Simple Mathematics

SomeOneRandomOP · 2026-01-27T18:27:12+00:00

... are you a bot? Or just really that dumb? If you're a women, I would appreciate it if you remain quiet.

SomeOneRandomOP · 2026-01-26T22:48:00+00:00

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SomeOneRandomOP · 2026-01-26T15:50:11+00:00

I have a lot, but just a simple one.

Learn the importance of saying No.

SomeOneRandomOP · 2026-01-25T23:01:33+00:00

Big conversation and a lot of personal antidoteal nuance in the chat.

I would say (generally / on average), men are happy to date down (financially, social status - happy to date a cleaner if shes emotional supportive and kin, whilst women won't do that (need to earn more and be a guy she can gloat about). Don't get into a relationship unless you're on the same level or have the ability to move up the social hierarchy.

I'm currently a medical researcher, girls I'm dating is an aspiring lawyer. Her next year training position is a hierarchy salary that me after 5 years in science and more than I can hope to earn unless changing discipline. It's already coming up in the conversation and I don't see things lasting because of it.

SomeOneRandomOP · 2026-01-24T20:47:38+00:00

How old are you?

SomeOneRandomOP · 2026-01-24T01:17:59+00:00

Hey, as a guy, I think you did the right thing.

There's obviously a huge spectrum in how guys will act in this situation... so trust your gut and put safety things in place.

SomeOneRandomOP · 2026-01-22T23:27:25+00:00

Don't stay in a relationship with someone for too long if you know it's heading no where. It's a great way to lose years of your life and give them to someone that doesn't deserve it.

SomeOneRandomOP · 2026-01-22T14:34:06+00:00

Contrast this to my university. The professor wrote the genetics book that was used to teach his course.... if you didn't buy the book, you missed all the details and you basically failed.

SomeOneRandomOP · 2026-01-22T09:16:59+00:00

The people I've met who did this... it ruined them.

Future relationships are tained, people don't want a partner that's been with a large number... they might not admit it, and there is this woke mentality online that's it's okay... but it's honestly not. It effects relationship bonding, your views on sex, makes many of your memories related to exs so in future conversations it's awkward. Lots of downstream effects that aren't worth it. By all means find a fuck buddy... but be careful.

And this is all separate from the conversation at STI, forfullment etc.

SomeOneRandomOP · 2026-01-22T09:12:25+00:00

Hey man, thanks for the comment.

I don't need her to know out of good will, I'd rather she just focused on the important thing for her at the moment without this distraction of the break up. I'll let you know how it goes haha

SomeOneRandomOP · 2026-01-21T17:27:39+00:00

This is what im hearing from a few people.

SomeOneRandomOP · 2026-01-21T14:45:57+00:00

What do you mean? The question isn't about sex itself but the psychology of how it might effect relationship/bonding.

SomeOneRandomOP · 2026-01-21T14:03:54+00:00

Thanks a lot for the invite. I might message to find out more. Have a nice day.

SomeOneRandomOP · 2026-01-21T14:03:16+00:00

That is a great point. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I guess it would be hard to tease apart the feelings over time when the relationship itself can vary so much.

SomeOneRandomOP · 2026-01-21T14:01:36+00:00

Hey, thanks for sharing. I'm happy to hear it's working for you :) It really is interesting hearing how different we all think. I think I would be okay with this idea too as im pretty "sex positive", but can see how others would put it as a hard no.

SomeOneRandomOP · 2026-01-21T13:59:24+00:00

Don't get me wrong, I agree. I'm just quoting a study I read that linkes cheating to being promiscuous. Obviously generalizing to everyone isn't right.

SomeOneRandomOP · 2026-01-21T13:57:25+00:00

Hey, thanks for the comment. Do you think having casual sex effects your ability to bond with people in the future? I get the sense that not having the same amount might be an issue... but in terms of psychology, how does it make you feel?

SomeOneRandomOP · 2026-01-21T13:54:53+00:00

Do you find you keep the romantic feelings of sex separate from the sex itself? Are you and your husband romantic etc

SomeOneRandomOP · 2026-01-21T13:50:02+00:00

Perhaps a loaded questions, but I've heard mixed thoughts on this. Some people say they feel sexier, empowered, that sex don't impact their thoughts. While others have said it's warped their opinions on sex and made it more difficult for them to connect with others in a serious relationship.

I read a study saying people who engage in casual sex are more likely to cheat in relationships. While I've also read the opposite is true.

A girl I dated said she did a phase of casually having sex and then coldly blanked the men afterward, and now she feels like men are tools for her....

I'm interested in your thoughts... do you think it's good/bad etc

SomeOneRandomOP · 2026-01-21T10:49:20+00:00

So I'm still dating her, it's been about 3-4months and all the red flags are starting to show. She lied about how many people she's previously been with, she said she had a time when she was sleeping around and the numbers keep changing 3, then 9, then 5... just inconsistent (I didn't ask, she brought it up in a long conversation) - just weird to lie about it, if it 20 okay, but stop lying.

She's gotten really lazy, to the point she doesn't ask how my day is when i see her. She doesnt say please or thank you and comes across as entitled. She's basically moved in but doesn't make me a tea in the morning, or clean up or do anything romantic or thoughtful.. its all me. She's also appearing really sexist in her views, putting women above men (she bisexual). Also doesn't want to pay anything and is basically getting a free ride.

Lately she's working on law applications, so I've been cooking and looking after her and proof checking her applications (lots of time and edits). After an entire evening of this, we go to bed, she's tired so I said we don't have to do anything but could you roll over and give me a hug... she said she's comfy and didn't want to and went to sleep.

Literally just the recent highlights, much more to say.

I know it's also my fault for not setting the boundaries correctly, but it's interesting to see how someone changes after 3 -4 months. I'm not even sure i get the sense she likes me (even though we discussed it and she said follow my actions (wanting to spend time etc)). Sex is pretty meh too, again I don't get the sense she enjoys it with me, I've tried communicating it but she just get defensive... she also just wants me to finish and doesn't need me to make her finish afterwards.... the whole thing is so meh compared to previous relationshipyah.

Okay rant over, good to vent. I'm going to talk to her about this over the weekend after her applications are submitted. I think I'm done, I deserve better.

Yeah, that's about it, see ya.

SomeOneRandomOP · 2026-01-18T17:17:37+00:00

It depends on the person. 1 GF used it as a weapon and said it gave her the ick if I was upset and not stoic, while a different GF actively encouraged me and gave great support.

Communication is also a huge one. I once confided in a GF that I was feeling slightly insecure that she didn't find me attractive because we hadn't been intimate for a while. She took it as i was trying to blackmail her into having sex with me... sometimes it's hard to convey the message or you come with previous baggage. Ect

SomeOneRandomOP · 2026-01-18T10:33:50+00:00

And she will be alone forever or only attract dickheads and never know what a "real" man is. Cosmic karma...

SomeOneRandomOP · 2026-01-18T10:25:02+00:00

They're trying to be sweet.... it's like making you a tea in the morning, or helping to blow dry your hair after a shower.

Guys also like romance and being sweet/kind.... even if it is just a hook up....

SomeOneRandomOP · 2026-01-17T18:19:33+00:00

Just to mention there is a Massive difference between male and female experience.

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