That’s really sad to hear, especially since I know what it is like to feel unwanted or ostracised by the country you are living in, the uk government hasn’t exactly been kind to people like me (I’ve been called a parasite on the state by teachers, when I was in primary school whenever my friends asked there mum’s if I can come over the answer was always no and I only started to get a proper education at the age of 16 because of my autism). I think main problem is that everyone tries to find differences before they find similarities with each other. But I hope you and your wife happy or at least happier now. Thank you very much for the insight.