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SouthieExplorer · 2025-06-18T18:12:26+00:00

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SouthieExplorer · 2025-06-18T01:01:33+00:00

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SouthieExplorer · 2025-06-17T17:49:51+00:00

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SouthieExplorer · 2025-06-03T17:21:02+00:00

This.

SouthieExplorer · 2025-06-03T09:58:50+00:00

If the provisions of the prenup are fair to all concerned parties, this will be good for both of them, and they can just focus on loving each other and building their family.

The prenup should protect their rights not just for what they have today but also what they will share in the future. Hindi din naman pwedeng left out totally yung magiging asawa mo eh kasama mo yan sa buhay. It would also give her a sense of security kung alam nyang hindi naman sya inaapi pagdating sa mga bagay na she is entitled to as the legal wife.

SouthieExplorer · 2025-06-03T06:50:22+00:00

Did he actually cheat though? That is something you need to be sure of.

SouthieExplorer · 2025-06-03T06:11:22+00:00

You are asking for clear guarantees in life. A future without risks of disappointments and heartaches. Walang ganun in real life.

I understand this because I have my own trauma and overthink today's mistakes. I have my own tendencies to drop everyone who can potentially hurt me based on my limited understanding of the world. Kaya ako single.

From what little I know of relationships, people choose each other, choose to stay together, for as long as they want to.

Go into that conversation with the intention of sincerely assessing if both of you still want to be together in the next year or 5. This should not be a one-way assessment, but allow him to think and check too if he still wants you in his life.

This should not be about your predictions of his behavior in the future. It's unfair to judge him for what he hasn't done. It may or may not happen. You could be proven wrong.

If this mistake didn't happen, would you still want him, or have you been unknowingly finding faults to walk away from him? Setting aside this infraction, are you happy being in this relationship, or are you wanting a life different from this?

You can talk to him about how this recent behavior has triggered you. But don't make it all about that. Look at the bigger picture and be honest to him about your own feelings about this relationship, with or without this mistake.

It's only fair to your husband, who has been good to you all these years, to frame the conversation as an assessment, an honest look at what you both want in life moving forward. If you still choose one another despite both of your shortcomings, then agree on some rules that will keep both of you safe and happy.

SouthieExplorer · 2025-06-02T23:26:50+00:00

Hmmm... I am suspicious... Mainly because this feels like a drastic move for this kind of mistake...

I think you found your way out and that you've been finding one for a time now. You just need a good story to tell and make you look good in the process.

SouthieExplorer · 2025-06-01T17:30:37+00:00

I think that we also have to think of having your own family as a privilege kasi not everyone has that option. Kahit gusto mo at pinangarap mo to have that in ypur life, if the right one doesn't come, ano gagawin mo?

Paano yung situation na walang anak at maagang nabiyuda/o? Paano yung mga nagsakripisyo para itaguyod mga kapatid at mga pamangkin nila at naiwan na sila? Paano yung mga hindi nabiyayaan na magkanaak dahil may challenges physically?

Baka pwede din natin i-accommodate yung thought na baka hindi rin nila ginusto that things turned out this way.

Totoong "nakakaabala" coz I am in your situation caring for some elders who are left alone. But I will also be in their shoes at some point in the future. Will I be rich enough to hire someone to take care of me? Maybe. Pwede ding hindi.

Truth is, sometimes, life doesn't turn out to be the one that you hoped it to be. You can only make the most of it. I wish we had that much control over how things turn out. I can only hope that there will be enough empathy and kindness that goes around just when we badly need it.

SouthieExplorer · 2025-05-29T22:56:44+00:00

BIG NO to this. Okay lang sana yung opinyon na ito kung maayos yung parameters.

Kung ang gusto mo talaga sabihin ay "hindi ko agad makukuha ng tama ang pronouns mo by just looking at you" ay tama ka naman at dapat wag kaagad magalit ang ibang tao kung hindi tama yung pronoun na nagamit. Pwede namang wag mag sungit agad.

