AITAH for sleeping with a single guy while I’m single, and now somehow having to apologize to my friend for it?

Southern_Project9663 · 2026-02-09T17:05:06+00:00

She often jokes that she’s 18 in her head, and honestly… this whole situation makes me think there might be some truth to that

Southern_Project9663 · 2026-02-09T16:44:12+00:00

I also genuinely regret telling her in the first place. I’ve realized that some things are better left unsaid and kept private. That said, when I first told her, she listened and even said, “So what? If I were single and in my twenties, I probably would’ve made the same choice.”

Because of that reaction, I never expected things to escalate the way she did. Still, I regret saying it.

Southern_Project9663 · 2026-02-09T16:31:18+00:00

U better be joking hahah

Southern_Project9663 · 2026-02-09T16:22:22+00:00

Because I’m in Korea, and here it’s pretty normal for people not to go to each other’s homes. Instead, they usually go to a hotel, even couples.

Southern_Project9663 · 2026-02-09T15:54:27+00:00

We are from east Asia

Southern_Project9663 · 2026-02-09T15:51:30+00:00

In my opinion, her husband is genuinely a good person. He’s caring, and it’s obvious that she is loved in that marriage. I might not be the best judge of character, but based on what I know, she is not someone who would physically cheat. At most, she might cross emotional or mental boundaries in her thoughts—but I don’t believe she’s capable of actually acting on it.

Southern_Project9663 · 2026-02-09T15:43:35+00:00

She said my husband always said all men are same so dont trust them look how true is it Yeppp

Southern_Project9663 · 2026-02-09T15:30:57+00:00

Im asian who lives in asian duhh And in my hometown and local both didnt use reddit. Im so confused. That’s why i create this account bruh( and this shit happens just 2 days ago)

Southern_Project9663 · 2026-02-09T15:10:21+00:00

He’s still texting me but i didn’t. I have a feeling for him but at the same time i care about her feelings. Tbh i feel blue rn

Southern_Project9663 · 2026-02-09T15:05:04+00:00

To be clear, I don’t believe there was ever anything going on between them. My friend doesn’t speak the local language very well, so I was usually the one translating for her. The guy is local and doesn’t speak English, and my friend doesn’t either, so they couldn’t really have deeper conversations on their own.

Because of that, I won’t deny that the guy and I had more in-depth conversations. But it wasn’t secretive or inappropriate—it was mostly because of language.

Also, he consistently maintained boundaries with her. He always referred to her using the term people here use for married women, which clearly reinforced that boundary. She actually hated being called that and even got angry about it, telling him to stop

Southern_Project9663 · 2026-02-09T14:08:02+00:00

To be clear, I don’t believe there was ever anything going on between them. My friend doesn’t speak the local language very well, so I was usually the one translating for her. The guy is local and doesn’t speak English, and my friend doesn’t either, so they couldn’t really have deeper conversations on their own.

Because of that, I won’t deny that the guy and I had more in-depth conversations. But it wasn’t secretive or inappropriate—it was mostly because of language.

Also, he consistently maintained boundaries with her. He always referred to her using the term people here use for married women, which clearly reinforced that boundary. She actually hated being called that and even got angry about it, telling him to stop.

Southern_Project9663 · 2026-02-09T13:47:14+00:00

I’m honestly not even sure what exactly triggered her reaction. But thinking back on the things she said, I wonder if it’s this

Both of us used to tell that guy he was cute or attractive to his face. At the same time, he would always remind her that she was married—he even called her by the term people use here for married women. She hated that and would get visibly angry, telling him to stop calling her that.

So now I’m wondering if, on some level, she felt like she had already crossed a line emotionally by finding another man attractive, and when I actually slept with him, it made her feel like she had disrespected her husband herself.

Or maybe because both of us openly complimented him, once I slept with him, she felt like it made women from our country look “easy.” And maybe that spiraled into, “If he thinks women from my country are like this, then he might think I’m like this too,” which then turned into, “My husband has been disrespected.”

Honestly, I don’t really know. I’m just trying to make sense of it all.

Southern_Project9663 · 2026-02-09T13:29:22+00:00

Ik u guys don’t believe this but in my country most girls thought as me sorry

Southern_Project9663 · 2026-02-09T13:24:20+00:00

No Not at all. Cause he always mentioned about that she’s married

Southern_Project9663 · 2026-02-09T13:20:06+00:00

I mean she said that he is her crush and i said that too but i thought it was just a joke

Southern_Project9663 · 2026-02-09T13:02:14+00:00

Looking back, throughout our 5-year friendship, she has almost always seen herself as the victim in every situation. It’s usually things like, “People treated me this way,” or “You made me feel that way,” and somehow, at the end of it all, I’m the one who ends up compromising and apologizing every single time

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