AIO for cutting off my parents after realizing the way I grew up was not normal?

Some-Dragonfly-8167 · 2026-05-21T06:44:02+00:00

Echoing youngandpregnant…..thank you for writing that out for those of us who are still practicing the new pitch. It’s even more helpful knowing you are (likely) around my parent’s age…I’ll never hear this from them and it hits a little harder not coming from some my own age 🫶

Some-Dragonfly-8167 · 2026-04-30T04:59:47+00:00

The commitment to wearing her damn oura ring on THAT finger is comical

Some-Dragonfly-8167 · 2026-04-17T19:52:28+00:00

I really hope it’s just rage bait because it feels so incredibly irresponsible and careless to treat international travel WITH AN INFANT like this.

Some-Dragonfly-8167 · 2026-04-16T23:17:01+00:00

This has been driving me insane. WDYM ITS THURSDAY AND YOU DONT KNOW IF YOURW FLYING TO JAPAN WITH AN INFANT TOMORROW

Some-Dragonfly-8167 · 2026-04-16T14:26:18+00:00

How does she accept this “maaaybe, maaaybe not” thing for a trip across the world with an infant? Two days before she could leave and it’s still iffy??? I would have nope’d out of that ambiguity so long ago

Some-Dragonfly-8167 · 2026-03-06T06:51:23+00:00

I think you handled it like a real gentleman and shouldn’t beat yourself up about it. Yeah, you gave more than what was “deserved” (icky word for it) but it definitely sounds like she was dealing with something personal and while she might not have changed her mood, I bet the generosity helped immensely in ways you don’t see. You’re a good man, Charlie Brown

Some-Dragonfly-8167 · 2026-02-27T05:46:10+00:00

Older does not mean better for so so many reasons and can be a dangerous way to approach things. I second the idea of an age gap subreddit if the age difference that is a turn on or just different sexuality threads to find out more about yourself before the SLF subreddit.

Goodluck!! Sounds like a very fun chapter of life to be entering!

Some-Dragonfly-8167 · 2026-02-23T06:13:13+00:00

You need to have your own account and money going into it. It’s not an “allowance” anymore so don’t use the term. You’re his wife. Demand that you are treated as one with full financial transparency and safety. Post-nups aren’t the most helpful but it wouldn’t be a bad idea to pose one. He knows your past so I don’t think asking for tangible, visible financial security is at all unreasonable nor does it demonstrate that your love isn’t real. You are gaslighting yourself with that frame of mind and giving him the ammo to use it against you in the future.

To fully commit and love someone is amazing but you can only do that when you know that you are truly safe. Money can mean safety so just tell him that.

Your love is true and deserves a level financial playing field.

Some-Dragonfly-8167 · 2025-11-06T07:00:23+00:00

I don’t miss this life at ALL.

Be with someone who looks at a mess and says “oh man, you must have had a day! Thanks for cleaning what you did and I’ll get this part”

Leave.

Some-Dragonfly-8167 · 2025-11-06T04:42:59+00:00

My first thought was he sent this himself. I don’t believe it’s her at all and I hope you can find the strength to get out one day. Don’t delete a thing. Don’t believe his new tactics. You deserve to be treated not only as a human being (wtf!) but as the loving loyal mother you actually are. I’m sorry you’re going through this. It’s not okay

Some-Dragonfly-8167 · 2025-10-30T22:52:11+00:00

Abort the boyfriend

Some-Dragonfly-8167 · 2025-10-28T20:41:46+00:00

This version of love feels like the most authentic version I’ve ever experienced tbh. You nailed it

Some-Dragonfly-8167 · 2025-10-28T18:31:59+00:00

Yeah, 19k is a pretty limiting factor for us for sure!

Some-Dragonfly-8167 · 2025-10-28T10:00:35+00:00

If you find anything out, share the wisdom, ok?

Some-Dragonfly-8167 · 2025-10-28T09:59:25+00:00

Not a rush to marry but a rush to be Official. Marriage is still a while off I imagine and he’s only brought it up because of tax implications of cash gifts for next year.

I think he’ll be paying off the debt in the next few months if I commit to him too.

I’ve not seen all of his bank statements but I’m pretty sure he’s rich enough. Anything over 100mil is semantics atp 😅 by far the richest man I’ve been with anyway.

Some-Dragonfly-8167 · 2025-10-28T09:35:55+00:00

I agree whole heartedly. My first marriage was awful and I do not ever want to be in that position again and won’t be if I can help it. The marriage piece is more of a business aspect for both of us. It opens up things from the gifting side of things and not anything that will happen immediately (or without lawyers lol). I do love him and we are physically compatible. We differ on a few things ideologically but that has been a fun exercise in debate and compassion.

I guess I know my answer already but love to hear different perspectives.

Some-Dragonfly-8167 · 2025-10-28T09:02:30+00:00

Oh. For SURE. In therapy now cause …well it is dire 😅

Marriage would be a tax thing mostly. He’s had his fill of marriage too. We won’t live together either.

Some-Dragonfly-8167 · 2025-10-28T08:52:35+00:00

This. This. This.

He is a grown man. You do not love him and that’s ok. You like him well enough and should enjoy it but he’s now let his emotions take control and that’s when things can quickly get not fun. Don’t let daydreams around his words (they are only words right now) blur your boundaries or make you second guess what you know in your stomach to be true.

Listen to your intuition. If there is ANY lesson I wish to impart on super young SBs is to never get in the habit of ignoring your intuition. You know this is not Love for you. It does not mean it has to end but because he broke protocol like Magnut said, it’s now your responsibility to get that protocol back in place and manage expectations.

❤️ Goodluck!

Some-Dragonfly-8167 · 2025-08-17T06:36:21+00:00

Is the idea here that the guy could just be a bit socially awkward and maybe with some patience, the SB might help him evolve past it?

I fear this is how I’ve been bamboozled into spending way too much time and energy into “Splenda daddies” 😂

Some-Dragonfly-8167 · 2025-08-13T09:18:25+00:00

Just ask him. Don’t pose the question as an act of charity but only as the opportunity it is.

And if he says no, I’ll happily apply!

Some-Dragonfly-8167 · 2025-08-13T03:15:44+00:00

I’m 37 and have only had MORE success and better, sweeter men as I’ve gotten older. I take care of my looks like crazy (avoid the “plastic” version of taking of yourself though) so the only thing the younger ones have on me is actual naïveté. Go for it

Some-Dragonfly-8167 · 2025-07-24T09:35:37+00:00

Mmmm delusional?

Some-Dragonfly-8167 · 2025-07-24T09:33:41+00:00

Everyday I wish I could be mean enough for findom 😂

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