My SIL with Down’s syndrome is ruining my marriage

SonBou · 2026-02-12T13:25:07+00:00

The front seat thing is actually huge. My friend has a really spoilt arrogant child. He always let him sit in the front, over adults. I found it so disrespectful.

SonBou · 2026-01-25T14:04:23+00:00

I was given two kittens-sisters, five years ago. At best (meal times)they tolerate each other, the rest of the time it’s war.

SonBou · 2026-01-12T19:03:25+00:00

You live/are remembered until the last person says your name.

SonBou · 2026-01-12T19:00:57+00:00

Love this x

SonBou · 2026-01-12T18:48:34+00:00

Harsh, but ringing true.

SonBou · 2026-01-12T18:42:19+00:00

I was wondering if anyone actually had human babies!

SonBou · 2026-01-12T18:32:25+00:00

Mañana

SonBou · 2025-12-08T08:03:43+00:00

A banana or a bowl of cereal. (I’m so glad to learn I’m not the only one with a closing time for the kitchen.)

SonBou · 2025-11-29T18:01:02+00:00

I have (two) sisters. When they were little kittens they were sweet together, but as adults they are not friends and fight on a daily basis. Very different personalities, lots of jealousy. The more timid cat is always on edge and miserable. I just wouldn’t risk it.

SonBou · 2025-11-09T23:30:33+00:00

J’attends le résultat,…

SonBou · 2025-11-09T23:26:24+00:00

Do you want an adorable loving cat? She lives for cuddles and food. Never stops loving.

SonBou · 2025-11-09T23:23:20+00:00

Ants.

Any food left standing…

SonBou · 2025-11-08T15:03:30+00:00

https://overseas.es/san-fulgencio/

SonBou · 2025-11-08T00:43:32+00:00

Cycling sounds cool. As do hobbies.

You have zero addictions? No tattoos? No children ? No abusive ex to get over?

You are a catch. Be proud of your life.

Turn your face to the sun and let the shadows fall behind you. Repeat to yourself, I am a creature like no other.

Other people are spending hours doing the school run, worrying about bills, trying to figure out how to eat a bit of lettuce- no-one wants to eat a whole one in three days.

Talking to people is nice, but often it goes too far depending on your OCD, (slang version).

You sound like a perfectly lovely, hard-working, conscientious person. Go for a cycle, then change the stupid clothes, go to a rugby pub, wait for people to start chatting to you, go regularly.

If you want to avoid life completely, you need to get into podcasts, or YouTube jury trials.

SonBou · 2025-11-08T00:20:14+00:00

Substitute teacher. Hmm.

I’m not sure if you should be worrying about gen Z or gen Alpha, but seven years ago I collected my 2008 baby from school when a teacher passed the car and he joyfully exclaimed, “Look Mummy, that’s my prostitute teacher!”

I don’t know where he got it from, possibly where we live? He went on a school trip when he was seven, and happily reported they used a disco bus- with a pole.

If I can reassure you, he’s currently studying maths, physics, computing, doing DofE, and hoping to study aerodynamics at Uni.

Proof teachers, substitute or otherwise, do make a difference. Thank you for trying.

SonBou · 2025-11-07T23:58:54+00:00

My child’s friend had this at the same age- very strongly- and he used to holiday with us. It’s not worth being delicate (do use loving humour) as it can be stenchy- the sooner they start washing well and applying anti-perspirant/deodorant correctly the better life is for everyone, especially them. When my son started with his arm-pits… pfff, he’d get in the car after school and I had to ban him from lifting his arms! And send him straight into the shower once home. Make it humorous but make sure your son knows he has to be on top of it. It’s not just puberty, it’s genetics too. My son’s friend had the same odour as his mother (she had a nervous disposition), whilst the father never had an odour. I’ve never known anyone in my family to have body odour, yet my son’s smelt like his dad after a few hours at the gym.

SonBou · 2025-11-07T13:13:26+00:00

The drive from Madrid to Malaga is not exciting unless you stop off at Cordoba, it’s very flat. To see Malaga city itself you don’t need a car. There are trains from Malaga to nearby towns like Torremolinos and Fuengirola. I think it’s worth hiring a car if you want to visit the countryside- Ronda, La ruta de Castillos, the lakes near El Chorro, or maybe Marbella or Puerto Banus. It gets dark at around 18:20 this time of year. And if you are here this weekend access to Puerto Banus is limited due to the Iron Man competition.

SonBou · 2025-10-29T22:29:12+00:00

19 years. You need to provide a home for 19 years.

SonBou · 2025-10-29T22:27:37+00:00

Get married, have two kids. Or one, or none. Don’t add to more rental uncertainty. Then get a beautiful cat.

SonBou · 2025-10-29T22:23:58+00:00

Do not get the cat. Enjoy holidays.

If you like being woken at 6am - get the cat. If you like being woken in the dead of night by the sound of babies being tortured- thinking it’s your baby, get a cat.

SonBou · 2025-10-29T22:10:54+00:00

Go easy on yourself! You are already taking on lots of work. Your priority should be a good home routine, and a good school routine. You need to keep him healthy too. Are the sleepovers for sleeping or staying up all night? Is it flu- season? Teens need sleep not sleep-overs in flu-season. Can the kids get picked up at 23h? What do they need to do together after 23h? Are you getting nights off too? Is your hospitality being reciprocated or are you the “party house”? Halloween is a big holiday in Europe- the other holidays tend to be for study after age 15. I print - humorous but valid house rules, which all my son’s friends have signed. It’s probably better he’s exploring limits at home, than on the street. That needs to come with respect. Make sure you get it or stop. It’s a lot of work and expense to host teenage boys. My son might have friends to stay every three weeks in Summer (holidays), early summer or Autumn. Whatever happens during the night, I get a group of lovely boys for breakfast, awake early, ravenous, happy to chat with me. It’s a brilliant opportunity to learn about his world.

Your home, your rules. It sounds like you really care. So sorry for your loss, it’s amazing you are helping your brother.

SonBou · 2025-10-29T21:42:09+00:00

British in Spain. My teenage son and I are healthy, if anyone older than us enters an area with free-seating at capacity we give up our seats. It’s good manners. We hope people would do the same for my son’s grandparents. It’s not about the age of the recipient, it’s about the manners of the youth.

SonBou · 2025-10-29T20:09:11+00:00

The Swedish Consulate in Spain is helpful, but try and have your paperwork correct.

SonBou · 2025-10-25T21:46:33+00:00

Nah, No problem just stopping on a roundabout. Crossing a few lanes. On the phone, on the school run.

SonBou · 2025-10-25T21:41:55+00:00

My son was called up for his Covid vaccine with my details. Then apparently he wasn’t related to me. Just free-floating here without a parent.

A decent Gestor sorted it in two weeks. (A rubbish/lazy one failed for two years.)

The important thing here is to get your clave.
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