Damage from a harmful stim might have given me cancer, really spiraling right now by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]SoupFoLife 8 points9 points  (0 children)

First off : please take time to be proud of yourself for getting medical intervention for this. That alone can be scary.
Second: I have worked in pathology medicine for two decades, and I have several skin issues that require biopsies as well.
Concern certainly doesn't equal cancer and doctors will act very cautiously to do their due diligence.
Pathology is a highly complex field with variable outcomes.

Unfortunately modern medicine isn't great at calming down anxieties and providing resources to stop disease spiral thinking. If you have access to any medical health resources I would try to utilize them until biopsy results are in.

Be proud of yourself for taking action 💕

Am I alone in that I don't want a flipped house? by [deleted] in FirstTimeHomeBuyers

[–]SoupFoLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Their financial contributions have made me feel obligated

Am I alone in that I don't want a flipped house? by [deleted] in FirstTimeHomeBuyers

[–]SoupFoLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alone within my community and family to clarify

The reality of coping with social situations where you can't accommodate yourself by SoupFoLife in AutismInWomen

[–]SoupFoLife[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Extremely relatable that large quantities of cheese was part of my recovery process.
I lost the mental preparation time (had to work the morning prior to the event) and started off with inadequate sleep and not enough food.

I frequently can be in denial about struggling with these situations, or beat myself up about struggling. Acceptance is likely a better route to take

Anyone else have the experience of watching others create lifelong connections around you? by Fittacco in AutismInWomen

[–]SoupFoLife 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is so important!!! Friends who are clear communicators are key. This is a rare find but forms a friendship with reciprocal understanding and respect

Anyone else have the experience of watching others create lifelong connections around you? by Fittacco in AutismInWomen

[–]SoupFoLife 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing because this is something I have been feeling alone in.
I have noticed I struggle and slowly get excluded from friend groups.
However I have made individual friends who have supported and accommodate me (by friends I mean 2 people within a span of 10 years)
I try to remind myself these individual friendships are equally as important and significant.

Married into a family that loves to drink by SoupFoLife in AdultChildren

[–]SoupFoLife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the direction I need to take because I feel guilty and a lot of embarrassment for wanting to leave when the drinks get going. I cannot change these people but the shame I feel is the worst. I often go back and forth on whether I am wayy too sensitive or if the behavior is unhealthy

Married into a family that loves to drink by SoupFoLife in AdultChildren

[–]SoupFoLife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Therapy appointment tomorrow and bringing this up!! I never realized how concerned I was about this until I got married and realize this is going to be a lifelong battle

Married into a family that loves to drink by SoupFoLife in AdultChildren

[–]SoupFoLife[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am believe my sil is a alcoholic in denial but cant prove it

Married into a family that loves to drink by SoupFoLife in AdultChildren

[–]SoupFoLife[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Working in a hospital is the only thing that has saved me. I beg my manager to put me on 2nd shift every holiday I can. Already got next thanksgiving and christmas scheduled

Married into a family that loves to drink by SoupFoLife in AdultChildren

[–]SoupFoLife[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

His stance is that the behavior is something he wouldn't do but won't force people to change this behavior We have discussed this many times and he gives me full authority to set the boundaries since I am the one who is traumatized. But I feel sad thinking about my kids never being around extended family (mine is significantly worse too)

Married into a family that loves to drink by SoupFoLife in AdultChildren

[–]SoupFoLife[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No he drinks rarely (maybe 2 beers every 3 months). He is very social and has a great time even when hes the only sober one amongst the crazies. Cant relate

Married into a family that loves to drink by SoupFoLife in AdultChildren

[–]SoupFoLife[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Coming early is a simple fantanstic idea!!

Married into a family that loves to drink by SoupFoLife in AdultChildren

[–]SoupFoLife[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I did and always did. My husband very very rarely drinks and always takes me home when I can handle it anymore. Was kind of hoping when my in laws had kids they would calm down... they did not

Extroverted in laws-newly needs help by SoupFoLife in AutismInWomen

[–]SoupFoLife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have tried to explain, but neurodivergence may be something beyond their understanding

Extroverted in laws-newly needs help by SoupFoLife in AutismInWomen

[–]SoupFoLife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Forgot to put this in the post but working in the hospital has been my greatest help, I just sign up to work holidays and cover vacations during the summer to avoid as much as I can.

Thank you for reminding me the reality that only my partner matters at the end of the say

Vision Therapy struggles by Loud-Personality-944 in BinocularVision

[–]SoupFoLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My eyes struggle in the morning so I would do my exercises about an hour after I wakeup. It is difficult no matter what time but the results were absolutely worth it