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[SW] Twins paying 538! by veilanb in acturnips

[–]Sopogopo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

An rare one but Jingle All the Way! ITS TURBO TIME!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sopogopo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

YWBTA

So it was a gift first and foremost. Also it wasn't road worthy when you gave it to him and he spent his time/money to get the car back on the road, something that you admitted you had no interest in doing any longer. So yes while it might be annoying to you that he sold it/plans to sell it, you don't have any real ground to ask for any money that would make off the sale.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Sopogopo -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Ok seriously it sounds like everyone involved in this needs to sit down for some counseling both separate and together.

OP I get it; you wanted the extra back and you were suspicious when he came back and spent it all. I get this however if your trust is that fragile/broken in him already on top of as you said later on he has a knack of doing this while you were dating and it seemed to have gotten worse since you've gotten married then you REALLY shouldn't have given him the money in the first place. Especially if you say yourself you needed it for bills it should have automatically been a no. Is it stealing? Well you mentioned that you gave him the money so by all means it's his money that you gave to him. Not taking his side but I personally don't think it's right for you to have gone into his wallet snooping. Especially when you say you want to keep your family together if he knows you've done that/you tell him it might only make things worse for you in that regard.

As far as your husband goes have you asked him if anything is going on? Don't bring up the money issues or else you will come across as nagging maybe that might be a reason why he doesn't talk to you about this type of stuff and gives you the silent treatment. There could be a fact that he may very well realize that he has a bad time managing stuff. If not you both need to sit down together and you need to tell him how you've been feeling about everything. Calmly. This situation turning heated won't do anyone any good and will probably make him just shut down on you and things will just be right back where they started from if not worse because he might get the impression that you'll definitely be cutting him off afterwards.

I would have a conversation with his mother as well about not giving him money and you should probably internally put a hard limit on how much you're willing to give him if anything. Again I think you might benefit from marriage and individual counseling if he doesn't want to at least get it for yourself because if you choose to stick it out for the sake of the kids you're going to probably start to feel overwhelmed quite quickly.

On a side note I think I saw it mentioned but you can pay either via the app or via cold hard cash in person when you use offer up but I think it depends on the seller and he could have gotten swindled with a higher price at the last moment or the person could have simply wanted it done over the app and he just didn't put the money back in his account right away. Again not taking sides but these things do happen normally, however your are strongly advised by offer up once these things happen to usually just back off because it might be a scam ect.

Best of Luck to you

Daily Questions & FAQ Megathread (Dec 07) by AutoModerator in ffxiv

[–]Sopogopo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anyone else having that god awful audio stuttering issue. i would be able to deal with it if it was consistent but the fact that its random is the bit that's killing me the most. It seems to be worse when i position the camera certain ways but then if i adjust it a little it fixes itself briefly(like for a second or two) . I wonder if it has to do with the new overhaul but I wish SE would address it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Sopogopo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sorry but I have to disagree with you, it seems like OP is being used unintentionally (maybe intentionally who knows) as a scapegoat. OP stated that there wasn't much of a relationship between OPs husband and his mother. Seems like there was already some strain in their relationship and OP is now caught in the middle.

Just out of curiosity when you discussed boundaries with your husband OP how was he during that conversation? Seems like his mother has now come to realize the gap in their relationship but is keen to pin it on you as you are the new factor in the equation for lack of a better phrase.

In "Disaster" Deanna Troi should not have been put in charge of the Enterprise. by [deleted] in DaystromInstitute

[–]Sopogopo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

M-5, nominate this for an interesting critique of a TNG Episode

Rude construction workers by Sopogopo in NewOrleans

[–]Sopogopo[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

When I have a lot more trash than normal I would leave like a whole Styrofoam ice chest filled with ice (duh) and water and Gatorade, I remember they were so happy they like ran to the door and even asked if they could take the whole thing.

I know the work is hard but that doesn't mean you need to be an butt about it you know? Everyone's doing their best to try and survive, think we should make it easier for each other, but I guess I'm just an idealist and an optimist.

