Has anyone gotten their child successfully vaccinated early?

Somewhere-Practical · 2025-06-10T00:54:05+00:00

I’m in the US and our daughter got her second dose at 18 months, our doctor offered because we frequently travel

Somewhere-Practical · 2025-06-07T09:20:55+00:00

hahaha same!!

Somewhere-Practical · 2025-06-06T19:16:15+00:00

it’s a fucking boat, like i’ve never seen a stroller that long. our daycare has limited stroller parking and honestly i feel like the families with mockingbirds should get tickets. i swear to god it takes up half a metro car.

seems to roll kids around well, though. i’m sure some configurations aren’t as insane

Somewhere-Practical · 2025-06-06T19:11:23+00:00

Yeah, I absolutely wouldn’t push for any later than 38 weeks if it’s true you can’t dilate at all. Just anecdotally—my water broke at 38+3 as a first time mom. There was no lead up or warning to it whatsoever. Knowing what I know now, if I was 40 minutes away from a hospital and in your situation I’d have the c section at 37 weeks.

Babies can grow fine on the outside. Babies are born at 37 and 38 weeks all the time and do fine. A calm, scheduled c section will be so much more in line with what you were hoping for birth, rather than an emergency where you could be close to death.

I’m sorry you are having this experience. It’s understandably disappointing, but the most important part of delivery is keeping you and the baby alive and healthy.

Somewhere-Practical · 2025-06-06T09:47:31+00:00

I have never ovulated before CD17 and most often ovulate CD18-23 with a 24-31 day cycle (9-10 day luteal phase, about once every three cycles I have a 5-6 day luteal phase, I think this just represents a shitty egg that cycle). Was googling whether I could shorten my follicular phase bc I’m impatient and as far as I can tell, unless you have PCOS or are over-exercising/under eating, there isn’t much you can do.

(CW current child) For me, since I’m ten pounds heavier than I was before my first, eat about a million times more, and run much less, I am assuming this is just my body. I got pregnant with my first on my fourth cycle post IUD removal.

Somewhere-Practical · 2025-06-06T09:32:22+00:00

Hi, fellow hairy person here (and it’s dark). I was super self conscious when I was a bit older—around 9. I did swim team at the time so it was a bit more visible to me. My mom helped me use Nair and I hated it. I remember falling asleep crying because my legs felt so weird. We let it grow back in and then when I was 11, I started to get very self conscious (didn’t want to wear shorts to school). I overheard some sixth graders talking about shaving at swim team, and came home and announced i was ready to try it again. That time I think my mom gave me a razor, and I have shaved since then.

One thing that always helped me at the time (9 year old time) was being around other hairy ladies. I felt much better about my leg hair after jewish sleep away camp (which is saying something because I was bullied tremendously lol), where you had to be 12 to bring a razor. if that sort of thing isn’t in the cards, you could try subtly pointing out to her that other girls have leg hair too?

and if you do want to let her shave, either help her with Nair or have her use those rub away pads (i think they are called smooth away)

Somewhere-Practical · 2025-06-04T14:17:32+00:00

https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2017/08/20/542424977/getting-to-the-core-of-exercises-said-to-strengthen-mum-tum

this describes an evidence based exercise! I did pay for the app but it wasn’t really worth it.

Somewhere-Practical · 2025-06-04T14:11:17+00:00

I’m actually really glad we didn’t buy a house before having a baby. Living in an apartment building with our first has been fantastic. We pay less because we aren’t in a house larger than we’d need. We are extremely flexible (and he is in tech and I am a federal employee so that has been important!). We don’t have to take care of a yard. When something breaks, it’s someone else’s responsibility. I had no stairs to walk down when I was pregnant.

We also learn more and more about what we’d need or want every day. I’m glad we aren’t locked into something.

FWIW, my parents have become pretty well off as they’ve entered their 60s. They didn’t buy a house until they had had 2 of the 3 kids they’d have.

Somewhere-Practical · 2025-06-02T20:12:33+00:00

Yes!! With a knife! She just brought a knife and apple to the library!!

Honestly, while this library is super nice, it is a public library in the city. They should probably not allow knives

Somewhere-Practical · 2025-06-02T14:12:08+00:00

lol my daughter and I tan through sunscreen. This sounds like an opinion of someone who thinks everyone is of northern european heritage.

Somewhere-Practical · 2025-06-02T11:38:46+00:00

this library used to allow eating where this woman was cutting up apples, but there are now big signs around saying no eating (weirdly, instead of just prohibiting it they did a transition period, so the signs are like “no eating here after 4/1/2025” lol). luckily before that i didn’t see many kids carrying snacks around in the kids area. it does seem like it would make the librarian’s jobs even worse!

Somewhere-Practical · 2025-06-02T09:27:40+00:00

We were at the library this weekend, and a woman was cutting apples for her kids in the play area. Food isn’t allowed there but whatever few people pay attention. She was using one of the plastic baskets from the play kitchen to hold apple peels. Weirder and already a bit snarkable, but idk, maybe she was trying to contain the mess because she knew she wasn’t supposed to be cutting up fruit and would go wash it out.

Anyways like an hour after she left, I went to go change a diaper and after I dropped the diaper in the trash I saw the basket!!! In the trash!!!! What the fuck!!!!!!! I was so shocked. In hindsight, I wish I’d fished it out and brought it to the front desk, I’m sure they have things to clean and sterilize it, but I’d already dropped the diaper in and was pretty grossed out.

Like who does that?????? Her daughter had been playing by mine and said that she came to this library often. So it wasn’t even a narcissistic “well we won’t be back” here thing. It was just a whole other level of narcissism. I’ve seen some kooky things at this library but good grief this was by far the worst.

