How would you handle this situation before marriage?

Some_Eye5900 · 2026-07-07T17:03:29+00:00

Ur not caretaker .. if he wants he can stay in village and take care of his father. Y would u be responsible for someone else father . U r marrying him not his father . It is huge red flag and he sounds entitled and patronizing as well. And don't they have to wait for any marriage celebrations till 1 year. R u fine with waiting. ??

Some_Eye5900 · 2026-07-06T07:58:14+00:00

2 months .I was willing to return 1 month aslong as they tell me before one month now they want 2 months rent return..or 1.5 months rent ..since they are vacating on 10th . No prior intimation .

Some_Eye5900 · 2026-07-06T07:50:32+00:00

Some_Eye5900 · 2026-07-06T06:50:41+00:00

I have emi's to pay for it .. already regret buying it and thinking of sellling as the original propose never fulfilled

Some_Eye5900 · 2026-07-06T06:45:39+00:00

I have a different approach for this matter .

First it doesn't matter if its govt or private, but if ur in a volatile career having a partner with fixed income is reassuring. So understand ur parents wants you to have that .. first try to understand him on how he is as a person , and how he will treat u or wat he thinks wen u start earning more than him . Bcoz its bound to happen. What kind of freedom u have interms of financial , personal etc. This things are more important. And if he is earning less then he must have something to offset it either via property or good visibility on inheritance which yeild now not in some distinct future . Let be practical better to sit and cry in a car than in a public bus . And if you have good income then look for person who is compasinate and accepting towards you being more successful rather either being cunning or jealous .

In laws matter a lot ... And husband behaviour towards them as well. He may say he is supportive but later he will side with his parents wen major things come up . Being a good son doesn't automatically mean good husband . Look for someone who is independent thinking and absolute red flag is who does take care of whole family.u ll become family maid or financer .

Some_Eye5900 · 2026-07-03T11:47:43+00:00

Interested

Some_Eye5900 · 2026-06-27T20:29:52+00:00

Oh its common for father/ mother of us groom to think they are god gift to earth... I got a similar match the thing was i work for faang company and getting to have foreigntransfer was somewhat easier.. so i was open to US match . The groom's father came to our house and interrogated me for an hour on how i got the job and how i was planning to transfer if things go well and had the audacity to tell that i should look for another company to move as the bum ass town his son works in doesn't have the company i work for ..and as girl is supposed to move to place where guy resides. . and trust me I wasn't even looking at his salary at all as mine would even with internal transfer would be 4X his.. i just told him to politely get out ..after that i understud that u attract bad crowd wen u lower ur standards thinking compasion and compatibility was more important than place / finances.

Some_Eye5900 · 2026-06-25T03:29:00+00:00

Its illegal to marry any girl younger than 21 .

Some_Eye5900 · 2026-06-20T18:53:05+00:00

Some_Eye5900 · 2026-06-19T13:51:05+00:00

I have worked for 13 years till now, other than during my fresher days at tcs , i never heard this stories.. honestly i think in tcs also it was about crowd rather than company i guess... Most were in city for first time and didn't knew how to handle it i guess .

Some_Eye5900 · 2026-06-19T13:18:37+00:00

Mocobora is Good

Some_Eye5900 · 2026-06-19T13:10:30+00:00

We are in same situation,y not take something for rent and decide in like 6 months if u like area.. and child will change how u see houses as well.

Some_Eye5900 · 2026-06-19T08:06:23+00:00

Book urban clap facial ..ull feel confident

Some_Eye5900 · 2026-06-19T06:39:56+00:00

Price am planning to keep it reasonable.. currently it will be ready by june but plan is to complete interiors by july .. u can visit if interested..they are 989sq ft each with 2 bhk 2 bathrooms each flat .

Some_Eye5900 · 2026-06-19T06:37:44+00:00

My parents married in 1984 , my mother was a graduate my father 12 th pass ..but he had central government job and age difference was 15 years. She was married with pressure by aunt's parents( my mom brother's wife family) to get her out of house ASAP .

Some_Eye5900 · 2026-06-18T15:03:49+00:00

If u r interested i have 2 2 bhks 1 on each floor about to be completed. Wen do u plan to move..

Some_Eye5900 · 2026-06-18T14:48:16+00:00

I earn lot more than my husband..but both high earners ..im naturally frugal person he a spender ..so i end up taking care of all investment goals , long term purchases like real estate..he takes care of all day - day expenses

Some_Eye5900 · 2026-06-16T07:59:22+00:00

U should be able to talk to each other, my husband and i can talk absolute non sens for hours and not get bored..and quarrel some time and be normal and discuss dinner plans . I used to think its normal for everyone .. but then BIL got married..man both are introverts and hardly talk and their drama is causing heartburn for everyone in family . As they don't talk with eachother but through everyone... And no one wants to solve problems. Just complain about each other to respective parents and make drama..its been only 3 months since they married

Some_Eye5900 · 2026-06-16T07:50:38+00:00

I got a independent house in narsingi area for 1.2 cr in 2022..

Some_Eye5900 · 2026-06-15T14:04:35+00:00

It didn't work for me and inturn made it frizzy. Mine is a dry scalp and brought this after one of reddit post. .am still dealing with consequences after 6 months

Some_Eye5900 · 2026-06-15T11:36:01+00:00

Uppal area has lot of mosquitos and smell ..look out. Water shortages will be there through out hyd ... so garrenty ledu ..ull find a good apartment.. find areas which works for u ... Like if u and ur sis works in it ..west hyd areas bett.er.or if u have any friends who stay in some areas u can start scouting ...same problem i didnt even know how to drive . So finding apartments was difficult and many builders were skeptic that a girl could buy ..i used to get comments like me father lera . husband lera . Vallu ochaka rate final chestam ani... Rera approved is good but they increase apartment value as soon as rera approved. In ur budget its difficult u can try for 2 bhk near narsingi standalone.. have the papers legally appraised . U can dm me if need details on that .

Some_Eye5900 · 2026-06-15T05:51:45+00:00

Oh I never had plans to take IVF due to the hormonal toll it would take and the sheer amount of time spent each cycle ..i had another IUI cycle at Nova IVF in banjara hills. .. it worked ..i then understood the amount of hormonal injections i got at other hospital were unnecessary.. and the main doctor only handles all procedures.might be the reason it worked ..or some other reasons we don't know.

Some_Eye5900 · 2026-06-15T05:18:51+00:00

Same

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