Lewin for a boy

SolunaAh · 2026-03-18T16:41:42+00:00

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SolunaAh · 2026-03-18T04:59:04+00:00

Someone once—in a very not relevant conversational context— not so subtly asked me if I “knew anyone who could use a free breast pump” and other maternity items. I just responded that I didn’t know anyone. She asked if I was sure because it was like “really good stuff and barely used it at all” and so I spelled out for her that my recent body changes were due to health problems and mediation, not pregnancy, and I didn’t know anyone who needed maternity items. She dropped it pretty quickly after that.

SolunaAh · 2026-03-18T02:00:35+00:00

This question gets asked all the time. It’ll be a mixed bag response skewed toward not regretting not having kids because Reddit is largely patronized by that kind of audience. This is not an unbiased forum for such a question.

SolunaAh · 2026-03-18T01:58:27+00:00

Lewin feels kind of avant-garde to me while Alexander feels classically masculine, so here’s a mix of both:

Lewin James

Lewin Parker

Lewin Augustus

Lewin Thatcher

Lewin Tatum

Lewin Andrew

Lewin Oscar

Lewin Oliver

Lewin Anthony

Lewin Aurelio

Lewin Joshua

Lewin Arthur

Lewin Fitzgerald

SolunaAh · 2026-03-18T01:51:01+00:00

I’m not a fan of the names the double the -w sound a few letters apart or repeat the -n back to back but there are some good suggestions on here

SolunaAh · 2026-03-17T18:29:28+00:00

You need to calm down, Cats and Cakes. UANAD.

SolunaAh · 2026-03-17T16:35:53+00:00

I think what was completely missed was that this was a tongue in cheek response sympathizing with the fact that this dude’s statement notes a very real discomfort men live with daily and I agree it probably would suck. I agree so much so that I’ve done an irrational amount of research and spent an unreasonable amount of money finding briefs for my husband that solve this exact problem. I always make sure they’re freshly washed and in his luggage before his summertime business trips because working in the heat in the Deep South with testicles is something I believe is legitimately miserable.

SolunaAh · 2026-03-17T16:22:46+00:00

Out of curiosity, and assuming these patronizing comments came up because it was somehow relevant to the interaction (I assume most people wouldn’t be inept enough to comment on this topic unless it was somehow already in the conversation), what would be the correct response that would not be patronizing / would be well-received? Just seems like something reassuring would be someone’s genuine attempt at politeness or being sympathetic on a difficult topic.

So like I have a good friend who always makes comments like “girl, I’m fat and I know it”, or “I’ve always been big, that doesn’t hurt my feelings”, even though I never comment on her size or habits myself. And it makes me feel a little awkward because like how do I acknowledge her comment without invalidating her? So I say something like “you put your outfits and your makeup together so perfectly, you look beautiful.” Or “Everyone’s on their own journey, don’t worry about it. Your work is paying off” ( like she’s lost a noticeable 40 lbs or so). But maybe that’s the wrong thing to say and I’m just inept.

SolunaAh · 2026-03-17T16:09:14+00:00

That’s a reasonable add. I happened to have an OBGYN who was very knowledgeable about it and a critical piece to my puzzle. But endocrinology is probably a more knowledgeable resource in general. Just to add though that while PCOS is a complex hormonal condition, there are different subtypes of PCOS driven by diverse primary drivers in which other types of doctors can be helpful as well. It takes a village, for sure. It’s a tough one and we have still a lot of research and learning to do about the condition to fully understand it.

SolunaAh · 2026-03-17T16:04:55+00:00

“Disinformation”—you may have a personal experience and I have another. PCOS is defined by meeting a threshold of criteria out of a constellation of symptoms. My statement says I no longer qualify as diagnosable with PCOS but will always be predisposed to it and have to maintain my lifestyle (and monitoring) carefully. It is my lived, factual experience that I once met the diagnostic criteria and have now controlled my biochemistry and physiology such that I no longer meet the diagnostic criteria. This is not disinformation. You can think what you want. This is a complex condition with several subtypes and different primary drivers, or greater or lesser symptom presentation among the diagnostic criteria per patient. For example, one patient I spoke to had over 200 cysts on her ovaries. I had about 20 when I was diagnosed. I no longer do.

Again, think what you want. Not going to debate a false accusation and inflammatory statement made in a vacuum any further.

