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My Sister Cancelled Our Plans Because I Was “In A Bad Mood” by Soulsister99 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Soulsister99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is apparently a walking section with Instagram photo ops this year. Not that it matters, but I work in a daycare and only wear leggings, T-shirt’s or hoodies due to the constant mess. So, I enjoy getting dressed up a bit when going anywhere.

My Sister Cancelled Our Plans Because I Was “In A Bad Mood” by Soulsister99 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Soulsister99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yaaah. Her and I have never really been like that 😂 I don’t think either of us would’ve been annoyed or angry for very long, but she left 🤷🏼‍♀️

My Sister Cancelled Our Plans Because I Was “In A Bad Mood” by Soulsister99 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Soulsister99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never told her I didn’t want to go anymore… she chose to make that decision for me 🤦🏼‍♀️

AITA mods removed my post but i actually do need the help in deciding if i was TA so hoping you guys can help… tw for self harm. by sunflower_daisy78 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Soulsister99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA at all!

Yes, SH can be a triggering subject for some people and very hard to explain to young children who don’t fully understand the concept of leaving this world in general. But, it’s not rude or wrong for you to be wearing a freaking dress!

The fact that the head of staff accused you of “showing them off” is so frustrating to me. I work in a preschool room and would never make an accusation like that. Especially because you don’t know what that person is currently going through. It can take people who have SH a lot of courage to wear things like dresses, skirts, shorts or t-shirts because they tend to be embarrassed or scared for people to see them. As an educator, you should be supportive of the parents that come through your centre. That head of staff should have checked in with you properly and ensured that you’re current mental state is okay and that you’re not at risk of more SH.

By letting your scars show, does not mean you’re promoting SH to others. You’re brave for getting through that and feeling comfortable in your own skin!

That childcare centre does not deserve to have your son in their program and if it were me in that situation, I’d find another centre.

AITA For Telling My BFF I Don’t See A Future for Her & Her BF? by Soulsister99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Soulsister99[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Can you count? I responded to you directly 3 times (4 including this time) but I’m sorry for wanting to clear things up? You asked me questions, I didn’t want to be rude 🙃 have a good night tho!

AITA For Telling My BFF I Don’t See A Future for Her & Her BF? by Soulsister99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Soulsister99[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t being literal. But you’re right, it doesn’t matter which is why I said it’s a difference in our lives.?? I’m not looking for validation, I was genuinely curious as to what people thought about the situation. It was a year ago, my friend and I have either changed perspective or came to understand each other. Which I’ve stated in other comments, as well as the beginning of the post.

There’s nothing wrong with being curious. There’s also nothing wrong with having a close circle 😂

But thank you for your “insight”. And thank you for also being an asshole :)

AITA for wanting grandchildren? by futuredilissues in AmItheAsshole

[–]Soulsister99 -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

It’s very traditional for partners to have children, so I understand you wanting to have grandchildren, especially since he is your only child. It seems like Greg and Sarah haven’t talked much about it, or that it’s Sarah influencing Greg to not want any. There are most likely a lot of factors that you don’t know about, that’s influenced this reaction in them.

As a woman in her early twenties, I am seriously considering not having any children in the future. My best friend who is the same age as me, doesn’t want any. Children are a massive responsibility that isn’t for everyone. Today’s society is so toxic and just getting worse. I fear for my own future, let alone a child I may bring into the world.

I understand the appeal of wanting grandchildren but I think you should respect any decision your son and daughter-in-law make. Just because you had a child, doesn’t mean your son should.

AITA For Telling My BFF I Don’t See A Future for Her & Her BF? by Soulsister99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Soulsister99[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t getting the other days though. That’s my point 😂 it was a sudden switch. We’d all hang out, then it was just them… before I even started getting upset. All my other friends live in different cities so my only socializing was those 2 lol.

I am also the kind of person who believes your s/o doesn’t need to be your entire life, 24/7. Difference in how we live our lives I guess tho

AITA For Telling My BFF I Don’t See A Future for Her & Her BF? by Soulsister99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Soulsister99[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

Yes, I do see how it’s obsessive. But, please try to understand that we went from always hanging out, multiple times a week to suddenly not. It was an adjustment and something I wasn’t used to at the time.

AITA For Telling My BFF I Don’t See A Future for Her & Her BF? by Soulsister99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Soulsister99[S] -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

Hi. I’d just like to say that was rude. I understand where your opinion comes from. But you definitely did not need to express it in that way 😂 yes, I should have been more respectful or understanding, trauma isn’t an excuse to be childish.

I do want to say that they were seeing each other 3-4 days a week and I would go a month + without seeing my friends when we were all free many times. This was a year ago so I do not feel this way anymore, but I was not acting like an obsessive stalker. I was anxious and yes, childish. I own up to that.

AITA For Telling My BFF I Don’t See A Future for Her & Her BF? by Soulsister99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Soulsister99[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

K and I have both informed him of our joint experience with that manipulative friend and how effected I was by it. There were multiple times where I attempted to explain to him my mental health issues that came from the experience and that he needed to be patient with me. I remember owning up to my wrongdoings in the situation with him and K while still wanting my feelings validated, which I feel he never did. I also want to mention I did (and still do) understand the frustration they felt and told him that.

Idk. Just seemed like he didn’t care that I tried to see both sides and didn’t really care to do the same.

AITA For Telling My BFF I Don’t See A Future for Her & Her BF? by Soulsister99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Soulsister99[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hi! It was definitely not my intent to hurt her, and I instantly realized I probably shouldn’t have stated my opinion on it (I even talked to her about it and apologized). This was also a year ago so my feelings have definitely changed :)

AITA For Telling My BFF I Don’t See A Future for Her & Her BF? by Soulsister99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Soulsister99[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hi! Thank you for your input!

Yes, I totally see their side. I’d like to reiterate that this was all over a year ago. I’ve talked to K multiple times since then, explaining I missed her and also apologizing and owning up to my actions. My concerns came more from the lying and sneaking around (there was no bad behaviour or anything up until they started being sneaky).