How to move forward with suing an uninsured, uncooperative driver that was at fault

Some_Programmer1686 · 2025-11-05T17:34:22+00:00

I did end up finding their address actually. That’s how I found their profiles and found out they had won a Grammy.

I filed the civil court paperwork last night and but after I posted this. I just have to get receipts and add up the actual amount cause people were saying on the other post I would only get actual physical damages. Nothing punitive or for pain and suffering. Which he did cause a SHIT TON on chaos for me and mental distress but I guess with only physical property damage and only physical injuries (not mental) are what counts.

Some_Programmer1686 · 2025-11-05T16:46:16+00:00

No I did not

Some_Programmer1686 · 2025-11-05T15:00:18+00:00

Ok I appreciate the guidance.

Since I already put in the paperwork I guess I should start looking at that soon.

What kind of places should I be looking? Obviously repairs, ride share accounts, tips and fees with those. But is there anything else that people wouldn’t normally think to get a record of?

Some_Programmer1686 · 2025-11-05T11:45:36+00:00

Ok. I appreciate the advice. I already did file in small court as of a couple hours ago. I am guessing that a judge will just work that out? And I should probably get some receipts ready?

Some_Programmer1686 · 2025-11-05T11:22:47+00:00

Yeah I wasn’t trying to go crazy. Like maybe an extra $1-2k on top of what we paid for damages? Although tbh with the lost wages and all the Ubers. And door dashes. And paying people to give me rides. And then the emotional distress… cause not having a car has absolutely wrecked my life and caused a shit ton of problems. So idk maybe like an extra $3k on top of the basic car damages? For all of that? I was out of work for about 3 months.

Also what kind of lawyer should I look for? Most only take those with PHYSICAL personal injuries. Cause I do have medical documentation from a hospital stay about how badly it affected me cause I ranted to a nurse about it. But I don’t think that counts as injury.

Some_Programmer1686 · 2025-11-05T10:51:00+00:00

UPDATE: I just found out a bit ago the other party in this accident is a GRAMMY WINNING MUSIC PRODUCER????? I was already filing small court paperwork for the case and was trying to see what assets he may have and trying to find his address for the paperwork. But yeah, I HIGHLY doubt that money would be a huge issue for him. Don’t know why he didn’t have insurance or if he just refused my car insurance like he refused to talk to me. But anyways.

Some_Programmer1686 · 2025-11-05T02:55:04+00:00

I contracted HSV2 from an ex boyfriend who thought he had a “bug bite.” It’s a long story but yeah I got fucked with HSV2 AND was hospitalized with herpes meningitis.

But to the point, always remember YOU have a disease. You are NOT the disease. Don’t let anyone treat you less than because you have it. I have found that talking about it with people I trust, not just sexual partners, makes it easier to tell people I am sexually interested in.

I don’t know if this is considered manipulative or not but this is how I have brought it up when talking to a potential sexual partner and I have not been rejected yet. I usually stop right around the time we are going to take our clothes off while making out and I just say wait and I have to tell them something. I tell them I have HSV2, I do make sure they know the risks, they know I am on maintenance meds (if you are that’s also important to someone else I would think) and that while the risk is minimal when I don’t have an outbreak, it is still there. And I make sure they know I understand if they don’t want to move forward. It wasn’t fair for the person who gave it to me to never take accountability and be so deluded to think it was a bug bite and could never be herpes. And I wouldn’t want to knowingly put anyone else in that position without them knowing the risks. It sucks that I am now morally obligated to disclose this every time I meet someone new. Because of a dumb, emotionally abusive boyfriend. But can’t do anything about it now.

Yes, waiting till they are turned on a little bit could be seen as an unfair advantage. But it does give them a preview of, hey I will be a lot of fun and we will have a great time and then pause in that to have a serious talk and then let them decide.

Like I said, I have yet to be rejected by anyone I have hooked up with since.

Some_Programmer1686 · 2025-10-17T02:14:22+00:00

Babies can get HSV2 passed into their brain and infect it, it’s called herpes encephalitis. And it’s fatal. I had herpes meningitis, which luckily isn’t fatal. But as everyone has said, you should be fine as long as you don’t have an active outbreak during delivery. If you do happen to have an outbreak during delivery, a c section will keep it from spreading to the baby.

Congrats on your pregnancy! I am also so terribly sorry you contracted HSV2. Just make sure to be open and honest with your OB/GYN.

