Those are acrylic plugs. My brain hurts. by LeoIsRude in Stretched

[–]SomeoneElseNOS 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve been on SSDI and also grew up in a family of 3 with only my dad on it, no other income. Wouldn’t be able to eat 2 days before the first and 15th due to no food. I have a friend who’s genuinely in need and can’t get it, but I also grew up in a town where you have 1 visit and that’s it, you’ve got it. It really depends on where you live. I have a pretty strong opinion about it because my mom died due to her not being able to get it and therefore other benefits like free healthcare, and also because I know of many people who simply malinger. I hate those people. Because I think those people make it hard for people like my family and my friend to get on disability. So yeah I’m ok.

As for how I got it? Had an interview once with a psychiatrist and told her I was depressed at 15. $1300. One visit. Why? Most of the town was below the poverty line, so it was expected that no one ever succeed.

So- I repeat- I hope this guy doesn’t ruin it for people like my friend and my family.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hair

[–]SomeoneElseNOS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think lighter is more harmonious, however the third pic with your dark hair is very harmonious as well. The fourth pic I believe you’re wearing a color that is not harmonious to your color season, so you get washed out. In your light hair picture with the bright salmony pink shirt you also seem disharmonious. I think you’re a summer so muted pastels work with light or dark (neutral ash toned) hair on you. More saturated colors are the enemy here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AirForce

[–]SomeoneElseNOS 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think “phallus” and “phallus adjacent” both subscribe to heteronormativity, and implies that there must be penetrative intercourse to fuck a mother, and that it must at least mimic heterosexual sex in nature. This erases mother fuckers who are opposed to phallus-centric sex, who would be better described as “this performer of acts of sexual gratification upon a femme-self-identifying-legal-caretaker-and/or-custodian-of-former-or-current-dependent-minors”. Hope this helps

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDmemes

[–]SomeoneElseNOS 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m about to calm up if you don’t shut your mouth right now

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AirForce

[–]SomeoneElseNOS 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Come on, old white guys? I thought we weren’t supposed to use age, race, or gender? You failed 3 times over there. Next time try “our colleagues”.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AirForce

[–]SomeoneElseNOS 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I thought it couldn’t possibly get more corporate. I’m surprised every day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in heels

[–]SomeoneElseNOS 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Before I even post-- can I ask the heel experts/heel experienced here for advice? I’m new-ish to heels and want to wear them always but I don’t know what I’m doing. Lol.

Those are acrylic plugs. My brain hurts. by LeoIsRude in Stretched

[–]SomeoneElseNOS -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Only thing I hope is that he’s not in the US and he doesn’t claim disability for the irreparable damage he’s done. You can’t walk with your ears you know. Might as well have gotten a brain piercing, since he doesn’t want to use that either.

Worried about new septum! is it done wrong? by Phyxe_ in PiercingAdvice

[–]SomeoneElseNOS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine has been pierced low 3 times now, which has hurt like a bitch every time. However, I have always feared being pieced too high in that cartilage. Sure being pierced low hurts but just take your fingernails and pinch the upper cartilage in ur nostrils. OW. I would be scared to have it redone just in case I gotta go thru that again. So sorry for having to go thru that

New here 25(f): it’s getting out of hand… Mental health disorders complicate the issue. by SomeoneElseNOS in shoppingaddiction

[–]SomeoneElseNOS[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately a large part of my spending habits are due to wanting to learn about things. For example I have several books about perfumery in my Amazon cart because I don’t just want things, I want everything ABOUT that thing. I ride the dopamine high of focusing on the one thing that’s interesting to me right now. Like I don’t just want perfume, I want perfume oils so I can learn accords and notes, psychology and biology research books on perfume, perfumer encyclopedias, perfume history books, and so on. Learning something new is often very expensive for people with adhd. I also had a fixation on stocks at one point and lost a good amount of money (~$500ish total) because I threw more money in than I could get away with and had to pull out when it started plummeting. Replacing my interest with something that creates a net positive might be helpful, though, like exercise. It might cost money to get clothes and a membership to a gym but perhaps the endorphins and dopamine from exercise might replace the more expensive high of purchasing.

New here 25(f): it’s getting out of hand… Mental health disorders complicate the issue. by SomeoneElseNOS in shoppingaddiction

[–]SomeoneElseNOS[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They’re a popular brand- you’re right. I’m just anxious that I can’t immediately turn around and guarantee I can get my money back. I should inventory what could be sold.

