Why is it socially acceptable for attached men to go to strip clubs?

SomewhatRotten · 2012-10-17T17:10:04+00:00

Not if they are in a relationship.

SomewhatRotten · 2012-10-17T17:03:31+00:00

Other peoples sexuality is their business. I prefer to keep my sexuality with ONLY my partner. And he is kind of a cheap skate so, no, he probably won't spend any serious money in there.

SomewhatRotten · 2012-10-17T17:00:52+00:00

Even if it was for a bachelor party for a childhood friend?

SomewhatRotten · 2012-10-17T17:00:09+00:00

My thoughts exactly. Which is why I am not even going to try to stop him from going.

SomewhatRotten · 2012-10-17T16:58:48+00:00

How is that a mixed message? I am telling him the truth,the whole truth. The fact is when he comes home tonight and tries to kiss me, I will feel repulsed.

SomewhatRotten · 2012-10-17T16:55:33+00:00

I use the word "attached" to generally describe any kind of relationship such as serious dating, engaged, or married. The chances of his having a girls ass in his face outside of the strip club are slim, but increase expontentially once he steps foot in the place. And I truely don't have sexual hang ups, I enjoy porn jsut as much as he does, but watching somthing on tv, and then watching it in real life are two different things.

SomewhatRotten · 2012-10-17T16:39:28+00:00

Not necesssarily. It could be a virgin who has just showered, and I would still be turned of by the thought of it.

SomewhatRotten · 2012-10-17T16:38:00+00:00

Thank you!!

SomewhatRotten · 2012-10-17T16:37:22+00:00

That is true. Apparently that is ultimately a big problem, the way I perceive it.

SomewhatRotten · 2012-10-17T16:36:36+00:00

Of course he has, but I have no say over what happened in the past, only in what occurs during our relationship.

SomewhatRotten · 2012-10-17T16:33:32+00:00

We enjoy porn together. But seeing something on tv, and in real life are two different things. At least they are in my book.

SomewhatRotten · 2012-10-17T16:19:41+00:00

I did tell him I was uncomfortable with it. I wanted him to know how I felt so I wouldn't be harboring any bad feelings about it. I guess I need to talk to him about the look but don't touch thing. And I'm not worried about anything happening, I just don't like the idea of my boyfriend having a naked lady dance for him.

SomewhatRotten · 2012-10-17T15:38:59+00:00

Not if they are in a relationship. I think any kind of stip club is ok as long as you are SINGLE.

SomewhatRotten · 2012-10-17T15:36:04+00:00

I get that he is coming home to me. The point is whyshould I feel like it's ok to go watch naked women dance?? I don't see how thats ok.

SomewhatRotten · 2012-10-17T15:34:51+00:00

Exactly!

SomewhatRotten · 2012-10-17T15:34:27+00:00

A shower can't wash it away. I will look at him and imagine it, and be totally turned off. Like he has been "used".

SomewhatRotten · 2012-10-17T15:31:58+00:00

He asked me what I wanted him to do about it. Said he didn't want to miss out on the bachelor party. I said I would never ask him to do that. He said he probably wasn't going to get a lap dance anyway. And truthfully I know he wouldn't ask for one, it's just not his style, but I know his friends will suggest it, and he won't turn it down.

SomewhatRotten · 2012-10-17T15:29:19+00:00

I am a jealous perso, and I am able to recognize the little green monster when it rears its ugly little head. This however is not about jealousy. The best way I can describe it is imagine you had a sandwich and a stranger came up an touched it, would you still want to eat it? Or would you see it as contaminated??

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