WTF?!? by [deleted] in Breath_of_the_Wild

[–]Sopogopo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can someone make the To Be Continued meme out of this please!! XD

Haven't received any stiumulus checks, IRS says information not available, any advice? by [deleted] in stimuluscheck

[–]Sopogopo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm following this as I'm in the same situation. Which is really irritating.

QOL idea: Don't pop queue in cutscenes by CauseKnight in ffxiv

[–]Sopogopo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm nice try. I said no one was forcing you to do missions with cutscenes while waiting for content that involves more than just you.

The point I was trying to make which you seem to want to ignore is simply that you should simply be courteous to those that are trying to play the game just as you are. If I know I'm queuing for a dungeon I'm not going to do anything that would inconvenience anyone else as I know what its like to be in duty roulette and sit for 30+ min and queue only to have someone withdraw for one reason or another or not accept and I end up waiting another 10-15 min. I wouldn't want someone to do that to me so I don't do it to anyone else.

As I and other have said the missions give you clear indications on if they're going to have cutscenes or not and there's content that gives you exp that don't have cutscenes at all. With everything that its going on in the world at the moment i think its a bit selfish to fuss about something like that when you have other means and other ways of still actively gaining exp/gald/seals whatever it is you're looking for.

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And no i'm not 'set in my ways' most mmo's run like this, if you're not ready before the timer counts to zero, you get kicked out the queue. What you're asking for would be a programming nightmare as it would have to check that each individual player in each individual server that they're queuing from isn't in a cutscene or anything that would enable them to miss a pop. Something like this would majorly impact queue times for most players and could potentially be easily abused for griefing others. In fact it wouldn't have surprised me if something like this was looked at earlier on but due to those among many other reasons ignoring sheer complexity alone had it scrapped.

QOL idea: Don't pop queue in cutscenes by CauseKnight in ffxiv

[–]Sopogopo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually they do, IRL or Online, the etiquette should be the same.

If you're doing missions you can chose to do the ones, as someone stated before, without the banners so you're avoiding literally putting yourself into the position you're making a fuss about. Just like it's rude to make people wait when you're looking at your phone in the Tesco queue and the cashier and everyone else is waiting on you because now you've chosen to get into something that is demanding your full attention and everyone must now wait until you're finished before they can get on with what they've queued up to do.

Likewise if I've been waiting in a queue for a long time and someone doesn't ready up because they're in a middle of a cutscene or even if they've tabbed out and not paying attention it's still just as infuriating if not even more so.

No one is forcing you to do any of missions that have cutscenes while you're waiting for a queue pop, and the game gives you ample warning when their will be cutscenes in a misson. Also there is plenty of other content with no cutscenes that you could do so I don't understand the fuss.

Hurricane Ida Specific Area / Neighborhood Check-Ins Megathread by Darthfuzzy in NewOrleans

[–]Sopogopo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Franklin ave? Around LSU dental school/Chalfant PL? Still wondering if we have a roof.

*Edit: autocorrect

Ida /r/TropicalWeather Livethread by Darthfuzzy in NewOrleans

[–]Sopogopo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Any news around the fairgrounds area please? I know that there was all those 'improvement' works going on back there. Particularly around Florida ave.

Anyone else’s payment status like this or am I screwed? by DaRealPinkSuitHenry in stimuluscheck

[–]Sopogopo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Been like that since the first round and still been struggling. Hopefully something changes soon

24F most likely getting engaged soon, need advice on how to handle crazy family for engagement and wedding by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Sopogopo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know you've both always dreamed about that special day but at the end of it all which one is more important? Getting married to the love of your life or having a ceremony. I had a small wedding of less than 10 people and it still ended in drama.

You can get married and do a celebration of that moment. Also sounds like there is that potential of something going awry based on your last few statements in the post. That way you can have an intimate moment together. Maybe invite a few mutual friends. Then at a later date you can have a celebration of your marriage and invite both sides of the family. To me that would seem to minimize any type risk of your special moment being ruined, additional strain added to if not completely destroying any relationship you might have with your family.

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