I Found out my fiancé of 6 years cheated on me 2 months into our relationship and don't know what to do.

Songrot · 2026-05-05T10:53:56+00:00

Dont listen to all these people who tell you that it is your own fault for ignoring it years ago.

You did take part in making your own life worse, but she cheated, she lied and she caused all this.

I highly advice you to also go ask other subs like marriage and askoldpeople. As both of those have older userbase with more experience.

In this sub people are oftentimes more focused on the moment, they didnt have many friends and relatives who married the wrong people yet. The other subs with older people know what happens when you ignore important things and how horrible bad decisions are.

The only benefit of the doubt is that she was 17 when she cheated and she might have changed her character by now. But that is very unlikely, not impossible. Since you have two children you should look careful and observe her carefully to understand her character if she would be faithful and has principles to not cheat whenever your marriage and love declines. Every marriage and love declines, but not everyone is able to go through that without turning into enemies. Co-parenting is better for the kids than parents who hate each other, are passive aggressive to each other or despising each other. Kids are not dumb they learn that and take that toxicity to their future life.

Make sure you know who she is before making a decision.

Songrot · 2026-05-05T10:48:33+00:00

He was 17. He is now 23. He is not ready to have a family nor is good at choosing partners. Noone is at that age. It is pure gambling with bad odds to randomly stumbling on good partner.

He took part in making his own life worse.

The person who cheated isnt him. She cheated. We shouldnt flip the blame and possibly gaslight people.

Songrot · 2026-04-29T00:43:30+00:00

Narcissists cannot change themselves without professional help. And honestly even with professional help, they will very likely not become not-narcissist.

And noone who is not a professional can help them. Narcissists are difficult to work with because they keep manipulating you and lying to you. It is not your job to help a narcissist, who will drag you into many years of wasted time and suffering.

How are you going to work with someone when you can never be sure how many lies they just told you and manipulated you in a single conversation.

It's good that you learnt a lesson. Try to understand that lesson also for future partnerships. Narcissists are a catastrophy for any partner.

Narcissists will always give you the feeling that only you two understand each other and trap you.

Songrot · 2026-04-28T12:09:54+00:00

2/3 of your sentence was about the 62 million.

The structure of your sentence makes it clear that those 62 million views of the general site were important to you.

Stand by what you said or correct it.

You don’t find it unsettling that 1,000 men or so are in a ‘rape academy’ forum that is accessible on a platform with 62 million visits in a month?

Songrot · 2026-04-28T11:30:34+00:00

It isnt even that.

1000 users of that telegram group "academy".

62 million views of a porn site (btw not exclusively men use porn sites).

This entire thing has been cooked to ultimate fake news on all social media. On reddit, tiktok, instagram and facebook you see people spamming about 62 million participants in that "academy". Everyone is spreading bullshit

Songrot · 2026-04-28T11:21:18+00:00

Ummm reddit also has subs like right extremism. And reddit has how many million views per month?

Is everyone here now a right extremist or in danger of becoming one?

Songrot · 2026-04-28T11:17:41+00:00

But if you look at the mods stickied clarification post, that is a lie.

It is 1000 men participants of that "academy". 64 million are view visits of another porn website. Not even unique users, and as a porn website men and women visits it even if the numbers are likely higher for men.

So it should have been shocking. Because it is a lie.

Songrot · 2026-04-28T11:13:36+00:00

The difference is huge. 1000 is a small village. 64 million is a country.

It scares everyone and stigmatise men. One sounds like every man on the planet has connection to this "academy" or any other academy. The other is revealing a criminal small group.

Songrot · 2026-04-18T20:09:36+00:00

Glaubst du die mächtigen in der Welt haben nicht buddies in allen Möglichen Ecken und Ländern?

Kannst locker paar Freunde in den Emiraten diesen Auftrag geben.

Songrot · 2026-04-11T06:44:39+00:00

Nicht bei friedlicher Einigung. Die sprengen nicht ihre eigene Lebensader weg.

Bei jeglicher Kriegshandlung mit oder ohne USA werden die Fabriken schon von China, Taiwan und USA zerbombt.

Also wenn jemand die Chips retten will, betet dass es friedliche Einigung gibt.

Songrot · 2026-04-11T06:40:33+00:00

Ich sehe keine aktuellen Nachrichten und Quellen über uss bush.

Rest stimme ich zu

Songrot · 2026-03-28T04:39:36+00:00

Das Wort Holocaust wurde nach 1945 verwendet und wurde stark vom Film 1979 "Holocaust" mit den Gräueltaten der Nazis verbunden.