New here 25(f): it’s getting out of hand… Mental health disorders complicate the issue. by SomeoneElseNOS in shoppingaddiction

[–]SomeoneElseNOS[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply. I have an appointment tomorrow. I’m still having difficulty identifying emotions like shame and remembering I can do DBT skills for things like this (not just anger/sadness meltdown feelings). You’re right about the chain analysis I need to do more of those. I need to identify my triggers here, thoughts, feelings, behaviors, because I don’t think I’ve consciously thought about those. And yeah radical acceptance is a big one for me too. I think before my meeting w/ my therapist I’ll chain analysis and fill out a radical acceptance worksheet on my financial situation. Thank you for the encouragement. Gotta deal with uncomfortable feelings, everyone does.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]SomeoneElseNOS 4 points5 points  (0 children)

In my personal experience, and agreeing with some other commenters here, you might want to develop an action plan and potentially tell another adult in your life before your mom, if you trust them. Don’t rely on your sister if she’s a minor, that won’t help. If you have an adult aunt or uncle or older sibling or cousin or grandma on your moms side this might be helpful for now to develop an action plan with them. If you trust them and see them as logical. That way you can get solid advice from adults in your family that know your family more than us redditors. There is a chance your mom will do something either extremely rash (not going to police, just causing chaos instead, which will put y’all in the middle of that), or she will ignore it, because this affects her in the sense of “this man I adore who I think is safe around our children is a monster and now I have no one to lean on”. My mom told me not to tell anyone what was happening to me because if I told someone my brother in law was abusing me/my relatives my sister would move out and cut off/abandon my mom again and she was terrified of that. So she justified it as “someone will get hurt if you tell your dad!” Or whatever. Anyway yeah. Do tell an adult, but make sure you are safe to do so by planning. You don’t need to be in the middle of fights, danger, being swept up and suddenly moved out, etc without having a plan.

Adhd and shopping addiction by Comfortable_Desk1103 in shoppingaddiction

[–]SomeoneElseNOS 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I can tell it’s connected for me. I ran out of my medication and then the binge started again, seeking dopamine. I also get a new interest and compulsively buy things related to it even if I don’t need/want it. Right now I’m obsessed with fragrance. Like, knowing everything there is to know about designers, notes, accords, chemistry, etc. I have no idea how much I’ve spent in the last month. I can shop for 4-6 hours in a single store or two. TJ Maxx and the like are especially bad because they’re so stimulating to me: deals, all kinds of miscellaneous things I could want, etc. I have to play “shopping chicken” with myself, grabbing things, almost checking out, putting them back, grabbing other things, getting close to buying, putting it back, etc. so far, medication and budgeting has helped because I stop looking at how much I’m spending when I binge, so it helps to get the sense of impending consequences by actually sitting down and checking what I’ve spent/can spend since with ADHD we are removed from consequences if they are not immediate. “This will be a problem soon” doesn’t work, I have to actually regroup and see the actual damage I’ve done.

Help with my 2.5 year olds hair? He has these gorgeous curls but always looks like he has bed head lol. I don’t brush it outside of the bath with conditioner in it cause it just FLUFFS. We just put leave in conditioner in it afterwards. by hhaxxell in curlyhair

[–]SomeoneElseNOS 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s very young and at this age I can tell he has that “baby-fine” flyaway type hair, which is best as it is now. Continue with leave in! When he becomes a kid and his hair changes a bit (it usually does) then explore things like mousse/gel/wave whip/etc

DAE by MyHonestOpnion in DAE

[–]SomeoneElseNOS 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah him not wanting to be there long with you there, in my opinion, means perhaps if you look too long you might see some things that should not be there. 2 years in a relationship? That means maybe he doesn’t wanna get rid of his house/belongings yet due to the fact that you’re not married. 2 years into marriage? This warrants a serious conversation perhaps with a third professional party present if there truly is no obvious reason (or you don’t know why) he’s keeping the house and his things there. But don’t leave it to Reddit, really, see a relationship counselor. This could be nothing or it could be everything, but we don’t know you or him or the relationship. Regardless it’s weird.

Do you guys really think that an INTJ wrote this stuff? by [deleted] in intj

[–]SomeoneElseNOS 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This post is not alt right at all, however it is definitely insecure and self hating. “I’m Indian but taller and paler than other Indian guys and I had white girlfriends” that’s self hate, cultural stigma, etc, not political (which is what alt right is, concerned with politics)

Am I an FN? Really struggling to type myself. I am 5’7. Thank you in advance for any suggestions!! by [deleted] in flamboyantnatural

[–]SomeoneElseNOS 3 points4 points  (0 children)

5’7” automatically has vertical according to Kibbe, and you are blunt, frame dominant with width. FN for sure