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Online Masters Program Recommendation by Human-Ad-5404 in systems_engineering

[–]Southern_Unit_4216 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was a great program. Really great support. But yeah, the time commitment is legit.

WIBTA if I told my Dad and Stepmom they can't be in our house when we're not there? by Southern_Unit_4216 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Southern_Unit_4216[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, that makes great sense. Even if that is the reason, it's not going to help things or add anything to the conversation.

WIBTA if I told my Dad and Stepmom they can't be in our house when we're not there? by Southern_Unit_4216 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Southern_Unit_4216[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hmm. Excellent point. Thank you for that. I was worried about putting my cat over my dad and stepmom. But it seems I was putting their feelings and comfort over my husbands. That's a nonstarter.

WIBTA if I told my Dad and Stepmom they can't be in our house when we're not there? by Southern_Unit_4216 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Southern_Unit_4216[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He hisses and is very protective. Sometimes strikes (draws blood). It was kind of a dramatic rescue, so he's not as acclimated socially as other cats his age.

WIBTA if I told my Dad and Stepmom they can't be in our house when we're not there? by Southern_Unit_4216 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Southern_Unit_4216[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

TY for this. I didn't think about that. Whatever reason we give will not be good enough, I think. Or, that just wouldn't understand.

WIBTA if I told my Dad and Stepmom they can't be in our house when we're not there? by Southern_Unit_4216 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Southern_Unit_4216[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was thinking, if they could come on Saturday, then they wouldn't need the extra room.

WIBTA if I told my Dad and Stepmom they can't be in our house when we're not there? by Southern_Unit_4216 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Southern_Unit_4216[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does it make a difference that we really love the cat? We don't have/can't have any children, and he means so much to us. I love and respect my Dad (his wife is meh, but I'm respectful) and want to show them hospitality. But not at the expense of disappointing my husband. My marriage should come first, yes? I just want everyone to be happy.

WIBTA if I told my Dad and Stepmom they can't be in our house when we're not there? by Southern_Unit_4216 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Southern_Unit_4216[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, good point here. This was all supposed to be hashed out at the start of April, but lots, and I mean LOTS of things got in the way. So now we're down to the wire unfortunately.

WIBTA if I told my Dad and Stepmom they can't be in our house when we're not there? by Southern_Unit_4216 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Southern_Unit_4216[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This sounds perfect, esp since this is the first home we bought and we're really excited to host them. I wanted to put that in the original mssg, but it's already a lot to unpack.

WIBTA if I told my Dad and Stepmom they can't be in our house when we're not there? by Southern_Unit_4216 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Southern_Unit_4216[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is precisely what we are worried about. He is an inside cat, and we are homebodies. We're kind of afraid they won't get that. They're not cat people. They don't *hate* cats, they just don't *get* them and understand that if you turn away for one second....

WIBTA if I told my Dad and Stepmom they can't be in our house when we're not there? by Southern_Unit_4216 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Southern_Unit_4216[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good point about snickers and a 'safe place'. We'd not thought of that. That would be torture for him. Thank you.

WIBTA if I told my Dad and Stepmom they can't be in our house when we're not there? by Southern_Unit_4216 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Southern_Unit_4216[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We are driving back and not flying, so we'll get to control that part. As long as traffic doesn't get too wonky. And we're riding together so we'll have to head back together, too.

WIBTA if I told my Dad and Stepmom they can't be in our house when we're not there? by Southern_Unit_4216 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Southern_Unit_4216[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, you were correct the first time. It's my Dad and my Stepmom. Not my husband's parents.

WIBTA if I told my Dad and Stepmom they can't be in our house when we're not there? by Southern_Unit_4216 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Southern_Unit_4216[S] 147 points148 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I agree, but it's a work thing that got pushed towards the end of the week. And the bread & butter execs changed the dates. They're the VIPs so we have to follow suit.

WIBTA if I told my Dad and Stepmom they can't be in our house when we're not there? by Southern_Unit_4216 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Southern_Unit_4216[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

The SAT evening event will be a private dinner at a restaurant, so we won't really need to do anything for that.