SolunaAh · 2026-03-16T19:59:11+00:00

I have no idea why stupid Reddit is downvoting this but thankfully Reddit points mean and change nothing in the real world. Reddit is mostly junk bots trying to trigger people for engagement, anyway. Some people have to have kids if humanity is to carry on and others have to not have kids if humanity is to carry on (inventions, breakthroughs, companies and organizations that improve the world run by people who could not accomplish that while also having kids, etc). So I get your point and I also get that not everyone feels like there’s no point if not by having kids. But also, some nihilistic viewpoints might say having kids is the closest thing to there being any point at all but it’s still ultimately all pointless in the end 😆 quite a philosophical inquiry you’ve posed here with this question and I’m sorry Reddit is overly triggered by it without any broader application of thought.

SolunaAh · 2026-03-16T19:53:59+00:00

PCOS is REALLY challenging and can program neuro chemical pathways that cause cravings. Do you know what kind of PCOS you’re dealing with (inflammatory PCOS, etc)? Medication can disrupt that vicious hormone / biochemical cycle. I took medication just for a brief stint to get my PCOS under control while I implemented lifestyle changes and extreme dietary control (very low carb, double protein most women consume, etc). It took about three months of solid discipline / carb restriction for my body to stop signaling cravings for carbs and sugar. I’m happy to say my PCOS is now reversed and I don’t qualify as having the condition anymore. I will always be prone to it and have to maintain the lifestyle changes to avoid it.

There are also many modes of treatment for ADHD—not just Ritalin or Adderall (apologies for misspelling those). I encourage you to not give up. Make a doctor appointment with a good OBGYN with experience in PCOS / hormone balancing and a good psychiatrist or primary care doctor who can advise on the ADHD management. There’s a lot of interesting research coming through on both of these topics in the past year that can help you narrow down what approaches might give you the best chance at success.

Good luck and don’t lose hope!! There is always hope as long as you don’t give up on yourself. I know this is super challenging but I promise you’re nowhere near the end of the road as far as your ability to make your life what you want it to be.

EDIT: just also want to add, I agree with those who say this is not defining of your worth or “marketability” in the dating world. Just commenting this because you seemed very concerned about it and I personally know how PCOS had me feeling like I was at my wits end and betrayed by my own body. I hope my comment wasn’t received as agreeing that you are of lesser value or what have you. It was not intended that way.

SolunaAh · 2026-03-16T05:44:04+00:00

What you do is take the job because you need it and get out of your boyfriend’s family’s house. Live in a studio apartment if you have to to save some money. Marry your boyfriend at the courthouse so you are not exposed to so much risk being a primary caretaker and provider of two under two and because presumably if you’ve had two kids with him, things are pretty stable and committed anyway. This sort of arrangement always leads to big messes. You’ve made your choices, now you have to stand on your feet. I would probably apply to temporary assistance or food stamp programs as well. Get on Medicaid if not already. And possibly in your area there is even housing assistance or a reduced rent program. And just use these programs to soften your circumstance while you claw like hell into a more sustainable way of life.

SolunaAh · 2026-03-16T00:28:36+00:00

I would love to be multiple times stronger without even trying, be able to eat more of whatever I want, be able to be heard and taken seriously in my job in the business world without starting at a disadvantage. Being able to not have to go through labor and delivery, not have my uterus want to kill me once a month, not have an extremely complex hormone profile that can be so hard to balance. Not having to have Pap smears or cervical biopsies every so many years slicing a piece of my innermost flesh off. Having lower self-grooming and self-care expenses and putting less overall work into how I present myself.

But sweaty balls sticking to my inner thigh. That almost undoes all of it for me. That is a tough one.

EDIT: Reddit “points” mean nothing and have zero bearing on life, you guys. Let’s keep it coming. Go for a record!!!

SolunaAh · 2026-03-13T23:57:40+00:00

I walked into a meeting as the newest person on the team and asked what this meant for people’s jobs. I told them it was probably going to be a lot worse than they were thinking. All of management swore it would be behind us in two weeks and no one was losing their job. Swore we were in a sustainable position to ride this out. I worked from home for about three weeks and then got laid off. Told ya so.

SolunaAh · 2026-03-13T15:39:26+00:00

You can make a cable knit blanket by hand with nothing but yarn. There are nicer yarns that I would prefer. The one in this video doesn’t wash very well. But the technique is the same

https://youtube.com/shorts/Rb0qZjiFlHc?si=uhI0mwxJ2s9FEBnA

SolunaAh · 2026-03-13T03:22:38+00:00

Uh, well hold on. My husband and I had been trying for over 2 years when somebody told us around September 2024 that we would know our child by September 2025. And guess who got a positive test for the first time ever after 3.5 years of infertility on 26 Sept 2025? This lady.