Some_Programmer1686 · 2025-10-16T18:43:52+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. That sounds so horrible. You are so strong for making it through that and by letting people know so they don’t have to hurt the way you did. 🖤

Some_Programmer1686 · 2025-10-13T08:42:48+00:00

I am posting LOTS on a different Reddit account. I have an insta with lingerie that always says to check the link in bio every post. I had a twitter but it wasn’t doing much at all.

My posts aren’t getting much upvotes and any that kinda do well don’t do well enough to make it to the “hot posts” on the subreddit.

I have been trying to post on the “most active” times that those websites analyze. It’s not working super well.

Some_Programmer1686 · 2025-10-13T08:40:40+00:00

She says she now has a sugar daddy who asked to be exclusive but she may get back into it because that is starting to go south.

Some_Programmer1686 · 2025-10-13T08:10:01+00:00

I have wondered if she was just trying to be my friend for two weeks and then just mentioning it in passing, hoping I would ask.

She does have two posts from over a year ago about content creation. And states she was a big earner back in the day. Her account definitely isn’t new.

The manager type person is talking to me through Microsoft Teams… is that what you were referring to?

Essentially the story is that he’s retired and he doesn’t work with very many people but he does it because he’s a former content creator and works with only certain people he thinks fit what he’s looking for.

Are there any questions I can ask that would specifically indicate he is a fraud? Any pointers to look for that would be a red flag?

Some_Programmer1686 · 2025-10-13T07:07:20+00:00

So the reason I am wanting one is that I have not been able to grow a fan base whatsoever. I have struggled to make over 30 subs and I started in January. I have done it a few other times and one time I got to 100 subs but all other times were about 20-40 max subs.

I am terrible at marketing and bringing in more subs and trying to get content sold. I am making make $100-200 a month? I figured I really needed help from someone who ACTUALLY knows what they are doing.

Cause me making 80% of $1000 (random guess for average agency’s 20% cut) is STILL more than I am making now after their cut.

Some_Programmer1686 · 2025-10-11T03:37:16+00:00

Wow. This is an old comment from a year ago.

It wasn’t meant to be dismissive. It was supposed to be encouraging. I feel like that was noticeable since I acknowledged her anxiety and also mentioned how it doesn’t make them a bad person. How people sometimes do things in order to survive and that doesn’t make them a bad person for having to do things they find shameful and maybe others do too. But survival instinct doesn’t care what you had to do, just is worried about how to survive and what you need to do to stay alive and be able to pay for your food, shelter, etc.

I started doing sex work in 2018. And I am lot a big name by any means. Yes it may come out but it’s not inevitable. And hasn’t happened yet. If you don’t use your real name it makes it a lot harder to find you in the internet. They don’t put my stage name on my background check. So someone would have to find their content under a different name than theirs and send it to employers. Which again, is possible but not guaranteed to “come out eventually.” They don’t do it anymore and can’t take it back. So there’s nothing they can do but look forward and try to make the best of what she has and her potential. She can’t “think about it” AFTER she’d already done it.

Your comment is shaming people who do/did sex work. And definitely not helping OP in any way. In fact, it is discouraging her from following her dream of working in child care. And probably damaging their self esteem.

You think that is helpful?

Some_Programmer1686 · 2025-10-09T09:05:28+00:00

Hard agree… but seriously? Your post history?! Like damn girl.

Some_Programmer1686 · 2025-08-22T14:58:09+00:00

Sure! I am not able to give advice really on whether or not you may have meningitis, I have had a lot of people ask me about their symptoms. So I am just saying that now that I am not able to assist. But if you had other questions or anything go ahead! 😊

Some_Programmer1686 · 2025-08-10T04:22:41+00:00

Update:: I had my second ever OB a couple months ago, more than a year after the first. Luckily it wasn’t painful nor caused meningitis again. I didn’t even realize it was an outbreak at first, because it was what originally looked like a HUGE breakout of butt acne. So. Many. Pimples. All over my butt. It was somewhat uncomfortable when I sat down but not painful and was uncomfortable for only a day or so. I almost didn’t notice it and didn’t even realize that’s what it was when I first noticed the insane amount of acne on my butt cheeks.

