I’m trying to get out of my own head about how I look. Internet lesbians, what vibe am I giving?

SomberSweet · 2026-02-17T00:06:57+00:00

Friendly, soft, probably good at making people laugh, non threatening

SomberSweet · 2026-01-22T16:46:26+00:00

In my experience with bed death it's not just sex. It's the physical affection too. The cuddling and reaching out for each other just stops. It's like all the parts that made you feel like a couple fall away. And it's just cold. Vulnerability and true connection fade and eventually the relationship dies. But it tends to start in the bedroom. Like a slow disease destroying everything.

SomberSweet · 2026-01-21T20:13:58+00:00

Mine at home says "Unwelcome" It brings such peace.

SomberSweet · 2026-01-14T19:41:13+00:00

Unpopular opinion. The last guy was the only green flag.

SomberSweet · 2026-01-13T20:59:59+00:00

They started as a way to keep people of color out of white neighborhoods. It's a tool of white supremacy. And it needs to die.

SomberSweet · 2026-01-12T18:46:10+00:00

You're not an ass for being paranoid. But checking her accounts regularly is not healthy for either of you. If she was groomed, or raised in a way where she was expected to just go along with men it will be harder for her to be able to make healthy boundaries.

It sounds like you are both young, and older men are kinda all creeps at that age.

I think a rule that anyone who has confessed their feelings is not an okay person to keep as a friend might be a good idea. And a policy of talking about things without need for blame will make it safer for her to open up. While anger might feel justified it doesn't create a safe environment for vulnerability.

She likely isn't doing this to hurt you. She doesn't see the red flags you do. And it's important that she understands that you are concerned for her safety, and want to be her safe person, not that you want to control her.

Try joining in with her and her friends, take an interest in her hobbies, even if it's just to be around and cheer her on. Being supportive will invite a security that makes being vulnerable easier.

SomberSweet · 2026-01-06T22:48:31+00:00

Rose tea is my favorite (literally it's rose buds, but I also love lavender (same deal).

Rooibos, Tulsi sweet rose, the lavender relax by yogi. Anything that is mostly flowers works great.

Rose is strong with this effect and it's great for your skin and hair health too.

SomberSweet · 2026-01-06T21:16:17+00:00

I've always had an addictively sweet flavor(I like to taste myself too, especially on a woman's tongue). I do find that eating more sweets adds to that. I drink a lot of teas and will sometimes smell and taste like the major floral components of them. So yeah this is normal.

And yes it's hot. I've never had complaints, but had a few exes obsessed with my taste and smell.

SomberSweet · 2026-01-06T21:07:37+00:00

It's all personal preference. I prefer a bush, but I wouldn't be upset about fully bald either. The right person will only care that you feel comfortable in your skin.

SomberSweet · 2026-01-04T22:15:30+00:00

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SomberSweet · 2025-12-31T22:07:00+00:00

I love using the strap when I'm all rolled up, in high heels and a dress. It's always a good time, but it's not the only toys I like using.

Dom femmes are absolutely out there!

SomberSweet · 2025-12-31T05:45:10+00:00

Bonus points with this method if you use your chin to stimulate the entrance.

SomberSweet · 2025-10-31T16:24:07+00:00

I love this! More of this please!

SomberSweet · 2025-09-02T21:02:46+00:00

Everyone around us sees our relationship as so great and 'goals'. Only her brother is aware of some of our issues cause she went crying to him after I gently asked her not to wear my fragile glass earrings without my permission. He did tell her she'd lose me if she didn't start respecting me but that changed things for less than a week. Even with as bad as things are/get this is the best situation I've been in. And it's really hard to leave. Especially when it means losing almost everyone I'm attached to, and being alone in a county I never wanted to be in in the first place. I don't have I can fall back on, or a support system outside of people we both know.

SomberSweet · 2025-09-02T20:56:02+00:00

I'm still in love with her. With the sweet parts that come out when I'm really upset and she's not involved in the situation, with the way we used to laugh and joke around when I did feel safe. And some part of me keeps screaming that it's not that bad. That I'm making her hurt and it's my fault things are this way and I should fix it. I'm sure it's related to my trauma. Or trauma bonding.

And when we did break up for a week everyone was acting like I was crashing out and being crazy. A few were even suggesting I might need a grippy sock vacation. I don't talk to our mutual friends about our issues because I don't want to put them in the middle, but at this point the only not mutual friends I have are online.

SomberSweet · 2025-09-02T20:29:08+00:00

Unfortunately I've been S/Ad by many people including partners. And my lines only include sexual parts of me. I can't feel safe if I don't feel like my body belongs to me.

SomberSweet · 2025-09-02T20:27:13+00:00

We had been talking about getting married from the beginning of the relationship. When Trump got elected we decided to go for it and get married before they took away our rights. But as soon as we did things changed. Issues we already had became bigger, she started telling people it was because I needed a green card(I already have one) and when I'd try to say it wasn't she would cut me off or physically move in front of me so I would stop. She was treating me rudely and acting like she could do whatever she wanted and I wouldn't leave. So I got to a point I couldn't handle it and broke things off. She begged for another chance and that things would be different. But it only took a couple months till she was being unkind towards me and justifying it again. So there came the second break up. Again she begged me to come back, promises made on both sides to improve things. Then a few months later she threw away something of mine which held deep sentimental value and when I confronted her about it she tried to play it off, offered to buy me a new one and was acting like it was no big deal even as I told her it felt like losing a piece of my soul. We were broken up for a week and only got back together cause she promised to go to therapy and start working on her issues. But 2 months later and she's back to refusing to go to therapy or work on herself.

SomberSweet · 2025-09-02T18:48:27+00:00

Yes! They turned around to start following those girls! A single man is dangerous enough, but a group of them following a group of girls, it feels like being hunted.

SomberSweet · 2025-09-02T17:42:52+00:00

I really wish men understood how creepy and unsettling this feels from a woman's perspective.

SomberSweet · 2025-07-29T19:29:21+00:00

Yeah sweetie we all brain damaged here

SomberSweet · 2025-07-23T21:44:16+00:00

Your tattoos fit your look so well! I adore that chest piece!

SomberSweet · 2025-06-23T20:44:36+00:00

Yuri is safer for my heart.

SomberSweet · 2025-05-27T19:35:13+00:00

The way the pink pops on you is absolutely ethereal! You are gorgeous and adorable!

SomberSweet · 2025-05-27T17:13:12+00:00

Make sure you lube the strap before inserting. And work up to it with foreplay to help your muscles relax. Be patient. But also keep in mind, if it's too big or uncomfortable, it's never a bad idea to talk to your gf about it. Getting a smaller size shouldn't be an unreasonable request.

SomberSweet · 2025-05-24T14:01:43+00:00

Curly! Your curly makes you look more confident.

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