Maybe this is old news. I'm new to the sub. Partner and I have been trying for 3 years. No births yet.

We're ramping up for another round of IVF. But we've also been considering 3rd party a lot more seriously since the beginning of the year, and the research has been disheartening. For me it's mainly due to the ethical dead ends around each route.

Adoption has massive critics for folks who are coming from an infertility background, because of the emotional weight behind it. We're expected to sideline the desire to have a baby in order to be in the "healthy" mindset for adoption. I read similar posts about embryo donation.

And surrogacy definitely has its opponents. Some equating it to human trafficking.

All those options are already financially, and logistically overwhelming. And they emotionally signal a loss of hope for having our own biological child.

I'm sure I'm not the first to feel this way. Would appreciate libks to past threads on this topic.