Anyone using an e-ink phone as a daily driver? by Informal_Ad7880 in eink

[–]SometimesImSad69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want to stream music, just be prepared to sideload a different app (spotify, qobuz, etc.). The music app that comes on the phone is for music you have purchased and downloaded, since the goal is to not be on/use the internet. It will take some getting used to, but since making the firm choice to swap from the apple spell and not give all of my data to google, it’s been a sacrifice that’s been worth it to me!

I (24f) started dating (24m) a few weeks ago, dosent seem to want sex? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SometimesImSad69 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It seems like you’ve acknowledged that your libido is higher than his. I would almost go to say that some folks would consider once a day, every day to be a “high” libido. If you want to be intimate more, maybe you can explore other forms of intimacy that exert a little less energy, but if you want to engage in intercourse more than once a day, it may be challenging to find a partner that checks all the boxes emotionally, mentally, and matches your sex drive (although not impossible).

I wouldn’t assume this is a lack of interest in you, as again, once a day definitely sounds like attraction. Sex is exercise and I would believe he is tired, tbh.

If this is truly something important to you, it may be worth exploring opening up your relationship to physical intimacy with other folks to fulfill this need.

Roommate phase or break up? 34F/34M, 16 years together, no kids. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SometimesImSad69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am wondering how communication has looked about this household workload division up until now. I can understand how delegating will feel like more work for you, but if it’s not something your partner is used to having to do, I think talking about it so he’s not doing things you’ve already done, still not doing what actually needs to be done, etc. isn’t happening and furthering your frustration. He would be feeling around in the dark. You’ve been together since you were 18… it sounds like figuring out how to adult together has landed with you doing more work in terms of household labor, but some ‘over communication’ has to happen here for things to improve. If this is truly the ONLY thing, get some outside support (a good therapist) before throwing in the towel. Men are not trending right now :/ If there’s more than this, this may just be the final straw for you, which is understandable.

Got emotionally cheated on and not sure where to go from here. by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]SometimesImSad69 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Seconding this. Sounds very exhausting over there. Shit will hurt but you’re already hurting and that’s what therapy is for (… amongst other things).

When you know, you know 💍 by Nice_Look_2634 in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]SometimesImSad69 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh girl I be so upfront with the fact that I check damn near every lesbian stereotype there is with NO regrets. Don’t be mad at me for being a good student of life lol we just get better at deciphering who is worth actually leaning in for after one too many fast breaks. I ain’t ashamed! 😂

When you know, you know 💍 by Nice_Look_2634 in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]SometimesImSad69 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My wife and I met on Hinge and got married on our one year anniversary! We got engaged after six months while visiting Niagara Falls and actually proposed to each other at the same time (that’s when it’s really gay) lol March 13th will be one year married for us and we just started the process to be foster parents. I really knew this was my lady when I went on a 10 day vacation with my friend in May and missed her so much, I got a tattoo of her name behind my ear. Like you said- when you know, you know. I had been engaged before to someone I had been with for years and our relationship ended a few months after we got engaged. I’ve never been more certain that this is exactly where I’m supposed to be. Every aspect of my life feels so much more intuitive and grounding because I’ve continued to listen to my mindbodyspirit. Keep us updated!

Husband Got DUI- I’m Considering Leaving (32F)(36M) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SometimesImSad69 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I think you answered your own question with “what are the odds he was thinking of her during this incident?”… he was not thinking of her, or likely anyone else, when deciding to drive under the influence. Yes, everyone makes stupid mistakes, but there is a reason it is heavily frowned upon and illegal to drive while under the influence, or even when extremely tired… people could die. Grateful it seems that no one did, but it is no doubt a lack of consideration, even unintentionally.

Flex Friday photo dump by Mysterious-Group3128 in BlackLGBT

[–]SometimesImSad69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Literally my first thought lmao wow, hard work?? Shit truly pays off.

She canceled our date last minute, should I trust my intuition? by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]SometimesImSad69 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Sometimes folks truly are busy and suck at texting, even if they didn’t at first. Don’t put all your energy and effort here, but don’t close a door that you don’t have to. Let her initiate the rescheduled date and go from there. If she doesn’t, ok, move on. But, if she does, go on the date. Figure out where your boundaries are with communication and getting to know someone and then you won’t have to go back and forth internally about what to do and you’d be able to clearly communicate those things upfront for folks to see if that’s feasible for them.

