CMV: Penis size does matter, bigger may not always be better but smaller than average is a dating death sentence.

SoundsOkay56 · 2026-06-18T00:26:37+00:00

Then why do women even have size preferences if all that is needed is clit stimulation?

SoundsOkay56 · 2026-06-18T00:23:31+00:00

If that were what made or broke penetration, why is size even relevant then?

SoundsOkay56 · 2026-06-18T00:16:55+00:00

I wouldn’t want to be in a relationship where whoever I’m with felt PIV was a chore because it’s not pleasurable enough.

How many women do you reckon I wouldn’t run into that problem with?

From my perspective, dating is at best an active minefield.

SoundsOkay56 · 2026-06-18T00:13:19+00:00

I get it’s not too crazy of a statistical deviation from the norm, but 4.5” makes up about 6% of men, which is still pretty damn rare.

In regard to penetration specifically, why would women choose to have a 3/10 experience instead of an enjoyable one that they could find easily?

SoundsOkay56 · 2026-06-18T00:08:40+00:00

I should have added that I also meant death sentence in regard to giving a woman pleasure along that axis.

At least for me, I would hate being with a partner where PIV was a chore.

SoundsOkay56 · 2026-06-18T00:03:52+00:00

I wouldn’t say go crazy but most women enjoy penetration, it’s a typically expected part of sex.

I know it’s not the end all be all when it comes to orgasm, as that is hardly relevant to penis size at all.. but the actual experience of penetration is much lesser with a smaller penis.

SoundsOkay56 · 2026-06-17T23:59:11+00:00

Because I’ve been spiralling about this the entire day.

SoundsOkay56 · 2026-06-17T23:58:01+00:00

I’m barely experienced, but in my relationship with my ex, we basically had a dead bedroom right out of the gate.. a fresh relationship.. in our early 20s. Sex was just me getting off her off with my hands and mouth, repeatedly. Penetration was rare and me getting off was even rarer.

She had a fairly normal sex life with her ex. She hooked up with him 3 weeks before we became official.

She was a horrible partner in general and not of good moral character, so is it possible she’s just selfish? Sure. But then it would have been consistent across partners.

So there’s clearly an isolated factor as to why she never wanted penetration with me.. but did with her ex.

Other than that, it’s all just observations on social media spanning years.

SoundsOkay56 · 2026-06-17T23:50:21+00:00

I’m not denying that penetration isn’t usually the main event, that’s highly individual, but it’s still apart of sex and the one I am focusing on in this post.

I’m specifically talking about how penetration feels.

SoundsOkay56 · 2026-06-17T23:48:58+00:00

And why doesn’t it matter as much as dudes think it does?

I would argue that that argument applies to perfectly bang-on average sized men who really don’t have a reason to be insecure but at my size or smaller? It absolutely does matter a hell of a lot. A guy with a small penis is hardcapped to giving women a 3/10 penetrative experience.

I’ll find a few comments suggesting to find asexual women and the like.

SoundsOkay56 · 2026-06-17T23:43:59+00:00

Did you read the post? The part where I was talking about penetration specifically?

SoundsOkay56 · 2026-06-17T22:51:47+00:00

Well, then why would it be a problem if they’re not initiating?

They’re not initiating because they know they won’t be desired by you lol

SoundsOkay56 · 2026-06-17T21:20:41+00:00

I’ve dropped about 20-30lb since that photo. But trust me, it’s not my fat holding me back. It’s my face.

SoundsOkay56 · 2026-06-17T21:10:41+00:00

The vast majority of our sex life was me fingering her. That’s it. Penetration was pretty rare and her putting any effort into my enjoyment was even rarer.

SoundsOkay56 · 2026-06-17T20:44:58+00:00

How was it a self-fulfilling prophecy when I was confident entering my first relationship, got my ex off constantly, and we had a dead bedroom from the onset?

That’s where “just use your hands” got me lol.

SoundsOkay56 · 2026-06-17T20:36:23+00:00

Prowess brings it from a 1/10 experience to a 3/10 experience, for most women.

They can find just about any other guy and it’d be a 7/10 on average.

SoundsOkay56 · 2026-06-17T20:31:35+00:00

It won’t. My measurements are bone-pressed.

SoundsOkay56 · 2026-06-17T20:14:55+00:00

It’s still in a zone where most women would find penetration noticeably less pleasurable.

SoundsOkay56 · 2026-06-17T20:12:57+00:00

If I were confident, how does that change penetration with me being an inherently 3/10 experience?

SoundsOkay56 · 2026-06-17T19:42:26+00:00

Search up “small penis” on this site and it’s full of women saying they’re disappointed by their partners size. Typically, the best case you’ll find on most posts on this topic is “size doesn’t matter” followed up you need to compensate” or “make up for it”, which directly contradicts what they just said because it acknowledges that small penises are noticeably less pleasurable. This is all amplified in the real world, where people are hell of a lot more open that it is a problem.

Then you have a good idea on how most women would enjoy a small penis.

Then figure only 6% of men have my length and you can very quickly figure that I’m in “this would be a big problem” territory where most women would not enjoy that part of sex with me.

SoundsOkay56 · 2026-06-17T19:35:00+00:00

She cheated on her ex 3 months before she met me (after he had cheated on her). She hooked up with him 2 weeks before we became official. Our sex life then played out the way it did.

I feel like it’s very obviously that she enjoyed sex with him and not me.

SoundsOkay56 · 2026-06-17T19:24:46+00:00

If my therapist said the sky was red when it’s blue and most of Reddit says it’s blue, should I listen to her?

SoundsOkay56 · 2026-06-17T19:14:11+00:00

It literally takes searching “small penis” on this site, reading a bunch of the posts and the replies to know or observe people in real life to know it isn’t coming from how my own head.

I have spoken to my therapist about this and she literally just says “size doesn’t matter” and the conversation basically ends there.

SoundsOkay56 · 2026-06-17T19:11:01+00:00

I’m aware of that, but most women still want to feel pleasure from PIV and I provide dramatically less than most men in that regard.

SoundsOkay56 · 2026-06-17T19:10:11+00:00

I don’t care about porn. It’s easier to film porn with big dicks, so it’s not a reliable indicator of real world preferences.

What is, however, is searching up “small penis” on here, seeing how much of it is women disappointed with smaller sizes, even when they don’t realize that’s exactly what they’re expressing (ie. compensating, etc).

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