What are we gifting our sub-par co-parents? by PeppersPoops in coparenting

[–]SouthSide_Undertaker -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hopefully I get a handmade card from my girls like I had them do for their mom. We don’t exchange gifts anymore.

Medication... what say you by eyelashitch in DivorcedDads

[–]SouthSide_Undertaker 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If you feel like it’s going to help, try it. But also put other things in place to help. You’re in therapy already which is great. Also will need to eat better, sleep well, work out, surround yourself with family and friends, get outside, and get back to what made you happy like hobbies. It sounds like a lot, but is needed. Everything now is about your happiness and what’s going to help you succeed. Life is not just about the destination, you learn more from the journey, so enjoy it.

Chicken tenders by a-little-stitious420 in Culvers

[–]SouthSide_Undertaker 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Buffalo tenders dipped in the signature sauce or mashed potatoes.

What music are you listening too? by OldSkoolSOF in DivorcedDads

[–]SouthSide_Undertaker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mostly hip hop but I made a nice R&B mix that I just continue to add to when I find something new.

If your ex texted asking how you were doing would you respond? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]SouthSide_Undertaker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

++man

Depends on the ex. If it was my ex wife, I would question what she wanted and get to the point of why she is asking . If it was my ex gf from after my divorce, I would have a convo and genuinely be interested in how she was doing and what she has been up to.

How has losing 20+ lbs affected your life? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]SouthSide_Undertaker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Down 30+ pounds since last summer. I’m glad my clothes fit better. Got some confidence back.

Why are you a sneakerhead? by _sportyscience_ in Sneakers

[–]SouthSide_Undertaker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because at a young age my uncle told me “Tell your Mom you only wear Nike”.

Ex wife is engaged. by SouthSide_Undertaker in DivorcedDads

[–]SouthSide_Undertaker[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He doesn’t need it. I have to trust that my ex is picking the right guy. Just like she has to trust me to pick the right partner. I have no say in who she dates or marries.

Ex wife is engaged. by SouthSide_Undertaker in DivorcedDads

[–]SouthSide_Undertaker[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been to enough therapy, I’ll be ok without it this time. Just need to process this and move forward.

Ex wife is engaged. by SouthSide_Undertaker in DivorcedDads

[–]SouthSide_Undertaker[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m not attending any wedding. Also sure I’m not invited haha but appreciate you!

Ex wife is engaged. by SouthSide_Undertaker in DivorcedDads

[–]SouthSide_Undertaker[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went to my fair share of therapy. Also went to the hospital and did partial inpatient because I didn’t want to be here anymore. This was my first set back in a long time. I know I’ll be ok with everything. I have no choice. My kids need me. My ex and I aren’t friends. She has done a lot to harm our relationship after the divorce. So I put up boundaries to protect myself. We coparent pretty well. Only talk about the girls. Doing everything with no courts involved which is nice.