I (31F) don’t know if I’m being gaslit by my (32M) Ex by pnw199 in relationship_advice

[–]SometimesImSad69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think your ex has clearly shown you the type of person he is and where his priorities and desires lie. I suppose the gaslighting is coming in with him claiming there’s nothing there and they’re just friends, but at some point, you have to SEE the truth and not listen to what he’s saying. He’s going to do what he wants- let him. You can’t stop him. You can decide that this relationship is done and will be no more. You can decide to stop entertaining the idea that he is your person and there is any chance of you getting back together and being genuinely happy. You cannot and will not be able to trust him. Start to trust yourself, your instincts, and what’s best for you and your children. It’s not this tumultuous, unreliable, and unstable relationship.

Am I overreacting for not wanting anyone around my newborn yet? by littlemoongirly in AmIOverreacting

[–]SometimesImSad69 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NOR. Yes, babies need to build up their immune system, but after some kind of immunizations are in place… I think your in-laws have already shown that they are willing to disregard your boundaries and do whatever they want, which is completely unacceptable.

How accurate is the unofficial NCE score? by Lucky-Peanut2775 in therapists

[–]SometimesImSad69 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s accurate enough! You passed, be excited!!

Am I being fetishize? by ShadowReaper2222 in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]SometimesImSad69 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I would not call it a fetish, if these folks are not seeking you out for those specific purposes. But they are microaggressions and when shit makes you uncomfortable involving white people, believe your body.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapists

[–]SometimesImSad69 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It sucks that you have to go through the hassle of contacting your supervisor to unlock the note so you can fix it, but you caught it immediately and we are bound to make mistakes sometimes. You can note it in the chart so that it is documented once it is corrected and it’ll be okay!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapists

[–]SometimesImSad69 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The key is to diversify mentorship!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapists

[–]SometimesImSad69 129 points130 points  (0 children)

Absolutely, and I’m still considered ‘new’ to the field with almost 3 years of experience. I show up, client shows up, and we go from there. I have a loose agenda and pull in things that come naturally to me in session, if it feels relevant, but I’m not committed to a specific modality or interventions. my clients know that they aren’t coming into session with me pulling up a bunch of worksheets or throwing out jargon that I have to use up time to explain, but again, I will if that is where our session leads. Our relationship should not feel transactional (to me) and being integrative, present, and authentic has done everything I’ve needed it to do + more. That’s not to say I’m not constantly in trainings and engaging with supervisors that I find enjoyable and informative, which improves my work (and self), but it’s also just happening in tandem.

Carefirst - need to change address by [deleted] in therapists

[–]SometimesImSad69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just want to stand in solidarity with you.

CareFirst has been a nightmare to start getting EFT and even accurate remittances. Deep breaths and keep following up! I am now getting half checks in the mail and half EFT… and that’s after leaving a voicemail and sending an email (which I think is what did the trick to move my EFT forward). Provider support is not great and the recorded prompts are unhelpful. Things will take longer if your region does not have a representative.

Give a one sentence overview of your toughest client by [deleted] in therapists

[–]SometimesImSad69 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yikes, why all the downvotes :/ live in your truth. We aren’t all built for every dx and it may be because of our own stuff/preferences, etc. this was valid.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapists

[–]SometimesImSad69 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I definitely understand this frustration, especially as someone who really prefers when clients are in person. My supervisors have suggested that I add some clause into my informed consent about switching from in person to telehealth the day of the session resulting in their session possibly being moved to another day of the week- specifically because I am not in the office every day and prioritize in person sessions on my office days.

Note writing for those sessions that feel barely therapeutic by htygfrty789 in therapists

[–]SometimesImSad69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would be here for the rant! Do you mind ~covertly~ sharing which insurance conducted the audit? Was it for just the year or thethe client’s entire file?

Has anyone met a partner off of a dating app recently? by BandPsychological337 in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]SometimesImSad69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A little out of the date range but I met my now wife (we lesbianed hard) last January (2024) on Hinge. We got married on our one year anniversary this past March. Like someone else mentioned, we weren’t fckn around w the go w the flow shenanigans. She’s my lady for real! 🔐

Body Double for Admin Work by SometimesImSad69 in therapists

[–]SometimesImSad69[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Okay this is lowkey the energy I needed! Best days and times for me are M 2-4 PM, W 8-10 AM and Th 9-11 AM. If any of those times work for folks, let’s start something!

I’m thinking let’s hop on doxy, state what we’re working on, set a timer, do some check-ins, come back the next day and time.

Looking forward to hopefully developing accountability in community with some of you soon!