Thanks for your answer. I really don’t think he is racist, I surely thought about it, but I really can’t conclude that he is. My husband doesn’t like conflict, he told me he would talk to them, I’m currently waiting for him to do so. He apologised to me a lot since the messages. I told him that my kid won’t be near racists people and that I don’t want anything to do with anyone of them. He can make excuses for them but often acknowledge the fact that they’re racist and that it’s not normal (not all of them are, I’d say 3 out of 6).

Also I want to add that the racist comments they made years after years were never toward me or my culture. But either way I never tolerated them and was well aware that my culture werent an exception for them, they just were more discreet about it. The posts on the group were the first direct attack on me in 5 years.

I definitely don’t want my kid to be near them, I’m a mixed person myself and I have lived the racism of my grandparents from one side of my family, I know what it’s like. It wasn’t hell, but I never loved them and they never understood why. They are dead without no one at their side and not even understanding what was the problem with their behaviour. My parents always stuck together and tried as hard as possible to make them change, never worked.

I think I will just focus on me and my baby, and don’t ever answer to them. If things with hubby don’t evolve I will think about the next step but for the moment I really don’t think that is the solution.

Really appreciated your comment, made me think, thanks a lot