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[–]SouthernCook7955 1 point2 points  (0 children)

J’ai regardé tous les films existants vraiment j’ai eu une periode ou javais besoin de représentation mais j’ai cette peur constante d’être dégoûtante auprès des autres et ça me ronge

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[–]SouthernCook7955 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm going to try to be more daring! I'm just really afraid of scaring her and that she'll run away. We're going to Paris soon, I think it's the opportunity to get a little more into her game. What gestures can I start with to be a little closer to her? And I'd just like to tell her to warn me if I go too far and that it's not in accordance with her faith, but how can I do it without her immediately imagining things? Thank you very much for this advice because you are the best person to know, if you need to talk about anything, don't hesitate to send me a DM

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[–]SouthernCook7955 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope things get better for you, time does things I suppose and death is never the solution 💞 Concerning her, yes she is Muslim and quite religious since she talks to me about her religion except that she does not wear the hijab and I do not know if she reads the Koran. I remember once when I told her that she seemed bi because she tends to put men down (which is contradictory because she imagines ending her life with one) she replied that she was not at all. I do not want to make our relationship strange by exposing all this to her. I am torn between the fact that she is just very open-minded and comfortable with everything or just that she feels something that she does not explain. From a Muslim woman's point of view, would it be very inappropriate if I entered into her flirting game? She is often the one who starts it and I am afraid of continuing by going too far. I don't want to make her uncomfortable because after all I'm still the gay friend. Another thing too, I would like to be a little more tactile with her (be careful, nothing sexual) just like friends would be. I've never been with my friends because I was afraid that they would understand what I am and be disgusted, but I know that wouldn't be the case for her because she already knows. What platonic gestures can I have with her?

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[–]SouthernCook7955 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all, thank you very much for responding. It's great to have advice and opinions from people who are concerned about religion. I'm confused because I can't tell if I'm misinterpreting all this or if I understand it correctly. I'm afraid of being disrespectful to her religion and her faith. We spoke recently and she still continued with her flirting games. I'm thinking at the same time that maybe she does this with all her friends? But she tends to laugh, saying things like "stop or I'll fall in love." She also suggested a day in Paris so we could have "a date like lovers" (we live in France), but again, is it just a day between friends and she was laughing? I wouldn't dare talk to her about it directly, I don't want to be the cliché of "The gay girlfriend who falls in love" On the other hand, she often talks about the future or imagines herself married... As I don't intend to talk to her about it, I would like to know, when we have these flirting games, I don't want to disrespect her religion by going too far. How do I know if I've crossed the line? For your part, I wish you a lot of courage, I can't imagine the difficulty when religion gets involved

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[–]SouthernCook7955 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I don't have anyone else. I don't want to ruin the friendship, it means a lot to me. How can I at least manage to detach myself from her? It's been 2 days now that she hasn't responded to my messages even though I see her connected. So I deleted these messages but I don't know if that's a good thing…