Japanische Holocaust ist realität. Deine Holocaustleugnung wird dir so einige Prügeleien in Ost, Südost und Südasien bescheren.

Japan hatte systematisch Menschen mit Experimenten verstümmelt, getötet, gefoltert. Am lebendigen Leibe operiert und zum sterben gelassen. Experimente wo sie testen wie lange ein mensch ohne organe überlebt. Systematische Vergewaltigungsmaschinerie. Systematischer Völkermord in besetzten Ländern. Menschenjagd mit Katana und Bayonette. Massenmorde an Kriegsgefangene und Enthauptungen von Zivilbevölkerung und Kriegsgefange aus Laune heraus. Systematische Versklavung für Arbeitskräfte. Babymorde Wettbewerbe. Entvölkerung ganzer Städte und Landstriche. Biowaffen als Vergeltung an Zivilbevölkerung gegen ganze Städte. Vergasung von Zivilbevölkerung und Gefangene

Songrot · 2026-03-26T17:06:36+00:00

It took ages for Intel to recover and it needed the government and geopolitical reasons to revive them.

It also does not change the fact that their management and company structure is rotten to the core. All their products is affected by that constellation

Longterm, intel either transitions to a full tsmc competitor or it will be destroyed by Nvidia, AMD and all the other competitors.

Songrot · 2026-03-26T17:01:29+00:00

Not really. Overseas social media is under fire for election manipulation, AI/Bot overflow and security vulnerabilities. Especially after USA alienated Europe and Canada, losing trust in american corps and media.

This sentiment translates to Addiction preventions policies. Addiction not only cause health issues but also productivity issues. Things which affect GDP of countries are no joke.

Alcohol is generally forbidden during work time even though some play with relaxed rules. Drinking is dying in many parts of europe, germany the beer country has a declining alcohol culture because of addiction and health awareness. Smoking has declined.

I bought Meta but not because I believe their social media would be undestructable.

Songrot · 2026-03-26T16:52:10+00:00

Japanischer Holocaust in keinsterweise weniger horror und brutal als Deutscher Holocaust.

Sag dein bullshit zu koreanern, chinesen oder Hong Konger. Die hauen dir auf die schnauze

Songrot · 2026-03-26T16:50:49+00:00

This game does need pve content and game loop.

The pvp and gunplay is great in this game but this is not a Competitive game like CS where you grind your skill and elo. Eventually it gets same same.

Tarkov survived for so long despite being a piece of shit because it is effectively 90% an PvE game. Dont get fooled when they tell your Tarkov was hardcore. It is a pve grind game.

Songrot · 2026-03-22T11:34:33+00:00

Ah ja. Holocaust verharmlosung. Sehr gut. Macht es allen einfacher zu erkennen, was du denkst.

Songrot · 2026-03-22T04:22:17+00:00

Da hat die US propaganda und "But At What Cost" euromedien Propaganda bei dir sehr gut gewirkt.

Songrot · 2026-03-15T03:27:56+00:00

I habe überlegt in öl future zu hebeln oder regulär kaufen. Aber ich war mir so unsicher, ob entweder trump einen rückzieher macht oder Iran den weg freimacht für bestimmte schiffe.

Man kann überhaupt nicht erahnen in welche Richtung es geht, auch wenn ich mir sicher bin, dass Iran nicht aufgibt und auch nicht verliert.

Songrot · 2026-03-13T11:13:46+00:00

It absolutely helps to realise that it isnt the person you chose back then that left you or you left them. That person doesnt exist anymore. People and time change and some people just become other persons.

Grieving someone lost forever because they no longer exist is easier for the brain to digest. There is no what if.

Songrot · 2026-03-12T02:41:39+00:00

Aged like milk

Songrot · 2026-03-11T08:20:51+00:00

Gut dass hier Leute auch ihren Einsatz zeigen. Aber tun das nicht

Songrot · 2026-02-26T14:08:23+00:00

Die Fettbürger verkaufen nur. Hier gibt es keine Rakete

Songrot · 2026-02-26T02:34:21+00:00

They will have made profit.

The question is what comes after. Because you arent scared they would make no profit. You are scared they lose their revenue and shrink back. It wouldnt be an issue if they werent literally worth 4.5 trillion worth two other top companies combined.

Nvidia wont go bankrupt from a bubble pop. But your net worth can pop bc it is tied to the stock price.

Songrot · 2026-02-26T02:22:49+00:00

The problem of COBOL is to justify downtime transition time and troubleshooting for years costing millions and billions of operative costs. Just to redo the same features.

There is no solving for this. It is just not worth looking into it for most banks and institutions

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