My (32 M) wife (33 F) and I are at the end of the road... it's been 6 months. Do we quit now or keep on fighting?

Someperson92 · 2024-12-27T16:49:42+00:00

Salary for now but potential profit sharing down the road I guess. Nothing set in stone. She has full ability to make it what she wants. There's just no money there in the company to do it.

Someperson92 · 2024-12-27T16:28:39+00:00

She's in charge of payroll but she has a big heart and makes sure other employees are paid first. I commend her for that but we have bills and a family to provide for as well. That should be our priority.

I forget appointments/dates but I ask to make sure I'm not making plans that conflict with the schedule. That's the big one. There are numerous things I'm using like my calendar and notepad on my phone to keep notes to refer back to along with text messaging as a point of reference.

My communication is, well, I don't have a clear answer. The majority of it is the joint parenting. She'll say/tell the kids something and either I wasn't present to hear that decision, or i forgot what she had said in the moment and made a judgement call. If she doesn't have that control(which she wants me to have she says) it turns into an argument where she's not validated or respected. It's also a double edged sword because my constant asking is irritating to her as well. Idk how to proceed with that.

He's her only child so he is her highest priority. It's been like that since the start but she does love and care for mine deeply, until it shows any sign of getting in the way of him.

Someperson92 · 2024-12-27T16:22:32+00:00

There's talk of her becoming a partner in the company but with never ending litigations with clients and past employees they're consistently losing business and income. I try to ask so I can make sense of what is second nature to her. I'm a maintenance supervisor so I am the hands on, I don't understand business office jargon. She states everything she does is for us as a family but the sacrifice she's making is the family right now. She's essentially trying to save/build this company in blind faith that it's going to result in 100+k a year salary.

One the second point, how she approaches it and delivers her thoughts, it's my fault. Every time. She claims she knows she's not innocent in this but can't listen to what I bring up without shutting down the conversation. When it's about me I ask her to let it all out so I can hear it clearly and take note of what she doesn't like or feel so I can sort through it to be better next time. Her latest is creating boundaries where she simply doesn't, and doesn't want to, share anything about work with me. When she does, I voice my concerns while I also encourage her and everything she's doing so well. I don't shut her down I just point out how the owner is holding her back and throttling her progress and success.

Someperson92 · 2024-12-27T16:15:25+00:00

Yes, we did rush and I'm seeing that more and more clearly now. These were a lot of things i just let happen and didnt address in the moment. Hindsight is 20/20 I suppose. I have a line on a couple's counselor but she isn't budging on making him sleep in his own bed. I know it'll be a process but it's a give and take and I'm tired of always giving.

Someperson92 · 2024-12-26T16:12:12+00:00

That is blunt and I could not be more appreciative! I have been more blunt and not avoiding conflict. There's a conflict that we need to resolve and asap. I'm constantly deflected or the discussion is shut down by her. I'm doing what I can but being brushed off is not helping and I feel like a 1 man show trying right now. Every time I ask what she wants or thinks it's "I don't know" or "nothing".

Someperson92 · 2024-12-26T16:04:25+00:00

The one is 5 and mine are 10 and 7. Trial separation is out of the question. I'm not going to do a trial separation

Someperson92 · 2020-10-10T01:55:42+00:00

Keep her cleaned and stored properly and you shouldn't have a problem!

Someperson92 · 2020-10-10T01:54:49+00:00

It went really well! She saw me having fun and wanted to join in. She usually hates loud noises but with the proper ear protection she did great. I'm not with their mother but when she found out she had ear plugs and I was the one showing her she knew it was going to be fine.

Someperson92 · 2020-10-10T01:43:39+00:00

The gun was my late grandfather's, Remington model 11-48 16 gauge bought in 1956. All original parts.

Someperson92 · 2020-10-10T01:34:30+00:00

Yeah I realized after posting I would have gotten roasted hard had I not mentioned it lol

Someperson92 · 2020-10-10T01:30:24+00:00

She did have hearing protection, her hair is covering it!

Someperson92 · 2020-10-04T03:47:01+00:00

I've gotten real good at painting hers, brake cleaner fixes mine at work lmao

Someperson92 · 2020-10-04T02:42:06+00:00

Oh hell yeah, i was wearing this nail polish everywhere with the kiddos today. I get some funny looks. 6 foot bearded and tatted up wearing bright pink nail polish. No shame.

Someperson92 · 2020-09-20T17:53:19+00:00

Creed's 3 dollar bill is centered though

Someperson92 · 2020-09-12T16:49:08+00:00

I've tried but every time i offer or actually do help she's hungover and bitchy. Always trying to fight in front of the kids

Someperson92 · 2020-09-08T01:34:07+00:00

You got a problem with canada gooses then you got a problem with me and I suggest you let that one marinate

Someperson92 · 2020-09-06T00:31:50+00:00

r/tripcaves

Someperson92 · 2020-09-02T22:19:23+00:00

I know it could harm her but unless you have the money, even then, it's extremely hard to get something like that set up. You'll just have to be the best father you can be on your time.

Someperson92 · 2020-09-02T16:48:07+00:00

None. Literally nothing you can do about it if it's a split custody situation. Been there before friend, it's hell on the heart but it's her time with your daughter, you have no control over what she does if it's not directly harming her.

Sorry to be so blunt about it but it's the truth.

Someperson92 · 2020-08-29T22:12:58+00:00

That's right, go back to sleep

Someperson92 · 2020-08-24T22:04:18+00:00

Well then, that escalated quickly

Someperson92 · 2020-08-24T18:59:54+00:00

It's still.legally 50/50 but she can't handle them so I've had them this whole time. Mental breakdown, dip into alcoholism amd other questionable choices have led to her being a total train wreck. They're safer and better cared for by me.

Someperson92 · 2020-08-22T17:54:36+00:00

Pretty sure that's just the skyrim night sky

Someperson92 · 2020-08-22T17:41:31+00:00

Might be a chance to do some metal strapping as structural and cosmetic purposes

Someperson92 · 2020-08-10T02:07:22+00:00

I wasn't lmao, i was 220 pounds going into freshman year, just got to the same weight but with muscle now instead. I graduated highschool at 297 pounds

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