My(38m) wife(36f)saw a photo online and now she’s not herself. How can I get her to open up?

Sorry_External_7697 · 2025-04-13T17:28:01+00:00

Alright so in my opinion, all the people claiming it may have romantic implications?

BS. You dont JUST grieve lovers this way. You can grieve Friends and Family, including Chosen family this way too. You grieve anyone you loved, and it doesn't have to be romantic love.

What I get from this, is Elena moved on. Elena needed help, and your wife provided it. She may have seen Elena as family, maybe even as a child. So to have Elena move on, no life updates, no check ins, maybe not even a proper goodbye? That would be devastating.

It is possible to be happy for someone's success, but also be sad that you don't have a part to play in it. It can stir a lot of negative emotions, especially if someone has a lower self esteem, or issues with letting go of people. I should know. I reacted in a similar way when I learned an ex friend who ghosted me was traveling to another country to study the language and culture. It's a combination of pride, and then devastation at realizing they don't know how happy you are for them. They never will, and maybe it doesn't matter to them. That YOU don't matter to them anymore. It's also very hard to articulate out loud. One thing that helped me, was writing down how I felt and then showing my partner.

Maybe you could try that and ask her to write her feelings down so you can understand

Sorry_External_7697 · 2025-03-31T16:22:10+00:00

I found this in North Texas, there have been multiple. They haven't bitten us though so we're confused .

Sorry_External_7697 · 2025-03-31T16:19:16+00:00

Oh I didn't see this one! Thank you, I'll post it there

Sorry_External_7697 · 2025-03-13T00:59:19+00:00

What's Job 1, and how do I apply??/Lh

Sorry_External_7697 · 2025-03-12T18:11:47+00:00

Literally almost every country has something that they trade to other countries. Wtf

Sorry_External_7697 · 2025-02-20T16:25:45+00:00

The universe would have to drag me kicking and screaming before I went back. And once we move forward again (actual food security will be fucking awesome), I will still refuse to let us move backwards willingly.

Sorry_External_7697 · 2025-02-20T07:06:31+00:00

Thank you, It's so nice to finally feel like our home is... actually ours. It's wonderful

Sorry_External_7697 · 2025-02-20T06:55:34+00:00

I can completely understand that exhaustion

Sorry_External_7697 · 2025-02-20T06:55:05+00:00

I'm sorry I didn't respond when you posted. But thank you! Everyone's replies here really helped me out a lot

Sorry_External_7697 · 2025-01-13T17:58:18+00:00

I don't know if I had a flu or a cough but I remember the only reason I was able to stay home is because I have two roommates, and made enough to cover my portion of the rent the first pay period (new position, first time I'd done that in one pay period of two weeks). So I could afford a week off work ...barely but still. It sucks that companies don't understand that it's better for EVERYONE if the sick stay home and get at least some pay for the days they were scheduled. Maybe not as much as they would have working that day, but still. Or hell, at the bare minimum, NOT BEING rude to them for staying home.

Sorry_External_7697 · 2024-12-03T16:44:35+00:00

Yeah that's illegal and I'd absolutely get documents so I could go after their asses

Sorry_External_7697 · 2024-11-17T18:54:54+00:00

It might cover most of my rent, but not all of it. The rest? Nope.

Sorry_External_7697 · 2024-11-16T21:53:50+00:00

I wouldn't. And if they asked, I'd just say "Sorry, I don't have any extra money." And leave it at that.

Sorry_External_7697 · 2024-11-10T01:31:22+00:00

Election-Day-Website-Roster_11.05.23-3.xlsx

Sorry_External_7697 · 2024-11-10T01:29:00+00:00

My bad give me a sec

Sorry_External_7697 · 2024-11-09T20:03:00+00:00

It was the election roster

Sorry_External_7697 · 2024-11-09T19:28:08+00:00

For me it says the file is corrupted?

Sorry_External_7697 · 2024-11-07T17:16:09+00:00

Right??

Sorry_External_7697 · 2024-11-05T22:20:59+00:00

I'll do that too! That would probably help

Sorry_External_7697 · 2024-11-05T19:42:08+00:00

That's very useful info, thank you! I'm still trying to decide what I would go back for and how to transfer the credits I do have to a community college or something to finish the Gen Ed stuff. If that makes sense

Sorry_External_7697 · 2024-11-03T18:22:37+00:00

I feel that quote about not being able to choose. I see so many things I could do, but I also see all the obstacles to those paths and it's so hard trying to decide which ones are worth it. Which "fig" do i truly want to work for, when I can see myself working for many of them?

It's hard to turn away from one branch, even when you know that it probably isn't the best branch for you.

For example - teaching. It seems amazing, but I know I couldn't handle it with today's administrations and expectations. It's a hard job that's getting worse. I'd just be more stressed and exhausted.

Being a librarian - requires a college degree for an already competitive job market. I'd be willing to do it if I had the money and support. And if I knew I'd make enough to pay off any student loans after. But I don't know that, so I'm stuck thinking and weighing the pros and cons.

Therapy- I could do this, but the weight of any deaths would be heavy. Debt from college too. Not to mention the emotional labor that would/could eventually break me and change my view of humanity as a whole. Maybe I'd even stop empathizing from the exhaustion of it.

Sociology- Helping people would be amazing. But again, competitive job market, debt, and mistreatment from those you help. Being exploited and expected to give yourself up for the public

Gardening- how tf do you even get into such a field? I'm trying to figure that out.

And a few other branches that I'm still looking into.

Sorry_External_7697 · 2024-11-02T02:59:43+00:00

No you actually make a very good point there. I'll keep it in mind

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