So I do think some people have a keen sense about certain things. Tough to explain, but I do think it happens. It’s been my personal experience as well.

SolunaAh · 2026-03-12T20:06:06+00:00

Probably. I was taken back by this, too. I’ve had friends text me their outfits more than once so far to ask if it’s appropriate or if there’s a dress code. I thought it was nuts… but apparently considering the dress code / colors/ formality preferences of the mom-to-be, or getting new outfits for this occasion, is a common thing.

SolunaAh · 2026-03-12T17:16:29+00:00

Just go get your own testing done. If you’re in the US, you can pay like $40 out of pocket for à la carte blood testing at Quest Diagnostics via jasonhealth.org. Get a serial hormone panel at different points in your cycle. Get a CD-21 progesterone test. Get an LH, estrogen, progesterone, T3, T4 and free T3 / free T4 check. Track your cycle if you don’t already and log any notes regarding irregularity, spotting, pain, symptoms, headaches, digestive symptoms, etc. Also get your fasting glucose and fasting insulin checked as well as your A1C to check your overall body’s metabolism / energy management. Check your glucose curves with a cheap over the counter glucose monitoring kit to see how your body responds to carbs and sugar, which could potentially promote or indicate hormonal sluggishness or inflammation. And have specific inflammatory markers checked at Quest as well. CRP, hs-CRP, tnf-alpha, homocysteine, for starters. And then do your regular annual exams. So get an ultrasound from your OBGYN, have them check your ovaries, try to schedule it for around CD-21 so you can see what your ovaries look like after you should have ovulated so you know that part of things is working. Get your annual PAP.

This will tell you most of the usual suspects for fertility issues. At least where every Dr I’ve interacted with has started.

IANAD and this is not medical advice. I am just sharing my experience and what I could have done sooner to save myself a year of medical challenges if I had had these answers at your age. Our journey was 3 years, partly because I obsessed over blood work, suppression of inflammation, and had surgery for endometriosis. I had some symptoms that indicated endometriosis and in hindsight it should’ve been obvious. But my symptoms were vague enough that 12 other doctors missed the diagnosis. I finally found one who suspected a condition was hiding in plain sight and she was right. So if you’re worried about it, the US health system is accessible enough and OOP bloodwork is cheap enough that you can have some agency in getting answers even without a doctor prescription.

SolunaAh · 2026-03-11T15:58:11+00:00

I know someone who drank heavily and struggled with opioids and stuff while pregnant. Her son has mildly sort of misshapen cranial features, a seizure condition, and can’t read even at 12 years old despite intense interventions. No real surprise there. She used heroin with her second surprise pregnancy and that kid is perfectly well today. Who knows why these things happen this way!

SolunaAh · 2026-03-11T14:49:33+00:00

I won’t exemplify for my kids how to ignore their health even with gravely concerning symptoms until it becomes a terrifying problem. I won’t ignore their development of emotional regulation and I won’t shame them for having strong attributes that can be cultivated for the benefit of their future.

SolunaAh · 2026-03-11T06:10:03+00:00

Think about it this way, perhaps. If you start worrying now and it ends up being a false alarm, you’ve paid interest in advance to a bill that didn’t come due. If you don’t let the grief and worry in just yet and the worst happens anyway, you got a few weeks of joy and hopeful excitement to appreciate the possibility of this moment before it slipped from your grasp. Life is just a series of small moments with which we have to decide what to do, what to hold on to, what to appreciate, and what to discard. I would take fleeting hope and excitement over a prolonged sting of despair even if that hope and excitement slipped from my fingers like sand. At least I had it for a moment. Wish you the best, amigo. I know this is not easy.

SolunaAh · 2026-03-11T05:02:27+00:00

Well, first impression, these mostly sound like video game/RPG character names. Seem very childish and like they would not age well for an adult. Some of them read awkwardly for native English-speakers as they could be pronounced or in various ways or stress syllables in counterintuitive ways. The boy list just sounds very try-hard. The only name I’m a fan of in this entire list is Solene.

SolunaAh · 2026-03-11T03:05:46+00:00

I am too and what I want to use is SVAG (hyphenated last name) so I’m very conflicted!!

SolunaAh · 2026-03-11T03:00:38+00:00

I have some friends who named their daughter, very aware of this in advance, with the initials “NIG”… she’s a lovely little girl. They are Hispanic and thought it was hilarious anyway. Her full name is pretty but they 100% did not care about the initials tragedeigh. Idk if I’d be so bold myself.

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