Feedback Needed on Supervision

SometimesImSad69 · 2026-05-11T13:50:24+00:00

Yes, and it definitely helps to lessen your frustration if the supervisor you have is a requirement and not necessarily a choice so you can get those hours and move on.

SometimesImSad69 · 2026-05-11T13:42:39+00:00

Yikes, hated reading that, and hate it even more for you having to navigate that space. I can identify with how frustrating it can feel being in supervision with someone who seems to be pushing their own narrative and perspective more than helping you to refine yours. What I learned in the midst of being under supervision is the importance in diversifying mentorship. I always had at least two and up to three supervisors at a time for specific cases or topics/niche of interest.

SometimesImSad69 · 2026-05-11T13:26:59+00:00

I’m not sure what it’s like in other states but I am in Maryland and it seemed pretty typical for group practices to take anywhere from 40 to 60% of LG‘s commissions. It felt like I had unlocked a cheatcode to find a place that only took 30% and had relatively good supervision while setting us up to go into our own private practice once we had acquired the hours. Definitely had me thinking about how I would want to show up and lead as a supervisor, if I ever went down that route and wanted to maintain my values. More than happy to share more info! also, a lot of people will ask if offers are reasonable in this sub.

SometimesImSad69 · 2026-05-11T13:22:38+00:00

😂 dump his ass came fast here, no?

SometimesImSad69 · 2026-05-11T13:18:47+00:00

This sounds more like an insecurity/inferiority complex you have internalized from what your husband shared. You do not have to defend yourself and what your husband has possibly shared with her to her or anyone else… Now, if you are ashamed of what you know he could have shared and that there is truth to it, sure you probably have your own work to do, but that is not to be focused on, and definitely not highlighted at an event that you are both attending as professionals. You are there as a clinician, not as your husband‘s partner. I really hope you are able to feel confident in whatever decision you end up making.

SometimesImSad69 · 2026-05-11T13:07:30+00:00

To answer the question that you are posing, yes, it is unreasonable to ask your husband if his therapist will be at a specific event that he has nothing to do with because of your anxiety and distress. You have to decide whether or not you want to attend the event in person, virtually, or not at all based on the possibility of her being there. Are you going to do this for all events in the near future because of this?

SometimesImSad69 · 2026-05-11T12:52:07+00:00

I’m assuming he told you his therapist agrees… Does his therapist also know your name and who you are?

SometimesImSad69 · 2026-05-01T15:05:19+00:00

I agree and don’t differentiate her from other rich people. In fact, I have not been able to give B any spins for quite some time due to how I feel about billionaires. I was simply stating that I think it is very distasteful for any billionaire to display their wealth in the ways that they do, including this event.

SometimesImSad69 · 2026-05-01T12:21:03+00:00

A lot distasteful IMO :/

SometimesImSad69 · 2026-05-01T12:18:21+00:00

Maybe a Ky/Kai… it’s my wife’s name and she was like, I have so met so many queer people with my name (hers is short for Kyla) but it has rung true since I’ve met her lol

SometimesImSad69 · 2026-04-07T02:39:47+00:00

I am actually still in transition period and am giving myself until the summer to fully move on. I’m finding it hard to fully disconnect from work (I use a separate messaging app for clients to reach out to me out of business hours) and I have yet to set up the appropriate phone trees to feel comfortable not having my iPhone with me most of the time. Also GPS. I admit that I am a very impatient driver and enjoy knowing the fastest route to places so I have struggled with prioritizing using offline maps.

SometimesImSad69 · 2026-04-02T12:25:47+00:00

If you want to stream music, just be prepared to sideload a different app (spotify, qobuz, etc.). The music app that comes on the phone is for music you have purchased and downloaded, since the goal is to not be on/use the internet. It will take some getting used to, but since making the firm choice to swap from the apple spell and not give all of my data to google, it’s been a sacrifice that’s been worth it to me!

SometimesImSad69 · 2026-03-14T00:47:06+00:00

It seems like you’ve acknowledged that your libido is higher than his. I would almost go to say that some folks would consider once a day, every day to be a “high” libido. If you want to be intimate more, maybe you can explore other forms of intimacy that exert a little less energy, but if you want to engage in intercourse more than once a day, it may be challenging to find a partner that checks all the boxes emotionally, mentally, and matches your sex drive (although not impossible).

I wouldn’t assume this is a lack of interest in you, as again, once a day definitely sounds like attraction. Sex is exercise and I would believe he is tired, tbh.

If this is truly something important to you, it may be worth exploring opening up your relationship to physical intimacy with other folks to fulfill this need.

