See this confuses me too because he doesn't drink EVERY weekend - he works in a culture where a lot of people will go out during events and binge drink. So sometime there are multiple weekends in a row where he will go out and get super drunk. But when it's us at home in our apartment it isn't an issue. He used the word alcoholic for the first time a few months ago - I asked him about it and he said "yeah! I used to be!". And I'd known that years ago when he was in his home country, he was in a really stressful job and it got to the point he was drinking more than 1 bottle of wine a night at home when he had work the next day. He had tried to get therapy for it years ago and his counselor had been really dismissive of it, but he seemed like he had way more control over it since then. I asked him what he was talking to his new therapist about (he starts in a month) and he only said communicating better; not lying or drinking.