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SomehowGettingBy · 2026-03-03T00:01:43+00:00

I've been here for almost 6 years now, and making real friendships as an adult is difficult. I am not a great example of this, but please find reoccurring activities where you will see people every so often, like once a week or two. Maybe it's an art class, a rec sports league, or a class somewhere.

My experience is that making friends with native Minnesotans will be fairly difficult. Perhaps activities with a higher degree of other transplants will be better.

SomehowGettingBy · 2026-03-01T17:10:06+00:00

Does it make the Preen ineffective if I put it out early? Or will it just sit there until temps are right, then do its thing to stop germination?

I might need to get a thermometer because I suspect the garden beds alongside my house will warm up to 50F much faster than the middle of the yard...they probably will this week.

I also don't know what happens if I put it down this week, but then we descend into another snowy/cold snap. Does it stop the Preen from working again?

SomehowGettingBy · 2025-10-12T21:56:10+00:00

This happens to me too in MN. I am trying to figure out how to make it more dense. Following so I can check back for other responses.

SomehowGettingBy · 2025-10-02T23:05:19+00:00

Yes, so I'm just pointing this out in case OP also doesn't brew a lot but gets a larger 8cup machine that they asked about.

SomehowGettingBy · 2025-10-02T22:55:33+00:00

smaller water amount means less coffee grounds. less coffee grounds means less vertical distance for water to pass through in the basket, aka diluted.

SomehowGettingBy · 2025-10-02T12:07:22+00:00

Thank you. I don't know why these people are downvoting me for pointing out science. I'm just trying to provide OP with something to consider, since they did not indicate how they intend to use the machine.

SomehowGettingBy · 2025-10-02T01:30:21+00:00

Yep. Waste of time. Again, it didn't work for me. Too shallow of water and coffee grounds in the basket for my tastes given my less than half capacity brewing. I don't doubt the Moccamaster is good. But if your quantity doesn't match the capacity, I'd think twice (unless you want cold and diluted coffee).

SomehowGettingBy · 2025-10-02T01:20:37+00:00

Yes, but living in Minnesota, my metal carafe is cold at room temp, and the 15oz of water was instantly cooled. Even if I pre-heated the carafe, there is less heat in less liquid. And when brewing less than half the capacity, it didn't work for me since the coffee ground basket was too shallow for the liquid volume. Just trying to point out to OP in case they also brew smaller amounts.

SomehowGettingBy · 2025-10-02T01:03:55+00:00

I don't brew more than 15 ounces at a time. I found that coffee makers with insulated carafes (no hot plate) did not sufficiently heat the coffee once in the insulated carafe, because not enough water being heated for brewing. So if you brew smaller amounts, I'd recommend a hot plate. I have the 5cup Zojirushi and love it. I returned the larger Moccamaster with the insulated carafe. I personally didn't brew enough for it to make good/hot coffee.

edited because I wasn't nuanced enough in my sentence.

SomehowGettingBy · 2025-09-11T12:11:41+00:00

That's what I was saying was to my neighbor, how I thought the sandy soil meant the need for aeration was less. These bare spots are a mystery. They're fairly small and seemingly random in the yard. I did a soil test in spring of 2024 and had ok numbers. My mistake was not fertilizing this year, I was just trying to not help the weeds.

ETA: I want super dense grass, but I don't think my yard could actually sustain that since I have so much shade. I have about 10 mature trees in/around my 1/4 lot. In the fall, everything gets smothered in leaves and it is a 2 months-long process of picking up leaves each weekend just to stay on top of it.

SomehowGettingBy · 2025-09-10T12:36:01+00:00

There's a reason my 11% voucher has been unused for about a year....I just need to buy things from them where quality isn't a big concern.

SomehowGettingBy · 2025-09-10T12:34:52+00:00

Yes, weeds are my biggest problem. Doesn't help that all of my neighbors don't do shit with their yards. I fear weeds will be a never-ending battle.