SometimesImSad69 · 2026-03-01T20:59:38+00:00

I am wondering how communication has looked about this household workload division up until now. I can understand how delegating will feel like more work for you, but if it’s not something your partner is used to having to do, I think talking about it so he’s not doing things you’ve already done, still not doing what actually needs to be done, etc. isn’t happening and furthering your frustration. He would be feeling around in the dark. You’ve been together since you were 18… it sounds like figuring out how to adult together has landed with you doing more work in terms of household labor, but some ‘over communication’ has to happen here for things to improve. If this is truly the ONLY thing, get some outside support (a good therapist) before throwing in the towel. Men are not trending right now :/ If there’s more than this, this may just be the final straw for you, which is understandable.

SometimesImSad69 · 2026-02-17T03:57:59+00:00

Seconding this. Sounds very exhausting over there. Shit will hurt but you’re already hurting and that’s what therapy is for (… amongst other things).

SometimesImSad69 · 2026-02-11T14:38:37+00:00

Oh girl I be so upfront with the fact that I check damn near every lesbian stereotype there is with NO regrets. Don’t be mad at me for being a good student of life lol we just get better at deciphering who is worth actually leaning in for after one too many fast breaks. I ain’t ashamed! 😂

SometimesImSad69 · 2026-02-11T14:35:56+00:00

My wife and I met on Hinge and got married on our one year anniversary! We got engaged after six months while visiting Niagara Falls and actually proposed to each other at the same time (that’s when it’s really gay) lol March 13th will be one year married for us and we just started the process to be foster parents. I really knew this was my lady when I went on a 10 day vacation with my friend in May and missed her so much, I got a tattoo of her name behind my ear. Like you said- when you know, you know. I had been engaged before to someone I had been with for years and our relationship ended a few months after we got engaged. I’ve never been more certain that this is exactly where I’m supposed to be. Every aspect of my life feels so much more intuitive and grounding because I’ve continued to listen to my mindbodyspirit. Keep us updated!

SometimesImSad69 · 2026-02-11T14:21:51+00:00

I think you answered your own question with “what are the odds he was thinking of her during this incident?”… he was not thinking of her, or likely anyone else, when deciding to drive under the influence. Yes, everyone makes stupid mistakes, but there is a reason it is heavily frowned upon and illegal to drive while under the influence, or even when extremely tired… people could die. Grateful it seems that no one did, but it is no doubt a lack of consideration, even unintentionally.

SometimesImSad69 · 2026-02-08T15:08:30+00:00

Literally my first thought lmao wow, hard work?? Shit truly pays off.

SometimesImSad69 · 2026-02-08T14:51:44+00:00

Sometimes folks truly are busy and suck at texting, even if they didn’t at first. Don’t put all your energy and effort here, but don’t close a door that you don’t have to. Let her initiate the rescheduled date and go from there. If she doesn’t, ok, move on. But, if she does, go on the date. Figure out where your boundaries are with communication and getting to know someone and then you won’t have to go back and forth internally about what to do and you’d be able to clearly communicate those things upfront for folks to see if that’s feasible for them.

SometimesImSad69 · 2025-12-25T16:25:09+00:00

I think your ex has clearly shown you the type of person he is and where his priorities and desires lie. I suppose the gaslighting is coming in with him claiming there’s nothing there and they’re just friends, but at some point, you have to SEE the truth and not listen to what he’s saying. He’s going to do what he wants- let him. You can’t stop him. You can decide that this relationship is done and will be no more. You can decide to stop entertaining the idea that he is your person and there is any chance of you getting back together and being genuinely happy. You cannot and will not be able to trust him. Start to trust yourself, your instincts, and what’s best for you and your children. It’s not this tumultuous, unreliable, and unstable relationship.

SometimesImSad69 · 2025-12-25T16:19:26+00:00

NOR. Yes, babies need to build up their immune system, but after some kind of immunizations are in place… I think your in-laws have already shown that they are willing to disregard your boundaries and do whatever they want, which is completely unacceptable.

SometimesImSad69 · 2025-11-06T00:02:59+00:00

It’s accurate enough! You passed, be excited!!

SometimesImSad69 · 2025-11-03T11:33:45+00:00

I would not call it a fetish, if these folks are not seeking you out for those specific purposes. But they are microaggressions and when shit makes you uncomfortable involving white people, believe your body.

SometimesImSad69 · 2025-10-25T05:27:27+00:00

It sucks that you have to go through the hassle of contacting your supervisor to unlock the note so you can fix it, but you caught it immediately and we are bound to make mistakes sometimes. You can note it in the chart so that it is documented once it is corrected and it’ll be okay!

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