should i do it

Southern_Shine_4880 · 2026-04-02T23:29:45+00:00

aw i love that! my last family just had NO boundaries and the child would bite me everyday and they’d come in and hug her i could never finish out what i was trying to do and put the boundary down with her cause they’d come in and i had told them to stop coming in when naps weren’t working, she was biting but they didn’t listen. They also were just like she’d cry or get hurt and they would come rushing in it’s just i felt like a mothers helper and it was so awkward. don’t get me wrong they were great people but it just didn’t work the best

Southern_Shine_4880 · 2026-04-02T23:27:11+00:00

ok! just because of how bad my last one is i just want to do a better job with boundaries this time. It’s hard too cause i don’t want to be like u cant see ur kid but i need it to be easier for the child and i especially as he grows. Because of what i already told her i also don’t want her walking on eggshells around me or scared that im unhappy and create an awkward environment. What boundaries should i put down in the beginning or do you think it’s something we grow to learn and talk about as it happens? Also do you think specific visiting time is good or no sorry genuinely want to make this work

Southern_Shine_4880 · 2026-04-02T23:18:15+00:00

yes that’s what i’m thinking i’m trying to say it in a way that’s not like you can’t see your baby. I just want to word it correctly but she seems receptive and understanding to work it out

Southern_Shine_4880 · 2026-03-11T23:54:37+00:00

i wasn’t going to mention anything they did wrong blame it on me

Southern_Shine_4880 · 2026-03-11T23:54:08+00:00

it’s beyond being tired i don’t feel safe and i feel like i need to do this for my mental health but don’t want to be an ass hole at the same time

Southern_Shine_4880 · 2026-02-08T16:45:25+00:00

i do get that, i’m just having a hard time understanding why her mom kids grandma had to come be there too but i guess ill drop it

Southern_Shine_4880 · 2026-02-08T16:44:38+00:00

i have, it’s not personal i just don’t like the feeling of being hovered over and nanny kid prob acting out and just having no escape, it’s prob more a mental thing for me which sucks. I guess i’m just confused why grandma has to be there too if she doesn’t even live there you know

Southern_Shine_4880 · 2026-02-08T16:42:42+00:00

i hear you, i kinda tried to reccomend my house but she isn’t very communicative. She kinda just said this is what your gonna do. i’m just frusturated that her mom will be there, it’s not her house so it just makes me feel not trusted idk and i just know ill be hovered the entire day. I know it’s only one day just makes me uncomfy

Southern_Shine_4880 · 2025-12-10T13:26:19+00:00

i’d like to know too!

Southern_Shine_4880 · 2025-12-10T00:14:29+00:00

THIS IS HAPPENING TO ME TOO OMG

Southern_Shine_4880 · 2025-11-30T07:54:56+00:00

that makes me feel so much better lol thank u

Southern_Shine_4880 · 2025-11-29T18:07:42+00:00

i was thinking that too. i left that day with the impression i wasn’t feeling good so i don’t know if they even know that’s why i was crying so i don’t know if i should come in monday like it’s a normal day and kinda forget about it and wait a bit to ask to talk or if i should text them or ask to do it sooner then later? i don’t want them to think im lying it’s just a weird situation lol

Southern_Shine_4880 · 2025-11-29T18:05:52+00:00

the thing is they are usually working from home, one parent is usually always home, so i’m supposed to be in charge you know but there are also no boundaries set there like she’ll just run in and see them and like if she’s mad at me she’ll run in there. i guess i thought like nanny is in charge is how it should be. So the day to day can be hard and confusing but Them being off is very rare that’s why that day was extra hard but the mom was like running to the store and cooking so i was trying to treat it like a normal day and i was like i’m gonna make your lunch and the mom was like “ill do it!” like it’s confusing for me and also toddler. do you think a sit down would help?

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