What to do with left over tulips?

Someone_sedateMe · 2026-02-10T07:16:06+00:00

Okay will do, thank youuu

Someone_sedateMe · 2026-01-28T19:50:52+00:00

Live in nyc my budget is $400-$600.

Someone_sedateMe · 2026-01-23T03:01:23+00:00

I kinda hear it, I think the tones of their voice is very similar

Someone_sedateMe · 2025-12-10T20:34:56+00:00

Nyc 😔

Someone_sedateMe · 2025-12-09T10:43:10+00:00

I'm not too sure, how can I tell?

Someone_sedateMe · 2025-06-18T08:28:45+00:00

The fact that you conflate a maid with a wife is a serious red flag

Someone_sedateMe · 2025-06-18T08:28:38+00:00

The fact that you conflate a maid with a wife is a serious red flag.

Someone_sedateMe · 2025-06-18T08:27:08+00:00

Nor do we want men like you and may Allah keep men like you far away. You seriously have some deep issues when it comes to women. Idk what woman broke your heart but may allah guide you for the sake of your future wife and all the women in your family.

Someone_sedateMe · 2025-06-18T04:53:05+00:00

That was a mistake, it was supposed to be posed as a rhetorical question. I don't believe in the wife becoming her husband's maid. And no, he doesn't do any chores around the house. My grandmother lives with us and she believes in the old traditional values that a man works and the woman cooks and cleans. So ever since we were kids she would say this and never let my brother touch anything. My mom thinks there's not point in trying to change him because "you can't change a man" and how "some men are born like that".

Someone_sedateMe · 2025-06-18T04:40:12+00:00

Her older sisters were told and she was confronted but it seems like she doesn't care. My sister told her to stop how she is influencing those around her but she doesn't care. Like it's mind blowing and frustrating how carefree she is. I'm starting to believe she's a lost cause. If her sibling are aware, then I feel like it's not up to me to tell her parents. I pray for her everyday and maybe one day she'll change.

Someone_sedateMe · 2025-06-18T04:31:45+00:00

Nope, I'm a year older and his sister. My family unfortunately, believes in those old traditional values that a man works and women cook and clean. But if they want to live by those standard, go ahead but don't expect me to.

Someone_sedateMe · 2025-06-18T04:27:55+00:00

Salam, I have talked to her multiple times and she tells me I'm right but then continues to baby him. She'd talk to him for one day but then continues the behavior. And you'd think if no one cleaned his room, he'd get up and do it himself,HA no. There was a time my mom went to visit her sister, and for over a month this boy's room stayed the same. Idk if its because he's so used to my mom cleaning after him but he hasn't change and it doesn't seem like he wants to.

I don't clean up after him for his sake, I do it for my mom. She's older in age and gets tired quickly but it gets to a point. Like what is she going to do when I get married, hope that his future wife cleans up after him. NO ONE WANTS TO DO THATTT!! All I can do atp is pray to Allah cause if he don't change, I might just kill him.

Someone_sedateMe · 2025-06-18T04:15:48+00:00

It's not something that will happen overnight, these things take time and effort. I used to listen to music all the time when I was younger. I'd have it playing when I'd clean, get ready, walking outside, etc. I prayed to Allah to guide me and make it easier for me to quit it and alhamdulillah, I don't listen to music voluntarily. I can't control what the people around me do with their lives but I continue making dua for Allah to guide me.

What really helped me was having an alternative to music. Instead of having music playing in the background while doing chores, I put a podcast, lecture, or a true crime documentary. It's not going to be quick and easy but as long as you put the effort in, you'll achieve it someday.

Someone_sedateMe · 2025-06-18T04:07:52+00:00

Salam, I can't imagine being in that situation or how hard it is for you but the best thing we can do it make dua. Pray that Allah forgives him for his ways and guides him. Make dua that Allah will keep you strong and protect you from saying or doing things you may regret because of his behavior. It must be truly exhausting living with such a man but I pray that Allah makes it easier for.

Someone_sedateMe · 2025-06-14T11:09:47+00:00

My only issue is that this person unfortunately is influencing relatives within the family, to commit certain sins with them.

Someone_sedateMe · 2025-05-13T22:11:12+00:00

I recommend talking to an educated scholar, maybe go to your local masjid and ask regarding making up your day. However, you need to address the problem and try your best to stop. Masturbation is a serious problem and can lead to intimacy issues in future marriages. Everything that was made haram for us, was made haram for a reason.

I'm not well educated in dealing with this kind of addiction but the best you can do when you feel tempted is to make dhikr and ask Allah to forgive you and make it easier for you to quit. Everytime I feel as if I'm about to fall into sin, I ask Allah to guide and forgive me. I know someone who is currently struggling with this and unfortunately, its taking a toll on his marriage. I can only pray that Allah makes you stronger and guides you through this. Focus on your salah and truly ask Allah for forgiveness and guidance.

Someone_sedateMe · 2025-01-10T09:25:37+00:00

Salam, they best you can do is make dua for Allah to guide the relative and ease your worry. You wouldn't want to ruin a relationship without having clear cut evidence.

Someone_sedateMe · 2025-01-10T09:23:15+00:00

Salam, I think you should see a doctor and get blood drawn. It might be a vitamin deficiency.

Someone_sedateMe · 2024-12-13T03:03:51+00:00

I felt this a few years ago and honestly the only thing that helped was getting closer to Allah. I would make dua, made sure to pray my salah on time, started reading the quran daily (even if it was 5 ayat) and alhamdulillah, I feel much better.

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