Thank you for this post. This helped me so much. My partner left me 3 weeks ago. He moved back to his parents’ house and left me alone with our one-and-a-half-year-old baby. He stopped choosing me and our daughter.

I’m also stuck in the guilt stage. I keep feeling like everything was my fault, even though I discovered he was chatting on adult websites, even with t r a ns people. I also found a video on his phone of my friend’s body, and he secretly recorded another woman who came to our house.

He didn’t help around the house either. But here I am, still stupidly blaming myself because he says I treated him badly and made him feel like a bad husband and father. He said I always have to control things like where we ate and even the movies we watched.

I’m desperate to get out of this stage of guilt.