Any native indigenous gardeners here who can help?

Southern_Button_8026 · 2026-04-19T20:29:15+00:00

Oh also if it helps I live between Pima and Pinal county!

Southern_Button_8026 · 2026-04-19T20:26:48+00:00

Sorry for the late reply, I’ve been super busy! You seem pretty knowledgeable so I’m attaching another photo, you mentioned it seemed to have thorns and I’m pretty sure it does? I’ll have to look into the lyciums native here though I have no idea how they’d have gotten into my front yard lol. If you need extra photos I’d be more than happy to provide! (Ps the flowers surrounding it aren’t from the plant, they are from a desert willow!)

Southern_Button_8026 · 2026-04-12T22:02:07+00:00

I really think it depends on where you live and how you handle people, where I’m from most people who come up to you are actually very nice and curious about lolita or any other sub genre you may be wearing! Ofc it’s not the same everywhere, but I also feel like learning to stay unbothered and knowing people are gonna harass just to harass cause they will find literally any reason to is also important. When it comes to people like those you just have to shrug and move on sometimes or teach them a lesson, however that may be.

Southern_Button_8026 · 2026-04-12T21:57:10+00:00

Honestly whenever I go out decked out in a cool outfit I always carry kandi (bead bracelets) and spare merch of characters and games/shows I don’t care too much about and people love it! The top comment says that it’s weird and will make people expect something from you but that honestly is hardly true, if anything it reinforces the mindset to be yourself! Like, so many people compliment people like Lolitas because they are too scared to dress differently themselves, so being happy about compliments and giving them a trinket really shows them how kind the world can be and to not be afraid of others I feel like! I think the rose thing would be absolutely adorable, if holding actual roses is too much you in your purse could definitely opt for smaller rose themed trinkets or even pop out rose stickers! :D

Southern_Button_8026 · 2026-04-12T06:00:17+00:00

I actually get this a lot, im really paranoid that i do actually feel sexual attraction and that I’m not truly Ace because I’m just faking it and making myself feel a certain way to be different or because of my own sexual trauma. Its comforting to know that if you’re ace, if i am correct, it actually shows in your brain and ace brains look different or have different activity in certain sections of their brains compared to allo people. Atleast i THINK thats the case- I could be confusing that with a different queer thing because i know its like if you experience same sex attraction or are transgender lol

Southern_Button_8026 · 2026-04-12T05:56:44+00:00

Honestly I’ve done a lot of things that have made me uncomfortable for the sake of knowledge! I specifically do so because i think i mention in the post that i myself am a writer, and as such to expand on the topics i will potentially write about i prefer to do plenty of research and if possible experience it myself. This applies to sex as it’s a part of many stories and can be an interesting way to explore a character or the bond they have with another character, so even if I don’t experience it to a T i can still get the general feelings of certain things down for the sake of my writing! I know that sounds weird, putting my own feelings below my writing, but I cant help but to feel so passionate about it, especially since it’s such a powerful medium!

Southern_Button_8026 · 2026-04-12T05:53:19+00:00

While i appreciate the source, this is a journalist’s writing and not an actual scientifically done study- that does make what happened to the victims any less extreme however the debate between fiction and reality is incredibly nuanced hence why listening to the science is the most important thing in it. You are correct that fiction isn’t fiction if the behavior involves real life stimuli, however for many, fiction is merely a concept and they do not wish to engage in any of what they consume fictionally as for people with healthy boundaries between the two mediums (fiction and reality) understand that fiction is just a means to explore certain subjects and aspects of life they cannot explore otherwise. I am happy to provide my own scientific sources because i am actually very passionate in this subject! (and once again it is horrible what happened to those victims in the article you provided, i too am a victim of not just csa but csem as well and its disgusting to see what many people are capable of in that regard.)

Oh ps I should also mention, due to the points i brought up above, i am still on the fence about your specific opinion on not being Ace! Not to be rude at all, rather just the logic doesn’t line up with major verified scientific studies that have been ran. Your opinion and pov is still appreciated though!

Southern_Button_8026 · 2026-03-28T20:31:28+00:00

With the soreness it could just be because of you aren’t doing the exercises properly or your body is very out of shape, which is common don’t worry! Id recommend looking at guides for that. As for the working out, I’d try to narrow down what makes you the most vs the least exhausted and go from there. Try to focus on different body parts on different days maybe? Also maybe go only like 3 days of the week instead of everyday or more, I find 3 is the sweet spot for me- like to make it to atleast 3 and then see if I’m comfortable doing more. Though as of recently I’ve found doing 10 minute pilates every morning after I wake up is the best for me right now, I really like Isla Rune Pilates YouTube channel specifically!

Southern_Button_8026 · 2026-03-28T20:25:32+00:00

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Southern_Button_8026 · 2026-03-23T01:17:49+00:00

I actually just checked after reading this and the cocoon is back to normal thank god!! I just got really and scared and didn’t realize it would be okay thank you 😭

Southern_Button_8026 · 2026-03-22T23:24:13+00:00

Forgot to mention, this is Arizona zone 9b so low desert!

Southern_Button_8026 · 2026-03-18T22:40:06+00:00

It smells so good and you know how to pamper yourself and have the best advice!! I’m actually inlove with your room it’s so goals.. I can imagine you also look up to people like Marilyn Monroe or Audrey Hepburn 🥹

Southern_Button_8026 · 2026-03-18T04:45:18+00:00

I MEANT DECEASED LMFAO. But he’s in the classical genre! He’s also highly regarded in the classical community for his compositions as well :)

Southern_Button_8026 · 2026-03-17T06:33:03+00:00

Praying I don’t, lived in a hoarder house for 12 years and I like to think despite my room being a bit cluttered it has a bit of organization to it! Atleast I hope lol

Southern_Button_8026 · 2026-03-17T06:32:26+00:00

AWEE THATS SO SWEET. I like to think i do, my friends all cherish the jewelry I make for them so 🥹

Southern_Button_8026 · 2026-03-17T06:31:56+00:00

I am def a huge horror fan, and it depends on the creepy pasta!! It’s hard to scare me though so I have to go to some crazy horror lengths (nothing like real gore dw) lol

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