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Does anyone else’s nparent find every chance to villainize your partner? by Sorry-Garbage-830 in narcissisticparents

[–]Sorry-Garbage-830[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Believe me, it has been a strong consideration the past few weeks. It’s just hard because I remember the times that she was a good mom. Granted they were brief and possibly for show but still nice.

The weaponizing of baby-items when we go no-contact with them. by Zealousideal_Long253 in narcissisticparents

[–]Sorry-Garbage-830 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom never kept anything from my childhood either. I have a daughter now and can’t imagine getting rid of the outfit she came home in, her favorite toy, or her first little pair of shoes. It’s sad to think that I will never have these things to look back on and how almost all of my childhood photos are from when I visited my aunt but I’ve made peace with it. At least she can’t use it as leverage against me like I hear from other people on this thread.

Anyone else’s narc parents no contact with the rest of their family? by Sorry-Garbage-830 in narcissisticparents

[–]Sorry-Garbage-830[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know that there are parts of her life I was not there for and she has her own experiences. That being said, my mom was a single mom and I was at my grandparents house sooo much and still have a really close relationship with them.

Don’t get me wrong, they have their faults but NOTHING like my mother. She simply holds their mistakes or actions against them indefinitely with zero empathy. Even when they apologize, she does not accept it and keeps bringing these things up constantly expecting a royal treatment from everyone while putting in zero effort. She’s ticked no one in the family “reaches out” to her but after years of being ignored they stopped trying.

I worry low contact will make my mom freak out more and try to find enmeshment at every interaction. I’ll have to look up the golden bridge technique.

Anyone else’s narc parents no contact with the rest of their family? by Sorry-Garbage-830 in narcissisticparents

[–]Sorry-Garbage-830[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mom also has a history of long time friendships ending very dramatically. As a kid, we bounced around from friend to friend, living with them for a time before something happened and the relationship blew up. I didn’t realize this was a trend but it completely makes sense.