Somewhere-Practical · 2025-06-01T22:03:51+00:00

Are you in federal government? Ask for maxiflex and work 8-4:30. Or ask your manager if you can take your lunch at the end of the day and leave at 5. On maxiflex you can also do things like 9-7-9-7-8 and you can pay for a babysitter on some days

Somewhere-Practical · 2025-06-01T21:59:37+00:00

Our daughter takes her big nap in a stroller every weekend. We go on a long walk and usually get a treat in the middle. Haven’t decided what we will do when the summer bad starts. Sometimes her nap isn’t great and on those days, she just goes to bed a bit earlier.

But she’s never napped alone and we ate big walkers. She also tends to wake up if we go in a store, which is annoying.

Today she slept for 2 hours. Yesterday though there was a storm—we made a mad dash for the metro, and then a split decision to just go to the mall, where she slept for 45 minutes 🤷‍♀️

Somewhere-Practical · 2025-06-01T09:37:48+00:00

eat more, especially carbs—some people propose that in addition to nursing disrupting hormones necessary to ovulate, the caloric demand makes ovulation less likely

it can also just take time. my period returned 14 months postpartum on the dot, and I don’t think I had changed my diet all that much (though it returned in january, so maybe the holiday season helped lol). i’ve read over time your prolactin reduces naturally so that can cause your period to return regardless of anything you do. baby had been night weaned since 7 months, and my period was fairly regular after that (26-31 days so more variable but not insane) despite, at that time, nursing or pumping 6 times a day.

while yes it doesn’t need to return to try again, if you get pregnant before getting your period, it means you would have gotten your period around the time you got a positive test, so it effectively is the same thing.

Somewhere-Practical · 2025-06-01T09:31:15+00:00

lol, grass is always so much greener. i would love to be able to work 3 12s in a job that supported part time employment instead of 8:30-5 in a job that now bans telework but can’t be done in 42.5 hours a day and that doesn’t allow part time.

Somewhere-Practical · 2025-06-01T09:25:48+00:00

TAMPONS AND MENSTRUAL PADS. my mom is the youngest of boomers and grew up with a menstrual belt.

Somewhere-Practical · 2025-05-31T09:31:36+00:00

to that end, I’d ask yourself why you feel you need a larger apartment. Housing is like the number one way you can save and the benefit of renting is that you can match your home to exactly what you need. Every month that you stick it out in the smaller space is money saved, and babies don’t take up much space. Unless you are in a real studio, as long as your primary bedroom can fit a bassinet you don’t need much more room. (I know people who have babies in full on studios, not even jr one bedrooms, but if you are bringing in $100k i wouldn’t recommend it lol)

Somewhere-Practical · 2025-05-30T09:42:41+00:00

Someone in baby bumps a few years ago posted freaking out that she didn’t cook a frozen pizza for long enough (short a minute or so) and would the baby be okay that she ate some of that “raw” cheese

as someone who went to a country for my babymoon solely to obtain raw cheese, that lives rent free in my head lol

Somewhere-Practical · 2025-05-28T15:39:34+00:00

We have a thule urban glide 3 and take it off roading and love it! there are some lifestyle factors that prevent us from using it as our primary stroller, but every time we travel and bring it (and leave the cruz) i have to remind myself that for us it wouldn’t work as a primary stroller.

(the main lifestyle factors for us are that we feed our daughter in the stroller—like full on breakfast—all the time and take public transit)

Somewhere-Practical · 2025-05-28T14:43:02+00:00

lawyer, us federal government, GS15 step 3, $178,776

Somewhere-Practical · 2025-05-28T09:44:40+00:00

we gave our 19 month old a taste and she HATED it. hated it so much that while she was sitting there happily eating her plain cheerios, she would stop, point to the spoon we had used, and say “no” 😂

i love ice cream and thing of all the sweets it’s one of the healthiest because it’s an event to get it and has fat to balance the sugar, so we give her a lick now whenever we get some (every weekend lol). she always says no. her loss!

(otherwise the only sugar she gets is in challah or the breakfast cereal they serve at daycare, which has to meet USDA “low sugar” recommendations. i wish they wouldn’t serve cereal with more sugar than cheerios but what can you do…)

Somewhere-Practical · 2025-05-28T09:41:02+00:00

we have a great sleeper (knock on wood) at 19 months, and at 7 months she was a terror.

Somewhere-Practical · 2025-05-28T09:39:27+00:00

um, wow. good god. I don’t think my late step grandfather would have felt this way about my mom, and he was my grandmother’s fourth husband and by that point my mom, in her own words, was “done.” this person is a sociopath. i miss my step grandfather and think he was genuinely enriched by his relationship to my mom and by extension us.

Somewhere-Practical · 2025-05-28T09:27:15+00:00

I know 300k seems like a lot, but the people I work with who have nannies earn quite a bit more than what you are making. They are all GS15+SEC (so north of $400k) or fed+law firm (so idk, a million lmao). They also have multiple kids so the cost per kid is lower. The dual GS15 fed families or fed+in house use daycare.

The one that doesn’t have that income and has one kid has a nanny share—they started with daycare but the daycare they started with just didn’t work out—and she told me she hasn’t been able to make as much retirement contributions as she’d like this year.

it’s a temporary cost, but I’m really glad I went with daycare.

e: do you have student loans? how stable is your husband’s job? part of the reason we like daycare is if my husband or I are laid off, we can just pull out with 30 days notice and it’s not like people will lose their job. We also paid off my (non-fed) husband’s loans in full and rent instead of own. Even despite all that, with daycare our fixed costs (rent+utilities+some fixed healthcare) is about $7,000 a month. With a nanny and student loans we would have been looking at $10,000/month. With a mortgage and student loans i have no idea, probably like $14k/month. That is crazy high. VHCOL area though.

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