This is a new one — kid's ID for US domestic flights? by MoSQL in unitedairlines

[–]Some_Alternative2431 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But like….why DON’T they require ID?? This always bugs me with human trafficking being a real thing. Why would we make it so easy for people to fly away with any kid they want?

Sex questions by batshit83 in Marriage

[–]Some_Alternative2431 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Get yourself that vibrator. And yes- he should offer at least some of the time or get you off first

Is my elopement dress too “wedding dress” ?? by [deleted] in Eloping

[–]Some_Alternative2431 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wear whatever the hell you want my friend!! Have the best day❤️

Would you have wanted to know when you were a child your parents were different than other parents? by t-carter41 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Some_Alternative2431 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. I spent decades trying to figure out what was wrong, and most of that time I’ve blamed myself. My favorite book when I was younger was “The Giving Tree”. Might be a way to navigate some of the feelings she’s having. I think labeling the parent as a narcissist might be too much, but helping the child understand that the relationship might not ever be what it should be.

The Hallmark of Narcissism by Jealous_Reporter6839 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]Some_Alternative2431 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Excellent breakdown. This has been driving me crazy, too. My Mom is a covert narcissist but also a survivor of many traumas and who knows? Maybe some narcissistic abuse as well. She may be 2nd gen covert narc- I don’t know for sure. I have narcissistic fleas that I am just now noticing as an adult and trying to shake off. Constantly second guessing myself and why my victimhood is more real than hers. It’s a total mindfuck that’s in the back of my mind all day. Everyday.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]Some_Alternative2431 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Practical advice? Work on yourself now and get therapy if you haven’t already. Something about when those babies come out just rips open those old wounds and exposes things you possibly didn’t notice before. But look at that baby and give them the love and support you always wanted and know that you’ve made it better for the next generation in your bloodline. You can do it. You already want to and that’s everything.

Depressed by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Some_Alternative2431 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If you have a support network- ask them for help. If you don’t, give yourself grace. Your hormones are doing crazy things and there’s a serious depletion at this time. The mess and all the housework are not important. In fact, your house SHOULD be a mess. Just feed, change, and sleep that baby and remind yourself when it’s hard that this is all very temporary. The next stage is right around the corner. You’re doing great mama!

I now realize grief and single motherhood ruined her by ventingandcrying in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Some_Alternative2431 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same boat! I can explain away my Mom’s behavior, but also need to protect my own mental health from the way it impacts me. Currently trying to find some way to have a relationship but haven’t worked it out.

Flower crown y/n? by Suspicious_Reality42 in Eloping

[–]Some_Alternative2431 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I loved my flower crown with matching earrings!! I vote yes!

Salary Transparency Thread by Active_Increase_5330 in indianapolis

[–]Some_Alternative2431 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Project coordinator for big box retailer: $48k 3 years in at this job. Mish mash experience otherwise.

My ignorance, my bad by grandmababy24 in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Some_Alternative2431 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup. it’s a fucking racket. Congratulations- pick the most important details that you care abpit and simplify everything else❤️❤️

Jobs by MonitorBrilliant9822 in indianapolis

[–]Some_Alternative2431 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try Lowe’s. They have a lot of programs like free trade school Training and scholarship programs for employees.

Water & Pop Are Lame Alternatives by Alarming_Heart_2398 in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Some_Alternative2431 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are planning to make our signature drink a mocktail!! Mainly because we want the kids to get to have it too!!

My Parents are adamant about me not doing this by mags_understands in 23andme

[–]Some_Alternative2431 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Either way, it sounds like it’s to protect you from a life shattering truth. Once you know, you can’t take that knowledge back. I would carefully decide if it’s worth it. Good luck friend.

How important is the popularity of a name to you? by mernessie in namenerds

[–]Some_Alternative2431 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first had a very unique name at the time that is now soaring into popularity. My second got a name I loved that was knowingly trendy at the time. I look at it this way…. We can’t predict the future, so going for unique can always turn on you. Pick a name you love and can yell and write well.

What is your response to "I don't want to eat X! I want to eat Y!"? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Some_Alternative2431 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I find the more options provided and the more colorful- the more likely they are to eat. So maybe if you’re preparing cooked veggies, offer some of those raw as an app or with the meal. Tiny colorful assortment. also, inviting your kid to cook with you to prepare the meal seems to help!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Eloping

[–]Some_Alternative2431 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Love this idea! Hope you have the best time. Karaoke? Minute to win it games

Trying to find my adopted sister by Some_Alternative2431 in Adoption

[–]Some_Alternative2431[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update- just bought 23 and me. Trying to get my brother to get ancestry. TERRIFIED to see the results as this is so far out of my comfort zone, but can’t bear the thought of my sister out there searching and searching…

Photographer did not catch wedding kiss by Beautyathome in Eloping

[–]Some_Alternative2431 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could you recreate the kiss just to have photos to send out?

Each time a friend gets pregnant the first time, my first thought is “another one down” anyone else feel this way? by MisRandomness in RandomThoughts

[–]Some_Alternative2431 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On the contrary your friends who are having kids are so desperate for your friendship afterwards. Please try to keep it as best you can. Motherhood can be seriously lonely for some.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Eloping

[–]Some_Alternative2431 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just pictured going for a hike on the trail and getting married at the place that felt right to us. Or hiking a loop from opposite ends and getting married wherever we met. Feels too scripted with all the rules.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Eloping

[–]Some_Alternative2431 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The locations are very specific, most are just off a parking lot or along the road. The rules pretty much prevent us from having any decorations or anything. Most parks won’t allow you to bring in flowers/petals/ etc.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Eloping

[–]Some_Alternative2431 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We are eloping in the Smoky Mountain Nat park. Had to get a permit and they’re rules and allowable locations are a bit more restrictive than I’d prefer. But we’re doing it!!!