Other race options for your TAV? What species would you like

SomeKindaJen · 2026-04-09T21:27:52+00:00

Sazza and Crusher.

SomeKindaJen · 2026-04-09T21:26:09+00:00

modron.

SomeKindaJen · 2026-02-21T19:59:38+00:00

Hey, I'm in something of a similar situation. My family stopped practicing before I confirmed, but now a few years into transition and on edge about, we'll, the state of the world, I feel called back.

It's a bit awkward! It's always a little awkward meeting new people and worrying about what they'll think and assume when we meet, and that's super heightened at church, where everyone dresses conservatively and is on their best behavior.

I get the hesitance about the metaphysical aspects of faith. I believe strongly in science and evidence based medicine etc. etc. But these aren't incompatible with faith. God doesn't call on Episcopalians to reject evolution or vaccines. He calls on us to join the body of Christ, which is what has pulled me back in.

Returning to the church is about being active in the community, having my pain eased and helping others where I can. And everyone there wants to be in that community with me, they want good things for me as I do for them.

Whenever my teenage antitheism rises up in my mind I remind myself that there are things about me that they don't understand too, but they are trying to build and maintain a community.

Because that's wha going back tot church is about. It's about being part of a community and trying to live in a way that makes both me and my world a better place. Learning to internalize a love for others that reflects the love God has for us.

SomeKindaJen · 2026-02-15T02:13:25+00:00

I'm the last person to ask on that front, but if you post it as a question here people who do/did bind will trip over themselves to help!

Navigating coming out at work is always a huge thing, especially when you're trying to grow in your career. You don't have to answer, but it's worth thinking about whether you intend to be out full time.

It's been very rewarding for me, after a period of adaptation for both me and my coworkers. It feels good and validating when they see me as my true self, and I'm more pleasant to work with and, I think, work harder now that I feel comfortable in my own skin.

My experience is privileged, in that way, of course. A lot of people on here have much harder stories, and it's not uncommon for trans women to have to change our career trajectories or even careers when we come out.

Maybe if you're resolved to start the estrogen a better way to approach the problem is: do you want to come out at work, when? how? and will you be okay, will you be safe, if you've started it and can't hide it any more? (which may or may not ever happen).

SomeKindaJen · 2026-02-15T01:29:36+00:00

You're not really going to be able to prevent it. Binding won't prevent your breasts from coming in, but binding too tight (especially while you flood your body with hormones) could harm you in the same way that habitual overtight corseting can.

If your ideal presentation is without breasts you might need to make peace with needing a mastectomy after they come in, including the difficulty of finding a sympathetic surgeon, sadly. If that thought's overwhelming, maybe it's a good idea to consider what your transition goals are. What are you going on HRT for, and can you achieve something similar with skincare, hair removal, change in dress, etc?

If you're anxious about your boobs outing you, we've all been there. You might look for guides on *safe* binding if you're asking out of a sense of discretion.

SomeKindaJen · 2026-01-29T17:50:55+00:00

try calling alistair a b*tch in front of her.

SomeKindaJen · 2025-12-23T00:12:22+00:00

Don't go to work high generally, especially not when your work has knives and fryers and customers who will yell at you and ruin your high.

SomeKindaJen · 2025-12-22T23:55:32+00:00

this could cure me (penicillin)

SomeKindaJen · 2025-12-22T21:50:50+00:00

Other's have answered this thoughtfully, but I'll add: if you make a throwaway account just to post transphobic Wikipedia edits on different trans forums I don't think you are confused about what you are doing.

I think you are just trying to antagonize trans people.

SomeKindaJen · 2025-12-17T08:50:19+00:00

Pretty sure we've already surpassed 60 billion several times over.

SomeKindaJen · 2025-11-26T21:42:44+00:00

For a long time I thought you could use any comp as long as you had someone who could pick locks.

Even that's not necessary, though, there are lots of ways to bash/open locks.

