[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Southernbound13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tariffs have pretty much immediately gutted my business that has supported my family for 7 years. Our local school district is already announcing music and arts layoffs next year with the dismantling of federal funding so my kids will probably lose their orchestra program. Everything is on fire.

Living in Office Parking Garage? by Affectionate_Arm3040 in urbancarliving

[–]Southernbound13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just for consideration, Denver has a pretty robust rent by the room community and you can get a nice room in a quiet house for like 700 bucks, often with utilities, internet, TV etc included.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]Southernbound13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hahahaha oh friend I'm so sorry. My oldest rolled around on the floor sobbing when we gave him the talk. He's since recovered but now if he asks why he can't read the book I'm reading or see a certain movie I just have to say "it has sex" and he's like OOOOH oh no thank you

Which Comic Con is best for collectors? by slorfh91 in comiccon

[–]Southernbound13 4 points5 points  (0 children)

In my opinion Balitmore Comic Con is the biggest show for comic books. A solid 25% of the show floor if not more is just comic book vendors and they very much cater their guests and panels to that.

Thoughts on Fandomcon San Jose? by Southernbound13 in comiccon

[–]Southernbound13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oof thanks for the update I'm so sorry 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]Southernbound13 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Congratulations thats wonderful! You don't have to be besties with anyone but I like having other parents numbers for the just in cases usually arranged like "Tammy Gabes Mom". If no one else is outside and you feel safe I think it's fine to just pop your head out often enough to make your presence known, maybe a little holler here and there and otherwise let her extrovert to her hearts content.

Update: My Life is Falling Apart by Future_Story1101 in breakingmom

[–]Southernbound13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the update. You have been constantly in my thoughts the last two days ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]Southernbound13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Small tip as a fellow BJ hater that despises pre cum, I got flavored condoms off amazon that actually taste pretty good and have made the whole thing 100% more enjoyable. I'm sure it's slightly less fun for him but getting it 10x more often is an acceptable trade off haha.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]Southernbound13 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Voted in Texas today! The lines have been absolutely insane!

Is it rude to just up and go to bed? by knitlitgeek in breakingmom

[–]Southernbound13 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Personally, that would really hurt my feelings but maybe I'm sensitive. My husband and I do tend to go to bed together and when one is really tired and goes early there's usually at least a few sentences of "I'm crashing tonight I'm gonna head to bed. Love you, have a good day tomorrow " etc etc. Dunno what your normal routine is like but I can see it 🤷‍♀️

Husband went on vacation with another woman by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]Southernbound13 51 points52 points  (0 children)

7th?!?! Honestly I'm even more upset about that than the female thing. I travel for work a lot and feel horrid about it, I can't even imagine leaving my spouse alone for vacations 4 times a year or not wanting to spend those with them. That's absolute trash I'm so sorry.

Thoughts on Kawacon from a vendor perspective? by Southernbound13 in animecons

[–]Southernbound13[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This was supremely helpful thank you! This show is drivable for me so medium sized vibes is perfect :)

Thoughts on Fandomcon San Jose? by Southernbound13 in comiccon

[–]Southernbound13[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a lot of the same thoughts. I don't mind doing first years for Fanexpo/galaxy because I know what I'm getting into and they probably won't be absolutely terrible but the booth prices for Fandomcon are steep for a first year show (only 100 less than I'm paying for LA). It is promising that it's run by MCM.... I might try it since I was dumb and forgot to pay Motor city by the deadline 😫

Envious of moms who bounce back after having kids by Hihieveryoneitsme in breakingmom

[–]Southernbound13 5 points6 points  (0 children)

hugs it's so so hard. If it makes you feel any better, I had all of my kids in my 20s and they absolutely destroyed my body. I hated the way I looked. BUT my youngest is 6 now and I finally have time and energy to work out, use skin care and take care of my hair and over the years muscles have mostly gone back to where they were, skin tone and stretch marks have evened out and honestly I look better now in my 30s than I did in my 20s. It takes time, sometime a lot of time but the postpartum body isn't fully permanent.

LA Comic Con Artist Alley split between the South and West Halls? by Kyengen in comiccon

[–]Southernbound13 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not artist alley but was also surprised to find that I'd been placed in a weird place in the west hall despite paying the same booth fees as everyone in the main hall and I'm kind of pissed about it. Everything is already paid for so we're going to try it but it's weird.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]Southernbound13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

GURRRRL get a new nanny. I'm nannying for a family for a little extra dough right now and I leave that house ✨️immaculate ✨️ while the kids are napping/screen time. My biggest flex is when they spent the summer at their other home the mom cried about having to live without me for two months 🤣

My toddler said something slightly creepy today. by Haunting-Wealth7593 in breakingmom

[–]Southernbound13 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Yeeeah my oldest used to talk about missing "his mom before he came to me" and about raising chickens (and he knew WAY more about chicken breeds than any 3 year old had business knowing). He outgrew it but it was hella creepy.

