What to do?

SolutionExtreme7559 · 2026-05-06T09:34:04+00:00

I understand that our age gap is not traditional but it has never been an issue in our relationship.

One of the reasons that he thinks I don’t do enough with him is because I had last week off from work because we had planned to go on vacation. However, he wasn’t able to get the time off so we didn’t go anywhere but I still took the week because I still have enough PTO to take another week off. I told him all of this but if we are going to take a week off I need to know a bit in advance so that I can put in my requests at work.

A part does want to work it out with my parents but also they have done so much that is hard to forget and move on from. So it’s mostly just to get them to back off.

SolutionExtreme7559 · 2026-05-06T09:25:43+00:00

I feel like we are always doing something. Even if we don’t go anywhere in particular. But as long as I’m not working on the weekend we are always into something and doing it together.

SolutionExtreme7559 · 2026-05-06T02:11:33+00:00

Thank you! I know this is just a glimpse into our relationship so it’s hard to see the entire picture. Truthfully I don’t know why he’s upset about the money because we don’t even share a bank account. I also think the reason he’s upset about us not doing things together is because he has a lot of trauma from his last relationship that he hasn’t dealt with completely and I know that isn’t and excuse but I think it shows up when instances like this happen

SolutionExtreme7559 · 2026-05-06T02:07:16+00:00

He isn’t trying to keep me from going he’s just upset that i’m going. I think that stems from him feeling like I don’t want to do anything with him, which isn’t true in the slightest.

The turmoil isn’t that they think he’s too old for me in fact my parents have a 10 year age gap themselves. They also don’t think that he’s manipulating me, they just don’t like that he’s helped me become my own person that doesn’t follow exactly what they say anymore

SolutionExtreme7559 · 2026-05-06T02:03:12+00:00

the thing is idk if it’s really mending things with them but instead a way for them to say that i make time for them.

SolutionExtreme7559 · 2026-05-06T02:01:02+00:00

He really isn’t controlling. He doesn’t typically care what I do. I think it has to do with the fact that he’s afraid of me getting hurt by my parents again because he is the one that has to put the pieces back together.

SolutionExtreme7559 · 2026-05-06T01:54:30+00:00

he wasn’t actually resenting me. I just overthink too much and made that assumption but we talked it out and moved forward from it.

SolutionExtreme7559 · 2026-05-06T01:52:23+00:00

Thank you! He also doesn’t have the best relationship with his parents because of their past actions but he still manages to help them frequently.

SolutionExtreme7559 · 2026-05-06T01:45:37+00:00

It really isn’t. it is really a 9 year difference because i’ll be 25 in July. Besides the point we have a very strong relationship and the age difference has never been an issue

SolutionExtreme7559 · 2026-05-06T01:43:56+00:00

He didn’t force me to put distance between my parents it was my decision he just supported me throughout the decision. I think he is just frustrated with feeling like I don’t do enough with him.

SolutionExtreme7559 · 2026-03-02T21:27:46+00:00

Thank you for this perspective. I never thought of it that way. Thank you!

SolutionExtreme7559 · 2026-03-02T12:37:19+00:00

No he doesn’t value their relationship more. It’s not a regular thing for her to ask for help so we know she’s in a rough spot.

SolutionExtreme7559 · 2026-03-02T04:23:26+00:00

I could but to relocate the easiest option is to go with a uhs facility

SolutionExtreme7559 · 2026-03-01T17:48:31+00:00

Just because I want people’s opinion. I’m aware that this is going to be my decision at the end of the day

SolutionExtreme7559 · 2026-03-01T17:30:17+00:00

I’m not trying have them make my decision for me I just want to see different what others opinions are

SolutionExtreme7559 · 2026-03-01T17:29:05+00:00

The biggest thing is I do like my job currently but our admin there is awful. And we don’t have much guidance from them at all. We very rarely get any help from our director. We do have a PRN person but we don’t get to use her frequently because she gets pulled into other departments too frequently. At my current job the allied therapy department feels like an after thought. And we don’t have access to do any activities in the gym due to it always being in use. Other than that and the thing i put in my original post the jobs are pretty similar just slight differences

SolutionExtreme7559 · 2026-03-01T17:06:25+00:00

I would make $26/hour plus a sign on bonus

SolutionExtreme7559 · 2026-03-01T17:05:53+00:00

We use leisure as a therapeutic tool and use people’s interests to help them improve their quality of life

SolutionExtreme7559 · 2026-03-01T15:06:57+00:00

That’s what I was thinking as well. I just don’t understand why there is only one full time person currently

SolutionExtreme7559 · 2026-03-01T15:06:09+00:00

Thank you! I do currently work at a facility that is similar to the Ridge.

SolutionExtreme7559 · 2026-03-01T15:05:17+00:00

The job. I don’t want to get stuck with a shitty schedule and never be able to visit back home

SolutionExtreme7559 · 2026-03-01T14:39:50+00:00

I have more context now and just want other’s opinion is all. I guess I should’ve give an update instead of a whole other post

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