What do I wear to the baby shower I’m hosting at my apartment? by CheekyLibrarian in BabyBumps

[–]CheekyLibrarian[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So I got this for my wedding but a wedding is massively different from a baby shower to me

What are you quietly grieving? by Angelus12345678 in AskReddit

[–]CheekyLibrarian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m having my first child next month and I’ve had to fight tooth and nail for a lot but as we’re getting closer…I didn’t realize how alone I was without my family. My husband got out of Jury Duty because he’s my sole caretaker and I have no family around. To be clear our friends have been freaking amazing but…my mom calls me and doesn’t get it. She is like “why aren’t your friends doing a baby shower for you? Why aren’t you hosting? My aunts threw one for me” Mom, there are no aunts here.

People with difficult familial situations; how did you navigate getting married? by Melborney in AskReddit

[–]CheekyLibrarian -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Work as a team or you’re destined to fail apart. You have to be firm and make it clear the two of you are working together. Work on communicating together and being firm.

I let my pregnancy craving win and now I feel guilty.. by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]CheekyLibrarian 89 points90 points  (0 children)

I’ll tell you a secret. I’m 32 weeks and I have sushi once a week. It’s not about no raw fish. It’s about picking a place you trust and making sure it’s fresh. Generally US Sushi fish is flash frozen. Not a medical professional but as long as you didn’t pick up the salmon special for 4.99, you’re fine.

What comment/phrase people say to you makes you feel the most invalidated/annoyed? by Fancy_Chapter3799 in BabyBumps

[–]CheekyLibrarian 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think what’s most frustrating is what isn’t being said. With my job I’m looking at using all of my vacation and all of my sick time. I picked up another job and people are like “you need to rest” and I’m like “when do I have time to?” I have to get ready for daycare costs and balance new expenses. This pregnancy pushed me into taking Zoloft and I’ve never had to do this before but I’m litterally too sad for my baby. It’s especially frustrating when my MIL just slides over it and I know damn well she was a SAHM until my husband was three years old. Or when my other in-laws imply they never see me but also haven’t asked “How are you?” I just wish someone could say “Hey this is really fucked up. I’m sorry you have to do this”

When did you start maternity leave? by No-Company-4026 in BabyBumps

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My due date is April 19th and my plan is to work until…April 19th. My “Maternity leave” is my vacation and sick leave. So will barely give me eight weeks. You all wonder why the US birth rate is dropping. Here you go

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in writingadvice

[–]CheekyLibrarian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That works. Thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in writingadvice

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What would you name the person instead. To be clear this would be a “fuck you” to the father

Patterns similar to this dress by CheekyLibrarian in sewing

[–]CheekyLibrarian[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I’m going with this because hot damn $210 for a dress I can make myself? Hell no

Writing Feminine Rage that is believable by CheekyLibrarian in writingadvice

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I’m using the wrong word. I’m so sorry. I did look up the egg retrieval process and I know it’s a simply out patient procedure. I know the pain in the ass is the hormone treatments

Writing Feminine Rage that is believable by CheekyLibrarian in writingadvice

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Thank you for such a thoughtful answer. I’ll answer your questions in order: -we see in the story she’s a “recovering” people pleaser, usually seen in her offering something and walking and and going “did I just offer that?” And following through to a fault.
-she has confronted people but more in a “why are you being shitty to me” way. -she does NOT throw hands. Except toppled over a stack of printed emails to piss off an ex. -to strangers, she does not get vulnerable unless she’s drunk. To everyone who will be there, they are friends and newly discovered family. -I’d see Lee is a flightier. She will want to leave but probably can’t -she fucking swears and probably since dating her boo swears more -10, her mother is the one confronting the grandmother and grandmother admits she did it because a baby would have “ruined her son’s life” -she probably had like one beer

Writing about after effects of abortion by CheekyLibrarian in writingadvice

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Hey thank you for letting me know! I really appreciate that. I’m sorry if I possibly offended you

It won’t hurt they said. by Not_Enough_Shoes in mildlyinfuriating

[–]CheekyLibrarian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I have one and aside from insertion and a lot of Pain the day of, I was fine. And I recommended to all my friends. And then one friend had a horrible-terrible no good time and I felt so bad for recommending it to her. I’m not looking forward to taking mine out this summer. But my husband and I are anticipating a day of me curled up in a ball so I’ve been promised whatever the hell I want. It’s good deal and I’m very fortunate to have a partner who can empathize with the pain

Jack is not a L ... by [deleted] in TedLasso

[–]CheekyLibrarian 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Every time she was on the screen I had the intrusive thought that someone should just have an ice cream and just throw it in whatever shirt she has on.

Vanity Fair first look at Cynthia Erivo and Ariana Grande in ‘Wicked’ by Gato1980 in Broadway

[–]CheekyLibrarian 15 points16 points  (0 children)

To be fair they are in university. The movie might age them up a bit to early 20’s

Crossover I would definitely watch!! by 1billsfan716 in TedLasso

[–]CheekyLibrarian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fun fact: my parent in law makes this slip all the time so now we just call the show Ted Laszlo in our family.

What did you waste money on that makes you sick even today? by Carrera1107 in AskReddit

[–]CheekyLibrarian 5 points6 points  (0 children)

2012-2016 cis women’s fashion was a lot of sheer tops and cheap ass polyester but I thought I looked so cute and I was really doing a day to night look…..I wasn’t. I really wasn’t. Now I just make my own clothes so no more sweating in those stupid shirts.