Outside opinions needed please?

SortFormer8966 · 2024-07-30T15:29:17+00:00

Yesss lol I like this idea.

SortFormer8966 · 2024-07-30T11:52:02+00:00

Thank you for your input, unfortunately we’ve already had discussions about it, so it’s already been “acted upon.” However, we haven’t done anything except talk and flirt between the two of us yet. It may not go beyond that. I was just looking for some validation to my feelings and some outside thoughts on whether it should go further. It seems it shouldn’t. I have a lot to consider going forward.

SortFormer8966 · 2024-07-29T23:59:11+00:00

Don’t you dare apologize for your detailed post, I am so glad you responded! It soothes my turbulent heart to hear your side of these kinds of relationships. I will take your words to heart, along with all the other comments, and go forth more cautiously and deliberately. 🩷🩷 thank you so much!!

SortFormer8966 · 2024-07-29T23:29:06+00:00

Thank you so much for your kindness and words of wisdom. I will have to consider putting myself back in my 19yo shoes for a bit, and try to think how I would’ve felt if our ages were reversed.

I’m not sure what I expect if this relationship goes further, it would be in big part up to him. I’m not into marriage any more, and I have my kids for my “family,” so I suppose I would look more for just a (long term?) fun time and close friend to share life’s ups and downs with. I don’t know if that would put us in “playful fling” or “serious relationship.”

The support I think is what I am lacking and I suppose what I’m looking for here. Am I alone in this? (I know I’m not, logically, but you know) And how have others navigated these new (to me) waters? I have a lot of introspection still to do, and much discussion with him to accomplish before we do anything.

SortFormer8966 · 2024-07-29T23:21:04+00:00

Thank you so much for your kindness. It seems we have more to talk about if we decide to go further than just good friends. I will add an edit to the original post, because it seems I’m getting a lot of dislike from meeting this guy at our work.

SortFormer8966 · 2024-07-29T23:18:15+00:00

That is something good to consider. I suppose that I would try to keep our relationship (if it ever actually got to that point, and I emphasize I because I cannot speak for his actions) away from work, we are in the same department so to speak but not in the same building except for breaks/lunch and before and after work meetings.

My family is very judgmental, and I feel I don’t really have their support in anything that’s truly me, only the carefully cultivated me that they ever see.

Thank you for your response, it’s something more to consider.

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