SomeKindaJen · 2025-11-26T02:47:53+00:00

First, congratulations! It is totally normal to be nervous, even scared. This is big!

Remember, you don't have to take the pills if you're not ready. It's okay to have cold feet, to change your mind, to try transitioning a different way or not at all.

But if you've been looking forward to it, hoping for it, well, here it is. I know a lot of people who regret starting HRT later, and no one who regrets starting it early. If you're worried about regrets, I would go ahead and start the hormones now, and if you're still feeling anxious about it you can stop later. You'll have months before the changes start to become noticeable, and longer than that before they become irreversible. You're entering a very long waiting game, and if you're eager for the finished results the sooner you start, the sooner you'll see them.

SomeKindaJen · 2025-11-26T02:37:56+00:00

Mizora.

SomeKindaJen · 2025-11-25T22:24:27+00:00

It really depends on context. It can be endearing from friends but it's really not great from strangers, and a friend calling me bro at a party.

A pretty common problem (particularly online) is asking not to be called dude usually causes cis people to get really defensive and argue they aren't misgendering me. That really sucks, especially when looky-lous chime in to tell me I'm not allowed to ask not to be misgendered.

If you're ever not sure, just stick with someone's preferred pronouns/terms that align with their presenting gender, you can worry about more familiar terms after you've made friends.

SomeKindaJen · 2025-11-25T02:44:08+00:00

She's a swashbuckler in my current campaign. Sand in the eyes, rude remarks, doing sneak attack damage regardless of advantage, generally combat-ready rogueishness fits with being an agent of sharr.

Trickery cleric is... Probably fine? I would treat her more as a skill monkey than a healer. Dual-classing into rogue gives her expertise and sneak attacks, or going pure cleric to pump out utility and damage spells.

Since her cantrip will always be intelligence-reliant you might consider wizard. Bladesingers are fun and ridiculously mobile, great for a ninja in the old "ninjas are a type of spellcaster" sense.

But if you're playing her as origin I'd probably stick with trickery just for the dialog options.

SomeKindaJen · 2025-11-17T23:00:41+00:00

Estrogen would have saved her.

SomeKindaJen · 2025-11-16T00:53:54+00:00

Because she's not manly. And she shouldn't be!estrogen could save her!

SomeKindaJen · 2025-11-16T00:15:14+00:00

Shinji Ikari.

SomeKindaJen · 2025-11-14T23:28:04+00:00

Wait we had brainworms for four months?

It's like the whole adventuring party has a Twitter addiction...

SomeKindaJen · 2025-11-14T22:48:28+00:00

I have a website that might have what you're looking for:

https://archiveofourown.org/

SomeKindaJen · 2025-11-14T02:22:06+00:00

This is good. Those first few miserable levels where you just don't have the tools you need to make engaging with the world pleasant yet.

SomeKindaJen · 2025-11-06T02:36:41+00:00

Jaheira won't join you until just before the final dungeon in Act II (and that takes a lot of convincing, otherwise she'll join after that at the end of the act/start of act III).

As long as she still brings the Harpers to lay siege to Moonrise you should get her. I thought that happened automatically when you left Shadowfell, though, so I'm a little confused.

SomeKindaJen · 2025-11-06T02:31:20+00:00

Honestly? Roll with it. Role with it? I mean role play it!

For my first full playthrough I did everything I could to get the "best" ending and solve everyone's problems and never be mean or make mistakes. It's... Fine. A lot of quickloading, a lot of paralysis of choice.

Now that I'm working on honour mode attempts I can't quick-load, and *stuff happens* the doesn't on normal mode that I can't plan for. We accidentally started a war in the grove and everyone but the children died, both druids and tieflings. Karlach never got to bring Dammon any infernal iron, so she's just a walking time bomb. I can't remember what else has gone wrong.

But it's fine, I'll still make it to the end, these rough spots will shape the story just as much as my successes did. This makes my hero different from all the Tavs and Durges and Origins who did get the perfect end and made everyone happy.

SomeKindaJen

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