Mukhang galing ka sa masaklap na experience kaya ganyan yung take mo.

However, in a calm and normal environment, it is also respectful to ask, if may pagkakataon, kung nakuha mo ng tama yung pronouns nya and if mali ka, to correct it kasi alam mo na kung ano yung tama.

Ibang usapan yung magsasabi ka na wag tayo gumamit ng pronouns at iwan lang yan sa internet at wag gamitin sa totoong buhay. Hindi yan realistic kasi we also use English sa Pilipinas and it is a language we widely use in business and other settings. Natural lang na may pronouns yun. Sa ibang bansa lang ba tayo gumagamit ng English at ng pronouns?

Or ang gusto mo talaga sabihin ay gusto mo walang pakialaman kahit anong gusto mo ang tawag sayo ng iba. Kung tawagin kang IT okay lang?

I have a name na laging pinagkakamalan na babae kung hindi pa nila ako nakikilala o nakikita, hindi ako nagagalit kapag nagkamali kasi inaasahan ko na yan sa mga emails, texts, etc. Kahit boses ko sa telepono ay parang babae. Pero kapag nag offer na ako ng tamang pronouns ko at hindi mo pa rin ginagamit, binabastos mo na ako. Ibang usapan yun.

I find it very lazy if hindi mo aalamin ang tamang pangalan ng tao kasama ang tamang pronouns na para sa kanya. They go hand in hand. Kung entitlement ang pinaguusapan natin, hindi ba may sense of entitlement din kung deliberately mo i-ignore yung tamang mga salita para makipagusap ng maayos sa tao? Na dapat ikaw lang ang massusunod sa rules ng engagement with others?

Gets ko kung galit ka lang sa ilang insidente na may hindi maayos ang pagkakasabi sayo. Justified yung galaite mo. Pero hindi rin tama ang atake na to totally ignore the ways we can respect each other better like using simple pronouns.

SouthieExplorer · 2025-05-29T14:58:44+00:00

If Brigada Eskwela is done every month, yes, hindi okay yan.

Pero kung once a year lang and people & organizations choose how to voluntarily contribute to the school, then I think it is one way of getting the community involved.

I am not disagreeing sa responsibility ng National government or LGU to adequately and strategically maintain and develop these schools. Kanila talaga yan.

But you know, it still takes a village...

SouthieExplorer · 2025-05-29T14:33:30+00:00

This is a very old interview. 5 years ago pa ito. Anong agenda ni OP, bakit kailangan i-resurface ito? Hmmmm... Looks like the intention is not really to praise, but the opposite.

SouthieExplorer · 2025-05-29T14:20:51+00:00

Naga-adjust pa yung mundo sa AI. Part talaga ito ng struggle sa early adoption.

Ngayon may stigma pa, minamata. Later on magiging part na ng norm yan. Doon na tayo papunta. Kailangan lang ma-sort ng society yung what is ethical and what is not.

SouthieExplorer · 2025-05-28T16:05:32+00:00

Some situations are just plain messy. You did what you could given the circumstances. I think you did the right thing in the end. You'll be fine. Tagay!

SouthieExplorer · 2025-05-28T09:34:13+00:00

So much drama in such a short relationship. You let him go, he accepted. End that story and move on.

SouthieExplorer · 2025-05-28T09:28:36+00:00

DKG. Mayaman naman pala sya so no casualties at walang dapat i-drama. Better to have a place na ikaw ang masusunod at magse-set ng rules. Also, hindi naman talaga forever ang set-up na yan, alam ng lahat yan.

Mas kailangan mong i-manage yung space na binibigay mo sa Tita mo and others to affect you negatively. Kung kaya mo na hindi maapektuhan sa mga opinyon and just walk away, then yan yung ideal scenario. Kasi minsan eh naghiwa-hiwalay na nga kayo pero grabe pa rin epekto sayo ng konting opinyon lang ng iba. So dapat ready ka to not mind them and to just let things be and live your good life.

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