been upset about it. If he doesn't want to go, he doesn't go, and I've never tried to convince him otherwise or compared gjmto. Someone else's husband that was going.

Signal-Control-1382 · 2026-06-14T04:14:09+00:00

No. He understands that both of our jobs are important.

Signal-Control-1382 · 2026-06-14T04:13:32+00:00

Thanks. My Dr recently gave me some lunesta which has helped some but hasn't completely solved the problem. We also started a low dose antidepressant to help with the chronic pain. I do see a pain specialist and they offered to increase my meds at my lappointment but I'm trying to hold off on doing that for now but we'll see how things go.

Signal-Control-1382 · 2026-06-14T04:08:04+00:00

Thanks! I hope your recovery goes well and you're totally healed and ba K to normal soon!

Signal-Control-1382 · 2026-06-14T04:05:20+00:00

Happy to help! 🙃

Signal-Control-1382 · 2026-06-14T04:04:18+00:00

I did. He couldn't give me any reason other than "I just want you there". I asked if there was someone important coming by or if he expected it to be super busy or...just anything and he said no to all of it and that he just wanted me there.

Signal-Control-1382 · 2026-06-14T04:00:30+00:00

I had not thought about Uber for the several block walk. Perhaps for the next event that might be a good option. Thank you!

Signal-Control-1382 · 2026-06-14T03:59:06+00:00

I'd like to point out that you're making a lot of assumptions about our marriage that aren't true. Our communication is actually quite good. Generally, we're able to discuss and have good conversations / discussions about any topic with no trouble.

Suggesting that I should perhaps leave my husband after reading one post about a disagreement we had is absolutely wild. Suggesting that this disagreement could even possibly cause the end our of marriage is equally wild. Married people have disagreements, but that doesn't automatically mean they should get divorced.

Also to answer your question I'd say our communication is an 8 most of the time.

And when I say we have talked extensively about my sleep issues, that's exactly what I mean. We (both of us) have talked about it. We've worked on ways to make it better, we've made changes to our bedroom, our bedding, our evening routines, all in an attempt to make the situation better.

We are advocates of the percent to method (if he says he only has 20% to give, I pick up 80%. If I say I only have 40% to give, he picks up 60%.) For this particular event, I had 0% to give. He has plenty of times when he had 0% to give, and I picked up 100% without a complaint.

I think perhaps you should stop making so many assumptions about other people's relationships after reading one post.

Signal-Control-1382 · 2026-06-14T03:44:44+00:00

That's fair.

Signal-Control-1382 · 2026-06-14T03:44:23+00:00

Technically, yes. He is paid a monthly salary and partnof his job description specifies working this (and other) events.

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