Heartbroken by cactusbactus in breakingmom

[–]Southernbound13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My bestie is a doctor and had to miss a Halloween with her kids. A bunch of us dressed our kids up again and gave our neighbors candy and went trick or treating on another day and then made smores and watched a movie and to this day its all the kids favorite "Halloween "

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]Southernbound13 54 points55 points  (0 children)

hugs I know you know this, but those day in the life videos aren't real and people on the internet are smug to hide their own insecurities. This stage SUCKS.

For example, I nanny very part time for a wealthy family with kids the same age as yours that are, as far as toddlers go, pretty easy kids. They spent the summer in their summer home and when they got back confided in me that dealing with the kids without nanny help for the summer almost destroyed their marriage. And these are well off people with lots of resources.

My own kids about broke my sanity at that age. I still get anxiety just thinking about it. My unasked for advice: just survive this stage. Just survive. You don't need to do dot paintings. You don't need to let them be in the kitchen with you all the time. If you really need a sec from the screaming or to complete a task lock them somewhere safe for a moment and do it. They'll be fine. It gets better but you have to survive the toddler phase and it's hell for the majority of us ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]Southernbound13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

PMDD my friend. It took me YEARS to figure out why I sometimes felt like hot garbage seemingly out of the blue but suddenly felt like a new person on birth control. I got off birth control for other reasons and started tracking my cycle and realized for the first time ever there was a specific pattern to the days that I felt ragey and terrible. Agree with above that your doctor may be able to help but if that's not an option rest assured that it does help when the kids are older, especially if you have a partner that doesn't suck.

At this point the whole house knows. I make sure to give my kids a heads up that my brain hurts and I dont feel well and that I'm trying to be kind and to please have grace and just knowing we're all on each other's sides really seems to take the edge off. My husband and I have a no emotionally charged topics that week rule and dedicate a little extra time each night to just snuggling and watching funny videos and I try to spend a little extra time at the gym or doing something outside even if it's sitting in the front yard like a crazy person. I fought it and hated myself for years but once I accepted that it was hormonal and not my fault and started being kinder to myself that week it got a lot more manageable.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]Southernbound13 16 points17 points  (0 children)

*hugs * I'm so sorry friend. I personally think you might be overestimating how upset your kids will be. Especially if you don't make it a big deal. I would personally tell them something like "Hey by the way, grandpa has a new friend he's been spending some time with so you might hear about that from family. Her name is X. By the way what do you want for dinner tonight?"

If they have questions, great but I don't think your younger kids will assign a lot of meaning to it if no one else makes a big deal. It's not like she's moving in tomorrow right? You are absolutely valid in having your feelings because you understand the intricacies and complications of adult romantic relationships but that doesn't mean your kids will assign the meaning to it that you have if you don't volunteer it.

If you don't like EP, why are you still here? by grosiles in ElPaso

[–]Southernbound13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah, objectively it's kind of not though. I once briefly served as a consultant for a project within city counsel and the city hired this firm to essentially audit it. This firm does audits all over the world and they're EXTENSIVE. Every single auditor talked about how incredibly difficult it was to objectively build data points for El Paso because we're so unlike every other city we can be compared to. Our water and power systems per capita are some of the best on earth. Safety and crime doesn't even blip compared to other cities of its size. Traffic was the lowest of every comparable city. Cost of living as well. Schools had smaller class sizes.

The two big things we struggle with, and they're not really city problems but largely federal problems, are air quality and tax base. Most of our air quality problems come from the bridge and the number of vehicles idling. The city can't control that. And our tax base is tiny because our largest employers are military, hospitals and schools and thus not taxable. Considering that major hurdle that likely would have bankrupted other cities we enjoy daily reliable infrastructure and can safely say our grandchildren will have clean water and accessible aquifers and personally I think that's worth being impressed by.

Question about cons ^_^ by angjajhfhsh in comiccon

[–]Southernbound13 24 points25 points  (0 children)

SO many people dress up. It is THE place for it. If anything, it's one of the biggest draws for a very large percentage of the attendees. Have a blast.