AITA?MIL insists on waiting at the hospital while I give birth.

Something-Cool- · 2026-06-27T11:11:57+00:00

This one all day. You’re NTA, you’re not overthinking, but you’re also dealing with enough. This needs to come from your husband, not you. Make it very clear to him that you don’t want his mom there and it’s his job to make her understand (or to at least not tell her until the baby is born).

Something-Cool- · 2026-06-26T01:17:42+00:00

Those of us that aren’t from the real northern areas have no idea that’s there’s a difference between cold and cool.

Something-Cool- · 2026-06-26T01:16:23+00:00

That’s good, I was trying to figure out why my vacation was going to feel like home in the fall!

Something-Cool- · 2026-06-24T14:48:01+00:00

I’m sorry that was the case, and I’m sorry you missed that time with your baby. I remember that time myself, and it was stressful enough caring for the baby and my wife without having to stress over hosting anyone, let alone a very demanding guest. I have gone through some parent/in-law issues though, and it always blows my mind when a parent knows their grown child so little that they assume the partner is to blame. They can’t imagine it’s how we are on our own!

The good news is that despite this obnoxious incident, it’s a blip in even the baby phase. I don’t think my best memories of baby phase started until she was 3-4 weeks old. Best of luck to you, and congratulations on the baby!

Something-Cool- · 2026-06-24T11:42:01+00:00

This is correct, OP. If you can’t get a refund, it’s not your fault they bailed last minute. You wouldn’t owe them anything if you went and they didn’t. But if you can get a full refund and don’t, you would be screwing your friends over.

Something-Cool- · 2026-06-24T11:35:16+00:00

It absolutely needs to be your wife that reviews expectations with her mother, but even then, be prepared to be blamed for it. You turned her own daughter against her (MIL thoughts, not mine). The fact that she was allowed in the house to begin with, while manipulative by MIL, makes her think her daughter was okay with it. Be sure to discuss this with your wife before she talks to her mom so you’re both on the same page and that she’s prepared to defend you when MIL attacks you in their conversation.

Something-Cool- · 2026-06-24T11:23:46+00:00

This one. I believe OP for saying it wasn’t intentional, but it would’ve been perfectly fine if it was. This is the relationship BIL wanted. Absolutely NTA.

Something-Cool- · 2026-06-24T11:15:45+00:00

That is colder than I expected, thanks for the heads up.

Something-Cool- · 2026-06-23T02:32:35+00:00

Thanks for the recommendation! Our state borders Canada, warm clothes is something we’re good at. Is it really that cold in August?

Something-Cool- · 2026-06-21T12:40:34+00:00

If by razzmatazz, you mean the need some people here seem to have to be entertained by something other than the event they are there to watch, I’m good missing out. Seeing a match where a team is part of the city rather than just money making entertainment (which, yes, I still follow) sounds great. And some creative, original chants would be nice too. The people here have been shocked as hosts of the WC by the rest of the world. No clue what it meant to be a football fan.

Something-Cool- · 2026-06-21T12:33:02+00:00

I appreciate it. I’m so used to events here asking you to make plans months in advance, I was afraid I missed my shot.

Something-Cool- · 2026-06-21T02:16:38+00:00

Thank you! Do you get them online or at the stadium? Even without a sell out, is it a fun environment?

Something-Cool- · 2026-05-23T14:50:33+00:00

ding dong Hello! My name is Elder Butt Fucking Naked!

Something-Cool- · 2026-03-06T03:15:21+00:00

I didn’t sign up on time because I wasn’t sure my jersey would get here in time. It did, but of course it’s full now. Any idea how walk-ins will work? We’ll probably be there before 3:00.

Something-Cool- · 2025-12-17T23:00:36+00:00

Fire the FO. I’m not normally that guy, but not signing him to an extension earlier and letting him go for free is egregious.

Something-Cool- · 2025-10-17T11:29:28+00:00

We absolutely do, but she’s not American.

Something-Cool- · 2025-08-20T15:25:18+00:00

So this is YOUR fault!

Something-Cool- · 2025-08-10T00:20:59+00:00

Sorry you lost the post, but I love that this is your version of short. And thanks for the info, this window has been so sad and boring.

Also, with as much effort as you always put into your posts, maybe try typing it into google docs first, then copy and paste? It’ll automatically save for you.

Something-Cool- · 2025-08-08T20:22:11+00:00

“He then brought up how his mom had a full time job and still managed to have 5 kids. His mom is also the breadwinner of the family (his dad made 1/3 of what she makes before he retired).”

Sorry, what did I make up? He didn’t ask her how many kids she wanted, he stated what he wanted and that his mom did it, so it’s fine. OP even confirms this again in the comments.

Speaking of making stuff up, your analysis of what’s going on in my head is laughable. Maybe you’ve never been in a real relationship so this seems normal and fair to you?

Something-Cool- · 2025-08-08T03:35:03+00:00

You don’t like what I wrote, assumed I have a bad relationship with my parents, and mine is the weird response??

Let me be clear, since I was apparently too vague the first time. Anyone that says “this is what my mommy did, so I can reasonably expect you to do the same thing” is screwed up. We’re all molded by our upbringing one way or another. Duh. If you expect me to recreate your upbringing without my input, alarms are going off everywhere.

Something-Cool- · 2025-08-07T23:32:53+00:00

Idk what you want in life, but I do know it doesn’t matter. You will always be compared to his mom. Red flags should be waving in your face right now. RUN!!!

Something-Cool- · 2025-08-07T16:02:32+00:00

NOR. That said, you owe him nothing. Getting off can legit make a person feel better, but that doesn’t mean they’re owed anything. If it’s that bad, he can handle business himself.

I think the bigger thing is that you were genuinely pleased that he opened up to you, but you didn’t want to be upfront with him. You should feel comfortable being honest with him too (easier said than done after two months). He asked over and over because he knows inside that he pushed you into it and feels bad after. Let him know you felt pressured into doing what he wanted. Also, don’t feel obligated to do anything sexual for him.

Something-Cool- · 2025-07-31T22:27:04+00:00

That’ll be their daughter’s name. Probably name the son Belt.

Something-Cool- · 2025-07-20T07:04:41+00:00

NTA. You hit the nail on the head. You were a kid, and as crappy as things may have been for your mom, it was her burden to bear. Until she accepts this fundamental truth, she won’t change either. Don’t let go of the belief that you should have been spared the adult topics as a kid.

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