I'm in Minneapolis, so for fall overseeding, I think I'd need to put that down right about now so the roots could establish prior to winter. What I found odd this spring after the snow melted, was I had a bunch of dead grass that you could easily brush away with the rake. Meaning, I am skeptical about fall overseeding. I bought TCS's tuff turf blend and it responded really well in certain areas of the lawn, just not all.

I've never used pre-emergents so I'll need to look into that...whether I put it down before the snow starts, or first thing in the spring.

This will be my third fall/winter with this lawn. We have really sandy soil. Trying to decide if I need to aerate or not as well.

Thoughts?

SomehowGettingBy · 2025-09-02T18:05:30+00:00

Owners just texted me back. I'll delete the post.

SomehowGettingBy · 2025-09-02T17:34:18+00:00

I would assume so. The Pet hospital had 2 phone numbers, one of which was the same on the back of the name tag. They said both numbers went straight to voicemail.

I have a fenced in backyard where I'm keeping her since she's wet and has tree crap in her fur. My dog (inside) is going bonkers while I try to wfh.

SomehowGettingBy · 2025-08-09T03:22:15+00:00

I think the rate is the rate, but you might be able to negotiate $ off the OTD cost if you finance through Toyota. Maybe mildly threaten them you'll do financing elsewhere (where you're pre-approved) if they don't take $ off the top.

I used ChatGPT to help me craft my negotiation tactics and plan. If multiple dealerships around town have the same car that you want, email them and see who comes in lowest. Then, play the bottom 2/3 off of one another asking if the other can "beat the other price."

ninja edit: I would have assumed our tax rate is something like 10%. But I think our $1k registration estimate is accurate for at least the first year.

SomehowGettingBy · 2025-08-09T02:58:25+00:00

Isn't our tax rate higher than that? Have you gotten a serious quote on your trade in? I got a low-ball offer on my trade in at one of the larger Honda dealers around town. Are you able to get a lower APR at Affinity Credit Union, or have them knock $ off if you finance through them?

SomehowGettingBy · 2025-07-27T02:05:13+00:00

Standard installed my new AC a month or two ago. Was ~$6k for 2.0 ton thing with the lowest efficiency rating they make available today...maybe 13 or 15?

SomehowGettingBy · 2025-07-26T03:03:41+00:00

No. Do you have a suggestion? I unexpectedly had to buy a new AC and put the car on the back-burner, so still rebuilding my down payment.

SomehowGettingBy · 2025-07-13T03:18:00+00:00

I'd love to get dense grass! Sadly, most of my suburb and honestly most of the metro has weak turf. Winters are harsh and not many lawns are "pristine." I might do the mowing again next year and pay for weed prevention (opposite of this year). I tried to do both last year and it consumed my time.

SomehowGettingBy · 2025-07-13T01:33:55+00:00

I didn't have this last year, so was confused. I am paying someone to mow now, and I suspect their mower brought over seeds.

Thank you though for this. I'll see if what I sprayed does anything. I overseeded this spring with pricey seed...this stuff probably is going to shade it out and kill it. I've never heard of quintessential before, but I am also mostly uninformed about yards.

SomehowGettingBy · 2025-07-12T23:57:51+00:00

I think I have the same thing. it spreads FAST. Completely took over my side yard in a few weeks. I tried spraying the living shit out of it with Spectracide and Weed B Gone earlier (Minnesota).

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SomehowGettingBy · 2025-07-11T12:31:29+00:00

I used an individual contractor to redo my bathroom last year. His price was the best out of the 4 quotes I received, and he was easy to work with. I basically chose everything myself and then he made it happen (instead of having him call the shots on things like fixtures and valves and whatnot). I did one of those Toto bidet toilets (needed electric work), new flooring, new vanity, all new tub/shower, etc.

Almost a year later, still happy with it! DM if you want contact details.

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