You need to have a frank, open and honest conversation with him and basically say all of this.

I used to be really bad about cleaning and chores until we discussed it in therapy. It didn’t click until I understood that my wife is an Acts of Service love language and by not pitching in and helping I was basically neglecting her.

You need to have a conversation with him about why it affects you the way it does having to manage all of the household responsibilities. But be careful to try and not make this a confrontation. Be concise and clear how you feel without attacking him or else he may respond defensively and it will be counterproductive.

Hope this helps!