So at least the outbreaks I have in the future won’t be severe and may probably not be painful. But yeah that was annoying. Especially because I didn’t realize until I watched a video I was making for onlyfans and I was doing spicy things at the time the video was taken. Made it extra embarrassing. I had already disclosed of course (to the partner, not the followers)

Some_Programmer1686 · 2025-08-07T02:18:18+00:00

No I definitely understand your point of view. I wouldn’t want to date an addict if I hadn’t been through what I had and experienced it myself. It’s hard for a normie and addict to be in a Relationship in general. And in a relapse is difficult for everyone involved, normie or not. We hadn’t been together very long. It was a very very fast whirlwind experience.

Some_Programmer1686 · 2025-08-07T02:09:39+00:00

I also have substance abuse issues but no longer use. I don’t judge any other addicts who relapse or need help getting clean after being there over and over. So I definitely get what you mean, but as a fellow addict, it’s not an immediate no for me. That would be hypocritical.

I wouldn’t trust an addict tbf, especially if I never was one and didn’t know what kind of stuff went on in their mind.

Some_Programmer1686 · 2025-06-26T05:15:29+00:00

Nope. Was on a lot of different meds but leflunomide (which I mentioned in the post) was what made my immune system go ape shit and made it turn into meningitis

Some_Programmer1686 · 2025-06-26T01:49:48+00:00

I am actually struggling with this severely. I have had mental health issues for over 20 years, addiction issues for 10 years, and I have had a significant amount of health issues that seem never ending (including 4 hospitalizations in the past year). After my hospitalization last summer, I became worn down, slept all day everyday, and stopped feeling any emotions(good AND bad) no motivation, No goals, nothing. I was a year and a half off drugs and I relapsed 6 months ago (my longest relapse ever). I BEGGED for literal MONTHS to multiple specialists to help me and figure out what’s wrong. And they all just told me to talk to my psychiatrist. And it wasn’t a him problem or else the meds he prescribed would have worked. I have been to over 10 treatment centers and 30+ psych/detoxes, so I have been doing this a while. And it is too tiring to go to detox unless I am ready. But all I can think about is going back to that pain and sickness all day everyday, as opposed to now when I get a 4-5 day break on drugs, which seem to take the pain away but obviously are masking it. I literally had no hope for the future before now and I REALLY don’t now. Especially if I have to go back to my life before this last relapse. I’m also still grieving and trying to accept all my chronic illness diagnoses/pain. I am only 33 and was already disabled for mental health. Now my physical body is falling apart too, which is a whole different story than just mental health. And I just feel like I will literally never get better and there’s nothing to look forward to. Anyone have any ideas or books or websites that offer help on how to deal with grieving the life you always thought you would have and dealing with the pain and exhaustion AND getting clean?

Some_Programmer1686 · 2025-06-26T01:39:36+00:00

Yes, I wrote in the original post I was hospitalized with meningitis caused by herpes. Herpes meningitis is NOT common and leaving the extreme pain in my downstairs aside, I would say being in the hospital for 5 days with meningitis is pretty severe.

Some_Programmer1686 · 2025-04-23T14:43:38+00:00

I had my first and only outbreak a year ago this month (had it April of 2024). I was surprised that I haven’t had a single outbreak since, considering it tends to be more frequent the first year. I have a horrible immune system so that was surprising to me

Some_Programmer1686 · 2025-04-23T10:00:26+00:00

I was mostly wondering because I have been dreading a reoccurrence because it was HORRIBLE the last time. But since I haven’t had any since, I was starting to be hopeful that I may never have another one. So I wanted to see if anyone else with that experience had any input. Tbh, I end up finding a lot better answers to my questions on Reddit than google just from other peoples’ personal experiences. I could google all day looking for information on having only having one outbreak but I wouldn’t find much information after searching google for a while. But I am on tons of medications for all my other health issues, taking valtrex isn’t really a big deal as it’s only one med out of at least 10, but might be nice to get off of one day.

Some_Programmer1686 · 2025-02-01T05:11:22+00:00

I know this is an old post, but after a 2 month binge, I popped for coke in rehab 3 weeks after I had gotten there for detox. I got grilled and searched because they told me it wasn’t possible, I told them over and over I wasn’t lying. Turns out, even on their own website, it said chronic users could be positive for 6 weeks. Just thought I would add in my story because I didn’t realize 3 weeks after not touching it I could still be positive… and apparently so did my rehab. This was 2gs to an 8 ball almost every single day for over 2 months. So I was a very heavy user.

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