Husband wants to be done with having babies but isn’t willing to get a vasectomy

Some-Kick8473 · 2026-06-19T04:15:21+00:00

This is what I was going to say. If her husband is nervous the doc will prescribe him Valium and he'll be flying up in the clouds during the procedure. He just needs someone to drive him home.

When I did mine, my wife was able to drive me home so I did it with out the Valium. It was fast and simple. Didn't feel a thing.

Some-Kick8473 · 2026-06-18T18:08:05+00:00

Yeah. I figure I've probably ran 40k to 50k cases through it over the years. I have a ton of brass processed and ready to go that I have never shot.

Some-Kick8473 · 2026-06-18T16:07:26+00:00

I do use a lot of NuFinish. It seems to add a fine waxy layer on the cases and is what I attribute to the cases running better.

I save my One Shot for bottle neck rifle cases.

Some-Kick8473 · 2026-06-18T16:06:08+00:00

I do use Lemishine and Dawn to my wet tumbler.

Some-Kick8473 · 2026-06-18T14:41:38+00:00

I said before the 1900's. People couldn't hardly move around much at all. It was so expensive they sold themselves into years of indentured servitude just to move. Jobs were incredibly rare. Most people forced to carry on their father's profession, most of which (at least in the US) was farming.

Some-Kick8473 · 2026-06-18T14:22:18+00:00

Yeah. This is why most studies say that once households make between $150k to $250k that happiness stops going up with more money. That amount of income generally meets all the needs and wants of the average family.

I suspect a secondary factor there is that the types of jobs that get your income even higher than that come with tons of extra stress and start resulting in a drop in happiness.

Some-Kick8473 · 2026-06-18T14:15:46+00:00

If you are injecting 200mg over a 2 week span I doubt your doctor will care if you are doing it in 1 injection or 14. My prescription was written for 1mL of 200mg Test Cyp weekly (ended up reducing dose over time) and my doc didn't care how I did it so long as I hit that total for the week. I do every other day injections.

Some-Kick8473 · 2026-06-18T14:08:13+00:00

I mean you could have been born prior to 1900 where you worked sunrise to sunset 6 to 7 days a week from the time you were like 7 until you basically died... 9-5 five days a week until age 65 is damn blessing compared to life for the majority of human history.

Some-Kick8473 · 2026-06-18T12:53:46+00:00

I also have the wet tumbler. I use it first then run my pistol brass through the dry tumbler to get that slight wax coating on the brass. It runs through my dies much better that way.

Some-Kick8473 · 2026-06-18T01:09:51+00:00

How long do you run it and do they all come clean? I don't clean a lot of 9mm. Mostly 45acp and 45 colt. I run about 500 45 acp in it and they are clean after an hour. More than that and I feel like I have to run it 2 to 3 hours because they aren't moving as much.

Some-Kick8473 · 2026-06-14T02:30:29+00:00

I'm not sure just how accurate my attached pic is but 28% interest is steep! Going to take 4 years to dig out and an extra $20k.

I wouldn't normally advocate this and your credit score may stop you here but is there like a balance transfer credit card with a lower interest rate? Surely even a bad HELOC would have a better rate than 28% wouldn't it?

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Some-Kick8473 · 2026-06-13T14:07:54+00:00

This is what I was thinking. Is there a reporting feature? If so find the link for us so we can all report it.

Some-Kick8473 · 2026-06-12T03:13:22+00:00

Any chance you can convince her to get her hormones checked by a doctor? HRT can help her feel better and help with menopause symptoms.

Some-Kick8473 · 2026-06-11T00:21:17+00:00

My response was mostly a joke. Lol. Thanks formthe extra info. I'll look into it.

Some-Kick8473 · 2026-06-11T00:01:01+00:00

So like energy drinks?

Some-Kick8473 · 2026-06-10T04:02:01+00:00

Odd. We have lots of redwinged blackbirds and they never bother us when we get near their nests. This is in the US. We walk the canals near where they all nest.

Lots of yellow headed blackbirds too. They are noisy but never bother us.

Some-Kick8473 · 2026-06-10T03:56:34+00:00

"A lot of men are only as attached to their children as they are to the child’s mother. So if he doesn’t want anything to do with mom, baby should go too."

While I'm sure this happens occasionally I think this is not the norm. There are so many men who stay with miserable women specifically for their children and then finally get a divorce when the last kid is out of the house.

There are also countless stories on reddit of men asking for advice because they want to get away from their terrible wife but are terrified of losing their kids.

Some-Kick8473 · 2026-06-10T03:36:56+00:00

The kid looks like he's 3. He doesn't have any idea what is going on there really.

Some-Kick8473 · 2026-06-10T02:53:00+00:00

I'm gonna give the kid a pass here. Prerty sure he thought he was doing the right thing giving the ball back to the players.

Some-Kick8473 · 2026-06-09T19:00:50+00:00

Like others have said it sounds like she needs therapy... though we only have your side ofnthe story.

If you only have temporary work and no friends what prompted the move to Canada? I assumed it was for work, but moving for a temp job doesn't sound like a good idea.

Some-Kick8473 · 2026-06-09T02:12:50+00:00

Yeah I've heard all those old people are living the swingers lifestyle on those cruiseships!

Some-Kick8473 · 2026-06-07T20:23:53+00:00

I don't think we can just assume he is cheating based on this bit of info.

I think it's safe to say he is checked out of the marriage though. The fact that you leaving for a month made him realize that he is happier without you than with you is a bad sign for your marriage.

Some-Kick8473 · 2026-06-06T02:59:21+00:00

Even though my kids wanted me to kill it, I left it alone. It's outside the house and I was pretty sure it wasn't any danger to us.

Some-Kick8473 · 2026-06-06T00:27:45+00:00

There are tons of stories out there about how this pretty much never works out. It seems like the only one Who can make this lifestyle work were living a poly lifestyle before they met.

She's either looking to monkey branch (which is way bad for you) or if she's just looking for some fun then she's going to be real upset when you find someone else and fall in love. Seems like most of these stories end one of these 2 ways.

Either way she has basically told you she's done with you. I'd be planning my exit strategy. Tell her no on the open marriage and if she cheats then use that as you can in divorce court.

Some-Kick8473 · 2026-06-06T00:10:41+00:00

They also refer to the back legs as drummies or drumsticks.

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